In Rio – Brazil 2012

Inspiration and creativity comes from a being that is rested.

A creative entrepreneur- a self-starter with awesome ideas, unafraid to take risks, always willing to try, not seeing life as a destination but a journey. I’m taking a 30 day challenge to walk everywhere and take public transportation. This is not always easy in Los Angeles, but I started on May 1. I’ve survived so far. As I was walking back home today, I thought about how far I’ve come in my entrepreneuerial journey. Being an entrepreneur is about embracing every area of life, the shitty and the mundane and the awesome. I’ve struggled to embrace the mundane. I’ve backpacked in the jungles of Ecuador and roamed Australia for a month, I’ve climbed unknown mountains and conquered hardships, sometimes having no clients, no income, no direction… But I realized that faith is all about embracing the vision and the promise even when life seems a stand still. Maybe all of your friends have moved on with their life, they’re successful, they have retirement, they just got engaged, maybe they’re popping out kids….and you…well, maybe you haven’t even had your FIRST job and you’re 25, or 30, or you just got out of school, or you’ve been working part time while trying to start up your non-existent project. Being an entrepreneur is all about embracing the grace-filled moments when you feel like you should be A LOT more advanced by now….considering your age, your family, your… When I first quit my job in 2011 and backpacked in Australia well, considering people around you. And guess what, sometimes it just takes 6 months, a year, 2 years, 3 years to build the inner stamina for the life ahead of you. People judge you because nothing seems to be happening outwardly, but in your heart, god, you are growing into a superhero, spiderman, superman, superwoman, cat woman, or whatever alter ego you have within you. I think I’m actually a kick ass ninja with a sword and latex black cat outfit. I chop enemies to pieces and meditate in a lake side resort…well, maybe not in a latex outfit but in a bikini. Life has been pretty deep, pretty amazing. Not in the outward sense of things, but in my heart. And I think I’m finally starting to embrace the hippie lifestyle of not having a stable lifestyle, it’s been 4 years, I should be used to it by now…I live out of a duffle bag and travel where the spirit leads. Pretty insane for an Asian right? Cairns, Australia So what do you do when nothing seems to be happening? 1. Ask yourself “what is it that I need to learn now?” 2. How can I rest well now in essential preparation for the next season of my life? 3. How can I love myself and others well now? 4. Give yourself space to literally do nothing and be okay with resting in it. 5. Look back on your life and remember how exciting how life has always been.

Above-I taught music to these kiddos in rural Hunan 2010. Some pictures above of the untouched nature.

When I graduated from college, i wanted to move to Asia to work. However after my volunteer trip in Hunan, China I realized I didn’t really like the thought of living in China. Then I went back to Taiwan and I was reminded that the only reason I wanted to leave Los Angeles was because I was trying to escape my family. Growing up in a single mom home I often felt like a father. I know it sounds crazy, but as the more assertive and aggressive, driven personality, I felt the burden to provide or to be the good daughter.

That was 5 years ago. I’ve traveled all over the world since, 2 weeks, sometimes 3-4 months. I’ve also freed myself from that horrible perspective I’ve had that is so rampant in Asian culture. I believe that we are all worthy and loved. We must pursue our own destiny to be happy. It’s not our job to please our parents. If they loved you unconditionally, truly, they would want us to be happy.

Everyone has a different opinion about what it means to be happy and to live a life that will bring happiness.

Some think that money and stability will bring happiness. Some think a loving relationship with someone hot will bring happiness. I quit my full time job in 2011 because I knew my life was greater than sitting at a desk job. I pursued my artistic endeavors and eventually even got my real estate license. I thought that gosh if I could just sell a big house, I’d be able to travel more. I’m glad I never succeeded in the way I thought I would. I thrived in leasing but the one thing that I loved was connecting to and helping people.

I noticed that I was giving advice to my clients about their love lives or encouraging them when they had financial issues. I’d often tell them “you’ll get through this, there is a purpose for everything”.

When I was backpacking through Europe last year, I realized that I was happiest when I only had a bag but was connecting with people on a deep level. I realized that my travel stories are the richest things I’ve acquired in my lifetime.

We meet people so we can heal and be healed. Something someone says can change your life forever or bring revelation to heal the places of hurt or the stories of abandonment or rejection from your childhood.

