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5 Keys To Reaching Your Goals

On By Rebekka LienIn entrepreneur, travel4 Comments

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My  work position is lying on my couch with my legs over the arm of the couch.

1. Work backwards- 

Always work backwards. When I have an idea, I usually won’t follow through unless I give myself a set deadline, buy the flight ticket, set my intention into motion. I see the end result in my minds’ eye, I see myself in it…I guess it helps that I am an artist so imagining something is not difficult for me. I have always had a vivid imagination. When I was young, I often imagined myself jumping on things like a little mario character, I imagined I could fly. Well, due to gravity, that hasn’t happened yet, but I do often fly on planes and I love it!

It’s funny because after 3 years of trial and error, lots of shed tears, anxiety, stress at times and ups and downs, I’ve finally mastered the art of BYOB (being my own boss). There is definitely a personal formula….number 1 is to work backwards. 

For my last workshop, I designed the flier and set the date before I even found a venue. I put my dreams into motion by emailing sponsors to donate gift bag items, I had a number in mind and well, there weren’t as many people as I would have hoped, but I know they were the ones that were supposed to be there.

KEY: Don’t wait until you have perfected it, just do it and you’ll do it better next time.

2. Talk About It- 

Talk about it constantly, talk about it as if you ARE doing it. When people get excited for you, you will feel encouraged and start embodying your dreams and goals. Of course, don’t feed your dreams to pigs, some people just don’t appreciate a weird dreamer.

3. Fill In The Details-

Once you have the date, fill in the details….what do you need to do to get there? What needs to happen step by step? Write a list and start tackling them.

4. Research How Others Have Done It-

Anything you’ve ever wanted to do, someone else has already gone before you. Why try to brainstorm a million things when you can simply google and find #hacks which is super popular these days…from #lifehack to #workhack to #travelhack.

5. Treat Yourself Like You’ve Already Accomplished It – You really have to be a little psychotic to achieve your goals. For example a few months ago, well, actually ever since I had this wall decal of Paris on my wall, I’ve been antsy to travel again. I exit the United States once a year just to breathe a little and to expand my personal well-being.

I met this amazing author, writer of Remember The Future: How Steve Jobs Used Time Travel To Think Different. Under his inspiration of wanting to go to Italy to create a film in 2 months, I then was like WHAT THE FUCK am I doing in LA? I need to travel again!

I must have talked about the trip at least 3 times a day. My obsession became so ridiculous that I prayed “I want to go travel so bad that I know it will happen”. I’m scary when I’m obsessed. I’m really really scary. I go into google mode and pound that keyboard with tenacity. I can be on this thing for hours just googling my eyes away….well research and enough asking, I found a cheap one way.

So now that I’m at step 200, the pieces are slowly falling into place. In fact, because I was like- I’m going and I don’t care if I go with however much money, I will go and I will go. I will DO whatever it takes….and that my friends, that’s obsession. Alas, because of my obsession, soon after I made that statement, more income started coming my way in ways that I had not expected. I know that the universe is watching how I take care of myself, am I hard on myself or do I give myself a pat on the back? You see, you need to celebrate and treat yourself like you’ve already accomplished it….this allows a flow of positive and easy energy versus the energy of anxiety and striving. With ease, your goals can be reached. In fact, all things will rush to you to supply your every need.

That is why I want to start logging my hours for work….starting tomorrow. I want to show you how you can work A LOT less and maximize your time for HIGHER income. 

Oh and did I mention, I’m giving away a total of 10 FREE coaching sessions for anyone that LIKES my page and SHARES the free coaching flier with your facebook friends? 

Pre-Order Your Very Own Guide To Becoming Your Own Boss!

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HOW I QUIT MY JOB AND BECAME AN ENTREPRENEUR (Title to be confirmed) 

PRE-ORDER YOUR EBOOK BEFORE AUGUST 30, 2014 to receive a FREE GUIDE TO BECOMING AN ENTREPRENEUR!

