An an exerpt from How To Make Money Doing What You Love- get it today!! http://www.oronjo.com/live/next/?fi=95905

I have been in hawaii for almost 2 weeks, I’ll be leaving in 2 days and hollywood is where I’ll be going. Into a new season of rest and complete restoration. That is why I’m having an ebook sale for $15! Get it here- http://www.oronjo.com/live/next/?fi=95905

The number 15 in the Bible pictures rest, which comes after deliverance, represented by fourteen.

People have told me my ebook is like the alchemist for them, life changing. I was so honored to hear that since I literally wrote this to the point manual in my living room and burst out crying after.

My soul needed to share what I had learned in my years of entrepreneurship.

Get your ebook here!

http://www.oronjo.com/live/next/?fi=95905

Xoxo, Bex

me at Pearl Harbor, Honolulu

I look back on my life and can find thousands of hilarious moments. I was and am definitely weird. I tried to fit in two times in my life. The first was in middle school, then the second when I was in real estate. I thought I needed to have gap clothes in middle school and later in real estate, I thought I needed to wear uncomfortable suit dresses. We didn’t have much money growing up so I had handmade shirts.

Don’t get me wrong. I looked hot in my suit dress.

But I couldn’t move with the same tenacity as I usually do. I couldn’t jump in the air and randomly skip on the street because I’m happy. Yes, I actually do that.

I also had crushes on generic cool hot boys.

It was only last year that I realized “Seth green Types” are totally my type. I mean I’ve liked him ever since I watched rat race. Typical hot boys are boring to me, I can’t talk about philosophy and farting with them.

The point is it’s okay to be weird.

That’s what makes you special. If you thought you ever needed to fit in to succeed, think again! What makes you weird is what will make you stand out!

So here are a few weird things about me:

1. I ask guys if they’d be okay hearing me fart because to me, being able to fart in front of a potential partner is freedom to be myself.

2. I use my asian face as a guise. Like cops will stop me but if I put my black rimmed glasses and blazer on, say I just came from my office, they’ll think I’m a responsible asian american.

3. I can tear up the dance floor with moves I learned from youtube

4. I feel the freest when I have no security and have only a backpack trotting through jungles and oceans in foreign lands

Go figure, xoxo Bex

Did you get my book yet?

Www.rebekkalien.com/lovemoneywork

The life less traveled is usually one that is not paved, very few have ventured on it but most who walk on it end up unusually successful. These are people like Oprah, richard Branson to name two of my favorites. These are rule breakers, rebels, people who spoke up when everyone went silent.

I have never felt happier in my life. In the world’s eyes I really have nothing. I chose to sell all my furniture and be home-less. I’ve been in Hawaii for a week and I’ve never felt freer. I left a career that could have been profitable to pursue my hearts’ desire. I realize that if you can’t be happy in your heart, you can’t be period.

God has given me love and peace in all circumstances. I’ve tried to find my worth in worldly ideas of success, romantic love, attention from peers and family, the idea of stability in matrimony, man, stability, fame, the big break, approval from people, the life with a house by myself, the stuff, the car, the designer bags and more stuff….in the end I found that I found perfect love in spirit and God, in the now.

I feel full, alive, and I only have a backpack right now. I found that if I dwelled in love, nothing else mattered. That I have everything I need now. That as long as I didn’t allow fear to capture my mind, I’d live in unlimited possibilities.

When I was young, I knew I was different. I saw older folks and didn’t want the life they lived. I decided in my mind I’d be a fun adult. I wouldn’t be tired and boring all the time.

I wanted to laugh and experience really amazing things like traveling and riding elephants. I also thought that if I ever got married, I wouldn’t have a status quo relationship or even a wedding according to how everyone did it. Hipster wouldn’t even set it apart enough. I wouldn’t invite people I felt awkward with or had previous beef with. I wouldn’t invite 400 people just because my parents wanted to invite their friends. I’d live according to what i want.

Some have told me I do what I want because I didn’t grow up with my dad. I think they are correct. So everything has a gold lining.

As I breathe in Hawaii, I feel myself surrender totally to a spiritual love, totally letting go of ego. I’m becoming the type of relaxed hippie I’ve always admired, minus the substance they need to be totally hippie.

I have become one with the ocean….and life is more beautiful and less conventional than I could have ever imagined. So if anyone tells you that life is hard and has to be hard, tell them otherwise. If people say your industry is competitive and cutthroat, tell them that “you attract what you are”. If you’re free of ego, loving people come into your life. If you always see drama, dramatic people come into your life. It’s all about perspective.