Heres an important point, you think you’ll follow your dreams when you have enough financial security to do so? That will never happen. You’ll be too comfortable or tired by then. You must be so passionate about your dreams that you would risk everything for it. You must start now, whatever it takes.

For me I moved out of my apartment, sold every piece of furniture, minimized my wardrobe and became a minimalists. I realize that I only wear the same few shirts anyways. And when I get tired of them I trade them out.

I only live in furnished places, I’m a free spirit, I even find my car to be a bit of a hassle.

I am speaking at several womens conferences and would like to meet some strangers while I’m there. I’m thinking of going to Thailand to  help orphan or teach survivors of human trafficking. I’m still doing the coaching and acting, but recently I’ve also started singing/playing piano and drawing again!

Is it scary? Yes sometimes. Not knowing is one of our biggest fears, but I am being led by spirit and I know God takes care of me as a loving father would. My destiny is bigger than I can imagine and so is yours.

Recently I’ve come to the conclusion that communication is everything. So many of us are sitting in a puddle of hurt, unable to move, stuck on the ground. I believe communication helps us to live our dreams, love and receive love, become the change we seek to see in the world…plus much more. Communication is how we live in this world.

You see, I grew up in an Asian home where SILENCE was communication. My mom would simply not talk to me for days, never apologized and simply ignore the fact that she said some pretty hurtful things.

So basically, the elders were never wrong.

In certain cultures, age matters. In America, being young is awesome, but in Asia, being young means you know nothing…or the elders say.

I shut down my heart because I felt that my feelings didn’t matter. I felt ignored and felt that being strong meant not feeling or pretending that I was not hurt.

This is the worse kind….to not be able to express is like death for the soul and heart. 

You see, we have emotions for a reason. Our emotions help us navigate whether someone has crossed our boundaries (anger), whether we’ve lost something we’ve loved (sadness and grieve), whether we’re excited and thrilled because we are doing something we love or we are communing with our loved ones (happiness)…there’s others, shock (when someone crosses our boundaries), that’s where post-traumatic stress often comes from…trauma from childhood, etc.

I’ve gotten to a point of healing where I can detect my heart. That is why I often talk to people and see right through their BS and cover-ups…”WHAT’S WRONG?” I ask.

Often peoples’ faces are indicators of what’s wrong. Our society often encourages us to talk about “nothing”…I don’t want to hang out, I want to dig deep. We can say a bunch of random things about what’s going on and what crossed us, but to speak from our hearts…well, that’s another thing.

When’s the last time you spoke from your heart? When’s the last time you spoke about what really mattered to you? Not what you achieved or accomplished, you cleaned the house, fed the dog, went for a run…okay, but how’s your heart doing? Are you hurt that the guy never called you? Have you been grieving the lost of the last season of life? Are you scared that you’ll never find the right partner? Do you feel stuck because everyone else is traveling, but you are sitting at home not knowing what to do with your life?

It’s human to feel, actually it’s our feelings that ultimately tell us whether we are happy or not. 

Don’t we all just want to be happy?

So why do we cover up our true emotions with bullshit like what you ate for breakfast or a bunch of selfies that have nothing to do with how you truly feel.

It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to feel. It’s okay to feel discouraged.

That’s the beginning, acknowledging your true emotions so we can dig up the lie, the discouragement and dump it if it is not helping you.

I realized that I had certain preferences in my life. For example, I’m a healer and prophetess, I speak hope and dreams into people and help them live their dreams. However, that means I cannot be bombarded by random gossip and bullshit. I need a lot of time alone so I can process and clean my mind and spirit. I need to be in silence. I know my love language is touch and encouragement, gifts are 3rd. I don’t need mindless hangout time, actually I’d rather have one hour of intense communication than a whole day of interactions with human beings. I like to read and write, but I can dance and be social in bursts. Give me enough alone time and when I interact with you, I’ll be at my best. I’m methodical, logical, strategic. I think over everything, but in creativity, I go with the flow. I know my vision in life and make decisions based on it, however, I’m also instinctive and intuitive.

So how well do you know yourself and what you need?

Because when you figure out what kind of personality and preferences you have, you can better communicate those needs to your loved ones. Then there’s no mindless….omg I can’t stand that person….well, why not and are you communicating your boundaries and respecting your own?

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XOXO- BEX