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SCUBA SHOW TO FEATURE FILM FESTIVAL, COOKING DEMOS,
COMMUNITY ART AND MORE
The 28th Annual Scuba Show Returns to Inspire Outdoor Adventurists, Eco-Enthusiasts,and Aspiring and Experienced Divers Alike on June 6-7

(Long Beach, CA) – Designed to spark curiosity, inspiration and excitement, the 28th annual Scuba Show will feature a weekend filled with fun and discovery at Long Beach Convention Center on Saturday and Sunday, June 6-7, 2015.

Along with $34,000 in door prizes to be given away, the Scuba Show will showcase nearly 300 exhibitors and passionate diving experts representing unique dive locations from around the world. As with every year, Scuba Show exhibitors are looking forward to talking one-on-one with Southern Californians. The 2015 will also feature entertaining and educational workshops and seminars all weekend covering topics such as history, adventure, marine life, diving physiology, underwater film and photography, local dive spots, foreign travel and marine conservation.

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This is me walking in the abandoned streets of West Oakland in Norcal. The creepy creatures in the back remind me of the naysayers…all you have to do is walk by and ignore it.

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I’m back in Los Angeles and I have a few comments to make:
After speaking at the women’s conference in Sacramento I realized that not everyone wants to dream…perhaps like in The Alchemist, people are too afraid they’ll fail so it’s better to not act on their dreams at all.

Not everyone wants to change to improve their lives.
Not everyone wants to go through heartbreak to have the love of their lives.
Not everyone wants to do anything that it takes to achieve fulfillment in their hearts and lives…
Not everyone wants to sell off everything they have to travel the world.
Not everyone.

But that doesn’t matter, because what matters is who you want to be. I vow that I will never be like the 80 year old grandmas that never want to change…because the secret of dreams is that you must be willing to change constantly, to learn constantly, to know that there is always more…and not in the insatiable way, but in the playful, childlike wonder.

I struggled with the words that people spoke against me…as a freespirit, people will often try to control me, but fail epicly.

Here are a few secrets of dreams:

1. You must search diligently

2. You must be open to learning

3. You must forsake the opinions of others, even close friends

4. You must be willing to go out of your comfort zone, be broke, live on the streets, be homeless, couchsurf, or DO SIMPLY whatever it takes….because there is no driving factor if you are so comfortable in your life. Something must fuel you, the itch, the problem, the frustration must be so big that you have TO DO SOMETHING about it. 

5. Keep negative people away at all COST!

6. Keep healthy boundaries so you have energy to nurture your heart and dreams, destiny is in your hands.

XOXO BEX

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In Rio – Brazil 2012

Inspiration and creativity comes from a being that is rested.

A creative entrepreneur- a self-starter with awesome ideas, unafraid to take risks, always willing to try, not seeing life as a destination but a journey. I’m taking a 30 day challenge to walk everywhere and take public transportation. This is not always easy in Los Angeles, but I started on May 1. I’ve survived so far. As I was walking back home today, I thought about how far I’ve come in my entrepreneuerial journey. Being an entrepreneur is about embracing every area of life, the shitty and the mundane and the awesome. I’ve struggled to embrace the mundane. I’ve backpacked in the jungles of Ecuador and roamed Australia for a month, I’ve climbed unknown mountains and conquered hardships, sometimes having no clients, no income, no direction… But I realized that faith is all about embracing the vision and the promise even when life seems a stand still. Maybe all of your friends have moved on with their life, they’re successful, they have retirement, they just got engaged, maybe they’re popping out kids….and you…well, maybe you haven’t even had your FIRST job and you’re 25, or 30, or you just got out of school, or you’ve been working part time while trying to start up your non-existent project. Being an entrepreneur is all about embracing the grace-filled moments when you feel like you should be A LOT more advanced by now….considering your age, your family, your… When I first quit my job in 2011 and backpacked in Australia well, considering people around you. And guess what, sometimes it just takes 6 months, a year, 2 years, 3 years to build the inner stamina for the life ahead of you. People judge you because nothing seems to be happening outwardly, but in your heart, god, you are growing into a superhero, spiderman, superman, superwoman, cat woman, or whatever alter ego you have within you. I think I’m actually a kick ass ninja with a sword and latex black cat outfit. I chop enemies to pieces and meditate in a lake side resort…well, maybe not in a latex outfit but in a bikini. Life has been pretty deep, pretty amazing. Not in the outward sense of things, but in my heart. And I think I’m finally starting to embrace the hippie lifestyle of not having a stable lifestyle, it’s been 4 years, I should be used to it by now…I live out of a duffle bag and travel where the spirit leads. Pretty insane for an Asian right? Cairns, Australia So what do you do when nothing seems to be happening? 1. Ask yourself “what is it that I need to learn now?” 2. How can I rest well now in essential preparation for the next season of my life? 3. How can I love myself and others well now? 4. Give yourself space to literally do nothing and be okay with resting in it. 5. Look back on your life and remember how exciting how life has always been.