EBOOK TO BE RELEASED- September 15, 2014 

100 and more pages of absolute HEART WRENCHING AND LAUGH INDUCING stories about how I quit my job and became an entrepreneur. From absolute broke to absolute abundant, Rebekka Lien tells it like it is.

  • From working at a desk 9 to 5 to playing cello and selling jewelry from a wine box
  • From building furnitures from left over half decapitated desks to building Rebekka’s empire
  • From cotton balls to finish her number 2 to becoming a manager at her real estate firm
  • From nerd with braces and curved glasses to beauty queen in her own fairy tale
  • From insecurity to confidence
  • From hustling to backpacking in Australia, Ecuador, Brazil, Asia, Europe……and all the adventures Rebekka gets herself into…
  • From coaching to speaking at events and appearing on TV
  • From sickness to teaching Yoga and Meditation

And how you can begin too, by pre-ordering and saying YES to your dreams, your FREE guide with step by step advice and strategies to monetize your business, skills and talents will be emailed to you with your ebook September 15. 

I’m giving away FREE COACHING SESSIONS TO help you achieve your dreams! Offer is very limited.

Schedule your session today! 

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Note: Donation link included as the proceeds will fund my next creative projects which will be produced in Europe. I have booked a flight to London September 24 and will be creating new projects to impact the world….SHHHHH don’t tell anyone, hopefully you subscribed to my blog so you can hear about my wonderful new adventures.

New 2014 Bucket List

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Join me This Saturday for an EPIC LIVE WORKSHOP on HOW You Can Make Money Doing What You Love.

2014 Bucket List 

1. Backpack more of Europe

2. Create a travel show, blog about travels

3. Sell everything I don’t need – I have already sold 3/4 of what I have

4. Publish my ebook or emanual- passive income

5. Get my scuba diving license

6. Listen to my heart

7. Get an acting agent and book a BIG BIG BIG international commercial

8. Be happy

9. Dance more

Even as an entrepreneur, people have expectations for you. You start to follow other entrepreneurs or speakers and think to yourself, “I have got to own an island like Richard Branson” and then I’ll feel like I’ve made it.

What’s in your heart? What aches? What truly makes you alive? Don’t copy others, create your best version of yourself. What makes you come alive?

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The Entrepreneurial Path

On By Rebekka LienIn business, entrepreneur2 Comments

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The entrepreneurial path is probably the most difficult path anyone will ever take…I mean, anyways, seems like it.

As I sit in my bed, feeling elated after teaching my yoga and meditation class, I feel a sense of contribution…that I have contributed something worthy to peoples’ lives.

My entrepreneurial path is like a roller coaster. Most people see the smiley faces, but they have no idea what I look like when I’m depressed, when I cry or when I’m just plain angry. Since life is unstable for most entrepreneurs, we often go from supremely happy to extremely depressed. These are personal faces I show to myself and to close friends around me. I’m human too though. In fact, being an entrepreneur has forced me to confront negative and limiting beliefs that was hindering my growth. You see, your mindset and beliefs about how life should be IS EVERYTHING.

Every SINGLE thing around you was CHOSEN by you. 

The clothes you wear, the people you choose to spend time with, the things you choose to buy, the furniture around you…the people you choose to associate yourself with, it’s ALL YOU baby.

Yep, and as I face this fact, I am slowly unraveling the consequences of my choices as well as letting go of the past so that I can move forward. In order to live a better life, you have to let go of your past life. Our minds are creatures of habit, we need to reinvent our thoughts so we can progress to a better thinking, which will lead to – hopefully what we envision. 

The entrepreneurial path is full of excitement, I have no set schedule, I determine my destiny…but it is also easy to get distracted by the plethora of unnecessary news flooding facebook and social media. Where is there one place I can be still and be? (Yoga/Meditation).

My hour of teaching has helped even myself set intentions and center my core.

My days are flooded with demands from work, training people, marketing, social media, bookkeeping, I do it all. I’m now at a place in life where I realize I must delegate so I have the energy to renew my strategies and at times, seriously, REST.