Dreams do manifest into reality right in front of my eyes. Several months ago I googled manbattical in research for my year of sanctifying my heart and not getting into an exclusive relationship, I fell upon a blog. I emailed her and interviewed her for my YouTube show. She told me that I had a place to stay if I decided to visit Hawaii. Today I’m sitting in her house writing this post.

life can be awesome and adventurous if we allow our hearts and our desires to run passionate….. Without societal expectations of success and rules.

I’m happy and as I exude happiness, more happiness comes into my life.

There is no fear in love and this is MY happily ever after.

How about you?

I realize that fear restricts muscles. We often live our lives worrying about little things and somehow we survive, we are breathing and alive. The things we worry about are external, often there are more challenges to be fought.

one thing I’ve learned is that accepting and releasing is the best you can do.

Then choose to know that your circumstances don’t define your worth.

For example, if you’re in debt, you are not your debt, you are an amazing human of infinite possibility. If you just got dumped by a loved one, remember life is always an upgrade and there’s always better fish in the sea.

you were meant to be healed by that relationship. You learned from it. You grew from it.

If you auditioned for a part, and didn’t get it, they simply didn’t see your light and needed someone else’s light.

Your perfect part is on a timeline in history you don’t know just yet.

If you’ve been single for years, start loving yourself and people. Since you attract who you are, you’ll attract wholeness or lack. As you heal you’ll meet more people who are like you.

how do you live with courage everyday? For me I’ve been able to take risks because I know there’s a God who is looking out for me, always showing me beauty and abundance.

I don’t wait for everything to be perfect to be grateful, I’m grateful for the nice cashier, I’m grateful for my friends, I’m grateful for a warm shower and I’m grateful today for my friend who I’m staying with in hawaii.

What are you grateful for and how can you be courageous today?

On my trip to catalina island, I met kris Holden-Reid on top of a mountain. #tudors #lostgirl

Many times in life

we will find that our hearts are jaded, where did the passion go?

For life, where did the excitement go for the things you used to love doing?

You will find that the duties of life has blocked your vision of the life you wanted

when you were young and “naive”, they say

But that’s when you have to push your imagination….until you believe in your own

carry your own

Because your imaginations will manifest into reality before your eyes

If you don’t back down

I’m going to hawaii on Tuesday to rediscover my heart again. Though I’m a tastemaker, a thought leader, always seeking for a more passionate life, I need often to rediscover my heart.

After selling my furnitures, rewriting my life and allowing my true desires to lead, I can honestly say anything can happen. They say those who lose their life will find it.

May we waste our life for what really matters, to awaken the heart that keeps us alive.

I once had a “friend” tell me in one of the hardest time of my entrepreneurial life that “you chose to be self employed”.

When all I needed was someone to say “you can do this, I believe in you, remember who you are”. I didn’t need another judgement. Especially from a friend.

Recently Ive seen how cruel people can be. But I also know that this is all training ground for the calling of my life.

yes I chose to say yes to who I am.

To say yes to who you are is to know what works and doesn’t for yourself. Some people are okay working the 9 to 5 job, some are happy working part time of freelancing. Some people are created to create amazing works of art and books. Some are scientists. But nevertheless a passion in the heart is more than a choice, it haunts us.

A passion, a desire brings out the hunger of your soul. It overtakes your thoughts, ideas roaming every square feet of your every brain cell.

Can you tell someone “well you chose to be born a male or female”? No, none of us chose where we would be born or what family we were born into….or even to be born….yet deep down we were also wired for dreams that we didn’t choose to be haunted with. We were designed for visions we cannot now clearly understand.

Yet, we should listen clearly to our heart.

Because the more we ignore it, the more we become like mummy’s, walking like zombies, waiting for our death.

Let us listen. Let us act.

respect, power and love. This i pray you have.

Violently throw out old mindsets to make space for the new

I have been cleansing myself of things I had for ages or things that just didn’t reflect me anymore. Whether they’re clothes or things.

I realize there were many mindsets and things I needed to let go of-such as:

1. You can’t get everything you want- even though I knew this was a lie I subconsciously believed it. Actually, you CAN get everything you want, just not “how” and “when”. You can only relax into your greatest destiny, not through anxiety and stress. So when you catch yourself striving, breathe.

2. Clothes that represented the hardened hearted masculine self- as I welcome my feminity, I let go of faux leather and welcome the silk and pink.

3. Many Friends- as opposed to friends worth spending time with. It’s better to be alone than lonely in thought or worse, around people who bring you down.