Above-I taught music to these kiddos in rural Hunan 2010. Some pictures above of the untouched nature.

When I graduated from college, i wanted to move to Asia to work. However after my volunteer trip in Hunan, China I realized I didn’t really like the thought of living in China. Then I went back to Taiwan and I was reminded that the only reason I wanted to leave Los Angeles was because I was trying to escape my family. Growing up in a single mom home I often felt like a father. I know it sounds crazy, but as the more assertive and aggressive, driven personality, I felt the burden to provide or to be the good daughter.

That was 5 years ago. I’ve traveled all over the world since, 2 weeks, sometimes 3-4 months. I’ve also freed myself from that horrible perspective I’ve had that is so rampant in Asian culture. I believe that we are all worthy and loved. We must pursue our own destiny to be happy. It’s not our job to please our parents. If they loved you unconditionally, truly, they would want us to be happy.

Everyone has a different opinion about what it means to be happy and to live a life that will bring happiness.

Some think that money and stability will bring happiness. Some think a loving relationship with someone hot will bring happiness. I quit my full time job in 2011 because I knew my life was greater than sitting at a desk job. I pursued my artistic endeavors and eventually even got my real estate license. I thought that gosh if I could just sell a big house, I’d be able to travel more. I’m glad I never succeeded in the way I thought I would. I thrived in leasing but the one thing that I loved was connecting to and helping people.

I noticed that I was giving advice to my clients about their love lives or encouraging them when they had financial issues. I’d often tell them “you’ll get through this, there is a purpose for everything”.

When I was backpacking through Europe last year, I realized that I was happiest when I only had a bag but was connecting with people on a deep level. I realized that my travel stories are the richest things I’ve acquired in my lifetime.

We meet people so we can heal and be healed. Something someone says can change your life forever or bring revelation to heal the places of hurt or the stories of abandonment or rejection from your childhood.

Heres an important point, you think you’ll follow your dreams when you have enough financial security to do so? That will never happen. You’ll be too comfortable or tired by then. You must be so passionate about your dreams that you would risk everything for it. You must start now, whatever it takes.

For me I moved out of my apartment, sold every piece of furniture, minimized my wardrobe and became a minimalists. I realize that I only wear the same few shirts anyways. And when I get tired of them I trade them out.

I only live in furnished places, I’m a free spirit, I even find my car to be a bit of a hassle.

I am speaking at several womens conferences and would like to meet some strangers while I’m there. I’m thinking of going to Thailand to  help orphan or teach survivors of human trafficking. I’m still doing the coaching and acting, but recently I’ve also started singing/playing piano and drawing again!

Is it scary? Yes sometimes. Not knowing is one of our biggest fears, but I am being led by spirit and I know God takes care of me as a loving father would. My destiny is bigger than I can imagine and so is yours.

Recently I’ve come to the conclusion that communication is everything. So many of us are sitting in a puddle of hurt, unable to move, stuck on the ground. I believe communication helps us to live our dreams, love and receive love, become the change we seek to see in the world…plus much more. Communication is how we live in this world.

You see, I grew up in an Asian home where SILENCE was communication. My mom would simply not talk to me for days, never apologized and simply ignore the fact that she said some pretty hurtful things.

So basically, the elders were never wrong.

In certain cultures, age matters. In America, being young is awesome, but in Asia, being young means you know nothing…or the elders say.

I shut down my heart because I felt that my feelings didn’t matter. I felt ignored and felt that being strong meant not feeling or pretending that I was not hurt.

This is the worse kind….to not be able to express is like death for the soul and heart. 

You see, we have emotions for a reason. Our emotions help us navigate whether someone has crossed our boundaries (anger), whether we’ve lost something we’ve loved (sadness and grieve), whether we’re excited and thrilled because we are doing something we love or we are communing with our loved ones (happiness)…there’s others, shock (when someone crosses our boundaries), that’s where post-traumatic stress often comes from…trauma from childhood, etc.

I’ve gotten to a point of healing where I can detect my heart. That is why I often talk to people and see right through their BS and cover-ups…”WHAT’S WRONG?” I ask.