I feel a rush of various emotions I can’t really explain…I’ll have to write a poem:

Mondays are fundays, I laugh with comedic individuals and pretend to fly like a bird

Tuesdays I dive into work like a monkey frantic for acceptance and bananas

Wednesdays I pluck cello strings with students and run wild to networking events

Thursdays I hone into my to-do list and wash dishes on breaks

Fridays I convene with like minded individuals and cast lots to break a leg

Saturday I write poetry and newspaper articles, while making up readable blog posts

Sundays I attend 4 hours of acting class and watch myself cook dried chicken on the stove

Yah, so that’s my poem. Things are coming easier to me these days because I have determined that business will come easily to me. I am proud to say that I will be on an official interview podcast on July 7! Some people ask me how I get all these opportunities, I don’t get them honey, I look for and ask for them. 

But enough asking, I’ve sown my seeds, now I am welcoming all the harvest to hurry up and come forth. Now my sacrifice is to rest….interesting how resting is a sacrifice for me. I can’t help being a GET IT DONE kind of woman. 

I am a tiger, I get things done, that’s all I have got to say.

30 Things I Have Been Able To Do As An Entrepreneur

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1. Wear PJs to work

2. Walk into my living room or patio to work without brushing my hair or teeth

3. Enjoy the LA sunshine anytime of the day

4. Book a ticket to Australia with one month to plan

5. Volunteer in rural China

6. Work for a Premium jean company at Magic Tradeshow and experience cat fights

7. Be an extra in a weight loss infomercial

8. Be a Contestant on Let’s Make A Deal and touch Wayne Brady on the shoulders! WOOHOO!

9. Drive to Santa Monica beach on a weekday non-traffic hours, yay.

10. Take 2 weeks off to fly to Taiwan

11. Manage properties and meet sweet cleaning ladies and handyman

12. Sell stuff on Ebay

13. Take German class at local community college

14. Take Comedy Improv class on a monday night

15. Teach yoga and meditation on thursdays 

16. Take naps when I am tired

17. Learn to get rid of junk and live simply

18. Teach sewing and fashion design to adorable children on your schedule

19. Design unconventional fashion designs and show them at charity fashion shows

20. Teach mandarin to 72 year old man

21. Teach cello and piano

22. Tutor hyperactive boy that needs to be disciplined

23. Have lawn parties and pop up shops

24. Meet celebrities and entrepreneurs like me

25. Eat chips and yogurt for lunch, or a bomb rice, chicken and veggie plate because I can cook it at home

26. Take 10 minute lunch breaks or 5 hour lunch breaks

27. Be whoever, do whatever….whenever you like.

28. Wake up naturally at 7am or stay up until 3am and sleep until 11am.

29. Do lunges to the trashcan because no one is watching or drop in the office for 10 minutes because you want to save ink.

30. Have 3 business cards, one for your artistic side, one for real estate, and one for yoga and meditation.

Balance Is BS.

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Balance is BS.

Some people ask me how I do everything, from the real estate to writing to attending events to teaching yoga to running multiple businesses…

Number 1 question I get from people- “how do you balance everything?” 

You don’t.

You do one thing at a time. I am not sitting here on the phone, writing and watching TV at the same time. In fact, I don’t OWN a TV and neither do I own a NETFLIX account (anymore). Is it stressful not being able to de-stress by sitting on my ARSE and watch TV? No, I read and I de-stress by jacuzz-ing or running/doing yoga. I love movies and tv shows, don’t get me wrong…but when an obsession hits me, I’m working…

And most of the time, it does not feel like work. No one is telling me to rebrand my business, no one is telling me to go network or meet new people, it’s an inner drive.

Is there balance in the entrepreneurial life? 

No, you either work hard & MOST IMPORTANTLY, SMART, or you REST HARD and SMART! 