4. This is good enough- the good enough has gotten me a lot of good enough, but not the best. So whether it’s things or food, or people, what’s the best option? Because you deserve it.

5. Disrespect- is not okay. Make a rule to not take bs.

Love xoxo bex

The quiet poem

is the silence of knowing

it needs no explanation

feigns no frailty 

answers no question

and only seeks to be

Those who ask too many questions

will get thrown aside

passion is not for the logical

passion feels with the heart

Your calling is too big for this place, too big for these people, you must run to the next level, feel the wind against your dreams

yelling into the deep blue

ive finally come

and it’s going to be okay. I let it all go.

If I told you my destiny would be bigger than oprahs.

Hello world. I’m turning 27 in a bit over a week. I’m very proud of myself because I’ve tried many things. I’ve managed to do everything I’ve set my mind to, but it’s just the beginning. All the seeds I’ve sown are still growing so you might not see it yet.

In my attempt to copy huffingtonpost and buzzfeed, here’s my recommendations for every young 27 and younger.

27 things you should do before you turn 27

1. Learn what love is- oh you can attend my love workshop 

Register by emailing me at rebekkalien@gmail.com

2. Cut the umbilical cord already- seriously how freaken long are you going to be a kid? Learn to fend for yourself, move out already. Nothing pushes you into your destiny more than living alone.

3. Learn to cook- for yourself. If you can cook good food, you’ll have a good life.

4. Travel- you’ll never regret traveling. Get a passport, backpack solo. It’ll change your life.

5. Write a bucket list – start checking it off

6. Accept yourself – the faster you learn that you are unique and awesome, the better your life will be. Stop comparing yourself, life is too short.

7. Accept that your journey looks different from others- who cares if you haven’t bought a house, married and had 8 kids yet? If you don’t want that, don’t beat yourself up. Stick to who you are.

8. Live alone- youll be able to face yourself and the you that’s deep and vulnerable. Once you can love yourself in the lonely times, you’ll be able to be with others.

9. Live with roommates- something about learning how to confront roommates about taking out the trash or cleaning the toilet makes you a more mature adult.

10. Say what you mean- stop playing games, say what’s on your mind, life is too fucking short.

11. Date- go on dates, find out what kind of man or woman you like.

12. Get help- get life coaching (www.rebekkalien.com/speaking-coaching), I am one.

13. Take care of your health- at this age no one is going to spoon feed you spinach. Learn to eat your fruits and veggies, plus lots of water.

14. Drink to relaxe, but stop killing your liver- you’re not a 21 year old anymore. Learn to process your stress and feelings verbally so you don’t have to binge-drink. Like I said, get help!

15. Take a personal retreat- best times of my life. I take at least 2 per year. Think you don’t have time or money for it? Maybe you don’t think you’re worthy enough to take one. Do it and your life will change.

16. Have 2-3 close friends- no you don’t need to be popular like in high school. 2-5 is really all you need, it’s important to build a network that will hold you up when you’re about to keel over.

17. Read- a real book. Learning should be life long, if you’re not learning you’re mentally dying.

18. Take yourself on dates- I love eating lobster by myself under the candlelight. Honestly I find that I treat myself way better than a lot of males treat women, until I find someone who really knows my worth, I’d rather commit to myself.

19. Learn to clean- an adult who can’t clean is like a sinking ship. Hygiene is so important. People get turned off by stinkiness.

20. Drop negative friends- there’s no time to waste, stop wasting your time with negative and immature people.

21. Have hobbies- an adult that only works is like another sinking ship. The more interested you are in life, the happier you’ll be. I’ve tried everything from flamenco dance to creative writing to improv comedy. Next week I’m doing burlesque dance!

22. Say no- learn how to set boundaries and to be in control of your decisions. You’re an adult, stop blaming people, you made the choice. Learn to say no. It won’t offend people!

23. Enjoy every moment- dude you have your whole life ahead of you, stop worrying about not having it all together. Who has it together? No one. Even if they do, they’re probably uninteresting.

24. Be real and be you- it’s okay to be. Learn to stop trying and to be expressive of who you are and how you feel.

25. Know what you want long term wise- I have seen so many 60 year olds that are living in the past. Please, know what you want and go for it. Especially men, a lot of you think you’re going to be hot and 30 forever, but pretty soon you’ll be bald and alone. So stop saying the woman has to look like Scarlett johansson when you don’t even look half like Hugh jackman.

26. Stop giving a fuck- about what people think.

27. Just do it- just love the life you want.