Often peoples’ faces are indicators of what’s wrong. Our society often encourages us to talk about “nothing”…I don’t want to hang out, I want to dig deep. We can say a bunch of random things about what’s going on and what crossed us, but to speak from our hearts…well, that’s another thing.

When’s the last time you spoke from your heart? When’s the last time you spoke about what really mattered to you? Not what you achieved or accomplished, you cleaned the house, fed the dog, went for a run…okay, but how’s your heart doing? Are you hurt that the guy never called you? Have you been grieving the lost of the last season of life? Are you scared that you’ll never find the right partner? Do you feel stuck because everyone else is traveling, but you are sitting at home not knowing what to do with your life?

It’s human to feel, actually it’s our feelings that ultimately tell us whether we are happy or not. 

Don’t we all just want to be happy?

So why do we cover up our true emotions with bullshit like what you ate for breakfast or a bunch of selfies that have nothing to do with how you truly feel.

It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to feel. It’s okay to feel discouraged.

That’s the beginning, acknowledging your true emotions so we can dig up the lie, the discouragement and dump it if it is not helping you.

I realized that I had certain preferences in my life. For example, I’m a healer and prophetess, I speak hope and dreams into people and help them live their dreams. However, that means I cannot be bombarded by random gossip and bullshit. I need a lot of time alone so I can process and clean my mind and spirit. I need to be in silence. I know my love language is touch and encouragement, gifts are 3rd. I don’t need mindless hangout time, actually I’d rather have one hour of intense communication than a whole day of interactions with human beings. I like to read and write, but I can dance and be social in bursts. Give me enough alone time and when I interact with you, I’ll be at my best. I’m methodical, logical, strategic. I think over everything, but in creativity, I go with the flow. I know my vision in life and make decisions based on it, however, I’m also instinctive and intuitive.

So how well do you know yourself and what you need?

Because when you figure out what kind of personality and preferences you have, you can better communicate those needs to your loved ones. Then there’s no mindless….omg I can’t stand that person….well, why not and are you communicating your boundaries and respecting your own?

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XOXO- BEX

This is my friend Cicily, I googled “manbattical”, found her blog and ended up becoming friends with her through skype. This led to me staying at her house in Hawaii. My idea for my new book was birthed at her place and we are going to be international authors and speakers! Her passion is to help others be authentic, and to help divorced moms heal.

Most of us have dreams like owning a home, having a secure little family and maybe going to Bali for vacation.

What if you are dreaming too small? Most of us have small dreams because we’re only thinking about ourselves and our immediate circle of friends and family. When I was a kid, I wanted to buy my mom a house. That’s thinking too small.

When I started dreaming bigger, it was because I was thinking of OTHER PEOPLE. I was thinking about the world. I was thinking about the dying, the homeless, the hungry, the orphans, the fatherless, the divorced parents, I was thinking about the brokenhearted, the sick. 

That is when my dreams expanded to infinite possibilities.

Okay, you’re asking me “how?”

Don’t question the “how”, the “how” will be revealed when you need it. 

In fact I am in the season of life where I only select and choose opportunities based on the UMPH that I feel in my stomach and heart. I got to feel it. Why? It’s DESIRE, it’s PASSION. If you’re doing anything “bored”, you might as well not do it. What’s the point of living a boring life? Get it?

For example, I’m going to a conference in a few months and speaking in front of a large amount of people.

They want me to stay and sit for 8 hours listening to everyone…I’m sorry, I will leave if I get bored.

My time is not worth being bored. I did that in school, most of the time I was daydreaming…that’s why I’m living an awesome life now because I didn’t let my mind glaze over.

You don’t HAVE TO DO ANYTHING.

No one is putting a gun over your head and telling you “YOU BETTER LIVE A BORING LIFE OR ELSE DIE!” or “YOU BETTER do this so you can have retirement so you can go to Hawaii in a wheelchair”. 

The point is, think beyond yourself.

What moves you? What makes you cry? What do you have a passion for?

I’m moved by community, I’m moved by people helping each other. I cry when I see children with dreams but no financial means to access their dreams, I have a passion for empowering women…to know their worth and to live OUT LOUD. I love healing peoples’ hearts and seeing them activate their own desires, to pursue their dreams without hesitancies of “how”. How will come to you…don’t doubt it. Trust. 

Now, after thinking about what moves you, what gifts and talents do you have?