This leads me to the fact that most of what I do IS NOT WORK, it is an OBSESSION. The best blog posts or marketing materials I have ever created were from PURE HEAVENLY explosion of INSPIRATION. My mind is not going “OMG how can I get more clients…” – yes sometimes it works like that, but when OBSESSION hits, my thoughts are going a million miles…

My mind is more like “OMG I can do this, OMG I can do that, wow I never thought of that, that would be a really great business idea…woo I can learn from that business….wooo”

Is it logical? Not always, obsession is not always logical, it’s a bit of insanity in my brain sometimes.

That’s why I have learned to WORK SMART, instead of HARD.

Working smart means WORKING IN SPURTS…and then RESTING in SPURTS. 

We need to stop pretending that we are working hard, that stuff kills your energy. Can you imagine sitting there pretending to work while being distracted by a million social media posts? It drains you fast!

What if we all learned to GET STUFF done, inspired FAST, EXCELLENTLY, PRECISE, and then we can go to that happy hour you have been talking about for 10 years (and it’s just across the street but you always miss it because you were pretending to work hard). Perhaps then you can go on that vacation to Hawaii that you have been saving up vacation days for the last 20 years. JEEZ LOUIZ!

Pure Genius is learning to work less and get more stuff done.

Pure Genius is outsourcing work that would take you forever and make you less productive, efficient and money producing.

Pure Genius is learning to let go of work that drains you and focusing on work that INSPIRES and ENERGIZES YOU. 

Pure Genius is learning to shy away and say no to coworkers that keep distracting you from getting work done so that you can actually have “fully present” moments of talking with your coworkers or friends during your “breaks”.

Am I focused? Oh yes, I am SO FOCUSED my eyes are popping out. Will people continue to question me? Yes, they probably will. The deal is that people who don’t think as brilliantly and as fast as I do will NEVER understand me. Why should they?

Let me be a mystery, let it be.

People don’t understand you? It doesn’t really matter.

Focus with your eyes wide open on you, because you gotta do you, and they gotta do they.

At the end of the day, you are the one who has got to live with yourself.

So question answered, how do I balance everything? I don’t, I strategize my time so precisely that I am sharp, productive, and I get sh*t done. When I play, I play SMART, when I work, I work SMART. In fact, work becomes play sometimes and play becomes work….I network when I play, I come into brilliant discussions of possible collaborations when I am playing.

It can be exhausting at times, but then I learn to REST SMART. Korean spa anyone?

How do you strategize your time? Do you believe in balance?

Do What You Love & You’ll Never Have To Work A Day In Your Life

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Lying in bed, this question popped up “What am I doing with my life?”

Recently I had a realization that I was still striving for success, so that I could provide for my family, give my future kids a better life than I lived, and…well not have to “work” anymore.

We all strive for that don’t we? For future happiness. 

And we continue to live in discontentment and the what ifs, preparing for future disaster, but never looking life in the face. I remembered a 30 ish year old friend telling me that he wish he had started doing what he loved earlier, that he should have given up what he loathed to dive head first into his love, his dream. This day, he is living his dream despite the obstacles, rejections, failures…but he is reaching his dreams.

Even though I teach everyone around me to live their dreams, out of necessity, I felt myself slipping into “what do I need to do to get by, to make it”, I started following patterns that bored me and copying peoples’ tactics… I lost my creative heart.

When you lose your creative heart out of daily obligations and “necessities”, you lose your ability to create INSPIRED work out of a creative heart. A Creative Heart Derives from Love and Rest. 

The other night, I was on a floatie having a heart to heart, and it struck me so hard when he said “sometimes when things are not going the way you want it to, you have to let go and then you’ll start to do things the way you did them when you were really good at it… artists paint out of their love for painting and expression, versus the need to produce an artwork“.

I posted this on Facebook-

“I had an epiphany today….what am I doing with my life?

I know I seem very inspirational and I am doing a lot of different things to actualize my dream, but what if all I want to do is lounge at the beach, get a tan, play music and be a part time hippie? What’s so wrong with that?

And maybe I really don’t want to be Asian Oprah or travel the world or manage multiple businesses, maybe I just want to grab my backpack and disappear into the jungles and deserts of the Middle East and South America.

Maybe I have still been succumbing to society pressures to be someone I am not. I believe if you focus on what you love, your dreams will chase you versus you chasing the dream.

I started teaching yoga and meditation because I was doing yoga as a hobby and posted pictures online. I was also giving people advice on how to solve their problems and create boundaries. Someone who saw my pictures asked me to teach a class, and the rest is history. Someone else referred me to a dance studio and I took the opportunity and grabbed it by the horns. I created 1 session of 4 classes, printed fliers, walked around town dropping them off at cafes, created videos, facebook invites, meetups, now I am registering people for the next 2 sessions. Was it scary? Yes. Was I doubtful that anyone would even sign up? Yes. Was I scared that I would lose money? Yes. Everything that I was scared of I faced and slapped away. 

Another example of how something I naturally did turned into work was —I posted inspirational statuses on facebook and a newspaper editor asked me to compile those, NOW I write a monthly column.

If you do what you love, you will organically attract opportunities. That’s what life should and must be about.”

Life is not seeking opportunities outside of you, 

It is knowing that everything is within you, waiting to be manifested into reality. 

Seeing Work As A Conduit of Love

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Students learning “HOW TO START YOUR OWN BUSINESS”

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My funny picture and I teaching at Pasadena City College

As I drove past traffic on the LA highways, I thought about what the communal energy was. The energy was probably that of stress- “I have to get to work on time, I am stuck in traffic, I have to pay my bills, work sucks, etc”. What if we thought about our work as a conduit of love? What if we actually did what we love out of a pure energy of love…and we refused to compromise our values for money?

Recently, I started teaching yoga and meditation and spoke at 3 different events this month. I taught young teens how to start their own business and I was genuinely shocked by how easy teaching a big group of people was for me. I felt pure love and expansion in my heart for these mere strangers. I thought about how strange it was that even though I was not getting paid for it, my heart felt strong and powerful. I also noticed that as I teach out of pure love of wanting to help others, I have been receiving more monetarily and even getting more opportunities and promotions in life. As you give (through your work), you will receive tenfold! How much you earn is directly proportional to the value you provide to others.

That’s when I realized that pure love makes money flow with ease and grace. Money is not apart from love, actually money is one way in which we can love others and show them that they are worthy of their talents and skills. When our greed and selfishness for gain gets in the way, our relationships are also distorted. Business is crooked because we start to focus more on the money than on the people that we are doing business with. That is why you see very successful people with horrible relationships, but also people who are poor also have jaded values of what money means. Some people think that money is evil. No, it is the greed that is evil. When we place money above people, that is evil.

In my life, I have studied people, finance, spirituality, growth and everything I have ever been interested in. I sold jewelry, taught lessons, did real estate, wrote for newspapers and magazines, improv-ed, appeared on television, was a marketing manager, instructor, musician, artist, business woman..I danced a lot and took all kinds of classes (flamenco, acting, creative writing, german…to name a few).

My goal was to become successful, and I also wanted to help people. At one point, I found myself wanting money more than helping people. My greed got in the way of my heart. I became constricted and fearful that people were going to rip me off. As a previous freelancer I have had many people rip me off. I have designed and created fashion pieces only to have the woman never pay me. I have learned from my mistakes in my lifetime of playing music for weddings and people not pay me a cent (because well, aren’t we friends?). I have experienced injustice towards the young, people taking advantage of interns because they are supposedly inexperienced and are not worth the money.

However, when I lived in fear, I also noticed that business started to dwindle. Whatever energy you feed into, that will expand. What if we lived with an open heart to love and to serve, business will come easily and gracefully. And if it doesn’t? Many times you are being stripped away of all that is distorted and crooked in your heart. Or perhaps you are being the lesson of being, loving yourself first so you can love others.

In having experienced many things in my lifetime, I can say I am more in tune with how it feels to live in fear or love. When you live in fear of “people are going to jip me”, “I won’t have enough for bills this month”, “business stinks”, you will often feel physically constricted. Your neck will hurt, you will become sick, you will experience stomachaches, you will grow angry at the world and some people start to blame everyone around them instead of taking responsibility.