For me, I realize I love touching lives by telling stories of how I overcame challenges and deep wounds. I call it restoration. Now, since I’ve been given talents of writing, speaking, singing, dancing, etc…I can tell stories through my talents. I also want to direct films that moves people to action. This is better than a job title, this is a life calling. 

Now you have all that down? Imagine speaking in front of thousands, touching lives through your book, maybe creating a website so others can contribute, imagine the types of people you’ll start to meet. Incredible. Imagine the access, but not just for yourself, but for the world to be touched and changed for good. Dream on.

I’ve been inspired to write a lot more lately! It’s pretty awesome to be inspired.

I’d like to write a bit about relationships.

I see a lot of woman go through rejection because a guy has totally ghosted or disappeared into thin air. Remember….some wise advice from Bex:

1. Someone is unable to love you if he does not love himself. This has nothing to do with you. It’s not because you are not smart, pretty, charming enough, it’s because his heart is not capable, not big enough for the love you desire.

2. Okay, maybe it is you. Maybe you are the one with the closed heart and you’ve self-sabotaged love by purposely saying hurtful things to drive your partner away. Let love start from the inside. 

3. Healing starts from within. As I’ve accepted the unconditional love that comes from an infinite source, I’ve found that on earth, our relationships are reflective of our inner world. Some people are attracted to the light within, it doesn’t mean you have to be in a relationship with them…it just means they desire what you have within. 

4. Heal childhood wounds- We all carry father or mother wounds, even in subtle ways. Sometimes this carries over to our career and relationships. We don’t feel like we’re enough, good enough. We sabotage relationships because we saw that in our parents’ relationships….Listen to my soundcloud below!

We accept the love we think we deserve. Until you come to true awareness of your infinite worth and love….you will accept less than. 

My 8-10 minute speech about what I’ve accomplished in my career.

They told me I’d have to talk about this.

Dry.

Sounds boring to me.

If at the end of our lives, we simply had stories of how we got some award, attained some high level executive title or job description, had health insurance and retirement, published some books, recorded 10 albums, built a mountain of wealth, I don’t know, it sounds boring to me.

I’d like to tell a story about something that touched my heart. Maybe how I spent 2 weeks in Hawaii and became ohana with a friend I met online. How I met an old man at a bus stop and heard his story of how his father left at 14 years old. We shared a moment in the middle of nowhere, bus 22, in the waiting, we enjoyed the moment by capturing and sharing our deepest fears. In that moment, he released secrets he wouldn’t have to his best friends even. A 27 year old and a 60 year old.

Most of the world would think we’d have nothing in common.

The world is a jumbo, a melting pot of content, so is the web.

We can choose to judge based on achievements, or on who that person really is.

Because at the end of my life, I’d like my eulogy to be a story about someone who didn’t necessarily have an easy beginning, but learned to say that “in my weakness, I am made strong”.

In the last 2 years, I found myself striving to be independent, to prove that I could make it on my own. I didn’t need my family’s help, they didn’t support my dreams. But I’m coming to a season of my life where relying on others have been a sweet opening to my heart. So as I ask for help, I find that the person sitting across me opens their hearts to me, and in doing so….we are healing each other. 

I don’t believe in being perfect.

In fact I’ve followed my heart to the wrong places, to partners that abused and neglected my heart.

But it’s in the aftermath that you learn, you can’t learn from sitting in a box.

That’s why when I receive accusations from people that say I’m unqualified, that I’m offensive, judging everything I write, I know I’m doing something right.

I don’t coach people to be perfect, to get their shit together. I coach people to tell their stories.

With authenticity, truth….minus shame and guilt. 

There is no shame and guilt in being human. But stop running to a pool of poison and stop drinking from it. That’s why I don’t believe in shaming or telling people what not to do or what to do, I simply ask questions that guide them to their own truth. Most people know deep down what’s truth for them.

It’s not my job to control people, your job is to be happy and controlling people is not happiness.

My 8-10 minute speech would be about how I learned to let go and live in freedom. 

our society is obsessed with being right. I post something on facebook and people respond like Tigers ready to eat it’s prey.

Calm down, do you even know me in person?

People say I’m probably one of the most down to earth people. I don’t like drama.

However, that doesn’t stop me from posting, writing, being controversial. If I waited to be perfect, pleasing, I’d be in my house all day waiting for my zit to go away. If I waited until the world was kind enough, I’d live as a hermit on a mountain top.

So what’s one thing you’ve been scared to try because you’ve been waiting to be right?

Yesterday my friend kept seeing birds of paradise so I took a picture for her 🙂 this post is for you!