The fact is, you need to know whatever you want needs to be cultivated in your soul first. You must know that you are worthy. You must know that you deserve a certain amount, you must know that everything that needs and wants to be expressed in the external world first begins internally. You must have faith as well. You must keep trusting and believing when times gets tough and your dreams have not come into fruition. You must keep envisioning and believing when there’s no light at the end of the tunnel.

You must also know that the dream is not the end goal, but the journey is… The journey is, the people you walk near and past, the people you love on in that season of life. You experience an abundance of love when you see life as a spiritual path versus an end goal. Yesterday I experienced a flow of genuine love between a friend I have known for 10 years. I felt that our friendship had endured the test of time due to the fact that our friendship has been pure, without manipulation or this guilt tripping of “I give to you so you must give to me”. In giving out of unconditional love (with boundaries of course), we were able to walk through thick and thin.

Over the years, I have learned to forgive easily and to let go gracefully. There are friends you keep and there are friends you must let go of so you can walk towards greater heights.

Work is a conduit of our love. The world is interconnected in all regards. One person’s thoughts create the energy around them. Do you ever wonder why you walk into a room and feel sick to your stomach? Someone has tainted the room with their negativity. You can become an agent of change by remembering to live in love. What does that look like? Search and you will find, continue to read my blog of course 😉 and continue to read, learn, experience what love looks like. I’m here with you in this journey 🙂

Want peace and learn what I have been writing about?

Join us! http://www.meetup.com/manifestyoga/

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No Risk, No Reward

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For some reason, I think I have written about this already….but no risk, no reward.

In life, you have to try things. The faster you can try and fail, the better. You’ll become a tiger or maybe a lady hawk like me.

3 years ago, I started selling jewelry after watching Australian vendors sell feather earrings on the street. It sparked an idea in me to do the same. I was selling jewelry out of a wine box. 

I started from humble beginnings but I had a big dream to become like Donald Trump, Oprah, Tony Robbins, to be bigger than my circumstances. I envisioned myself as the most prominent women spokesperson in the world. I know, that’s a bit crazy to think about. It might have been crazy two years ago when I was crying and wondering how I would pay my bills. To be honest, bills never dissipate…bills will increase as your responsibilities increase. However, as an entrepreneur, you learn better and faster ways to make money. You find multiple streams of income based all on your dreams and visions.

A month ago, I was scared to try something I had been brewing in my mind for 4 months. I had previously taught yoga, but wanted to incorporate the life coaching aspect. I envisioned people getting healed emotionally and spiritually from their day to day stressful lives. One day, my mind was so obsessed over this idea that I just went “f#%@ it, I have to do this!” I then designed the flier myself, created an eventbrite, and started promoting the class. I named it Yoga and Meditation class. As the beginnings of the class was soon approaching, I started getting nervous about the number of sign ups. I was fearful that I would not make money off of it. But something in me reminded me…why are you doing this class? I was reminded that the reason I had a desire to teach this class was to help people. 

I know that my deepest desire is to change people lives, because somehow it makes me feel like I have a purpose on this earth.

Before the class began, a few people dropped out and I was very discouraged. Again, I was reminded…who are you doing this for? I knew that I was ultimately doing for a higher purpose, that if no one showed up, I would be okay. I could still pat myself in the back and say “wow woman, I am so proud of you because you took the risk even though it was scary”.

At the end of the day, you spend the most time with yourself, you have got to love yourself as much as you can….and know that you have nothing to prove, you’re loved just as you are. 

In that moment, I found that I could breathe and be in the present. 

Now, I breathe deeper,

sing louder, 

dance weirder.

Now, I know I have nothing to prove

but to be my loudest and most obnoxious self

and sometimes be the silent thinker that I am.

At the end of the day, I can look at myself in the mirror 

“I am so F***ing proud of you”

and be truthfully and most authentically me.

That I can show the world I am a professional

but I am also authentically real. 

That I tend to bump into clients when I am dancing. 

Love,

Bekka 

Quotable: “Our career is not a means of making money only, it is the fullest expression of our love for people.”- Rebekka Lien 

1 Book A Week Summer Book Club

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I am starting my own Rebekka’s Book Club, just like Oprah’s Book Club, but mine.

Anyways! THE YOGA AND MEDITATION CLASS IS LITERALLY IN A DAY OR SO! It has been such a journey working on this course. My spiritual journey has consisted of building this class for over 4 months, getting excited about my first sign up, and the ups and downs of the goals I had set for myself. Being an entrepreneur is definitely NOT easy all the time, but it is definitely fulfilling….because what an entrepreneur is, is someone who is willing to work on themselves while they are creating a new thing in the world. If you want to grow with me, please register today! Space is limited! YOGA AND MEDITATION CLASS

I started setting a goal to read 1 book a week this summer, especially since my German class is over.

I wanted to share some great quotes I found in “A Return To Love” by Marianne Williamson. As you know, my April article for West Valley Journal was about relationships, and who doesn’t want to learn more about love with a partner?

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As a woman, we have been taught to desire marriage, and hey, I’m all for it….but I think that the pressure to marry someone pushes us to marry someone we’re not truly compatible with. Sometimes people are ready for marriage but not ready to marry the right person. I have been studying marriage all my life, so reading A RETURN TO LOVE really opened my eyes. You see, I have girl friends that literally will not go on dates because they are not “ready to settle”. Girl, you ain’t going to find a man if you ain’t putting yourself out there….and also they feel like they have to find the “one” ASAP and because of this pressure, they rather not even go out of their way to date.

I think that’s pretty tragic (personal opinion, not business opinion- note, if you have not noticed, this is a blog which conveys my opinions and not my professional opinion).

I also think that people rush into marriage because of pressures from people around them, this is also out of fear versus love.

Marianne says that “relationships (not just romantic, but friendships, mentorships, etc) are assignments. They are part of a vast plan for our enlightenment, the Holy Spirit’s blueprint by which each individual soul is led to greater awareness and expanded love. Relationships are the Holy Spirit’s laboratories in which He brings together people who have the maximal opportunity for mutual growth. He appraises who can learn most from whom at any given time, and then assigns them to each other. Like a giant universal computer. He knows exactly what combination of energies, in exactly what context, would do the most to further God’s plan for salvation. No meetings are accidental. ‘Thos who are to meet will meet, because together they have the potential for a holy relationship'”

It is unfortunate how young people are taught that they are either serious or not about relationships. For example, some people can’t be friends if they are of the opposite sex. Why is that? We are all spiritual beings that are put together in certain point in our lives to learn and grow from each other. I don’t care how old you are, we cross paths not just because of one intention- for romantic relationship, that is so bogus!

Some people, out of fear, refuse to honor the integrity of another human being by simply using them for their own physical enjoyment. They do this also out of fear. So you are either driven by fear or love. Something magical happens when you choose to open yourself up to loving encounters.

My friend once told me “why is it that in our society, whoever cares less wins?” in reference to a guy she was seeing. I told her to never change. I said that some people are so hurt that they defend their hearts by not putting their emotions on the line. This is also out of fear.

More quotes-

“Often we think we are ‘in love’ with a person, as A Course in Miracles indicates, we’re actually anything but. The special relationship is based not on love but on guilt. The special relationship is the ego’s seductive pull away from God. It is a major form of idolatry, or temptation to think that something other than God can complete us and give us peace….It makes us think we need another person, when in fact we are complete and whole as we are…

A relationship is not meant to be the joining at the hip of two emotional invalids. The purpose of a relationship is not for two incomplete people to become one, but rather for two complete people to join together for the greater glory of God”

So whether you believe there is a God or not, I do absolutely agree that we have been fed a lie that we need someone to complete us. There is something attractive about a person when they are completely whole, people are strongly drawn to them….not because they are simply emotionally or physically attracted, but because they TOO DESIRE to be whole. 

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