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It Might Not Look Like It, But Choosing My Dreams Was Scary

On By Rebekka LienIn business, entrepreneurLeave a comment

I went to a networking event and met a photographer….spontaneous photos!

The other day, I was speaking to another woman entrepreneur and was so shocked when she said “I was so intimidated by you, you look so up there!”

I was like ….WHAT?

Are you kidding me!!! It almost cracks me up when I hear that, it’s also encouraging to know that I may appear successful, but just like YOU- I have my fears and discouragements.

When I first started teaching Mandarin, I was intimidated. What if my students wanted to know words I didn’t already know? Mandarin has thousands of characters.

I learned to be humble and to show what I didn’t know, but to fully do the research for my students.

When I first started coaching, was I intimidated? Yes, I had picked up this book about coaching. The author suggested that I give free sessions, to just JUMP INTO COLD WATER and PRACTICE. 

My fears? I didn’t have the certification, the education for “coaching” (whatever that meant). I didn’t really know how. I started researching and learn from the best- Tony Robbins, Jonathan Mead, Ali Brown, Oprah, Carnegie, Marie Forleo, you get the idea. I borrowed books from libraries and listened to hundred of seminars and webinars. HUNDREDS. Yes, no kidding. I read a lot, I was definitely NOT LAZY.

Did this all happen overnight?

Nope, but I did think about it for years. I wasted energy just THINKING, but letting the fears take over my mind.

All I had to do was just DO ONE THING, TAKE ONE STEP. 

Even if that one thing fails….you try ANOTHER THING.

That’s how I got THIS far. I looked the lion in the EYE and TACKLED IT HEAD ON, OR MORE LIKE, I RODE THE LION. What did I do? I offered FREE Sessions, typed up analytical steps that I would take my clients through and incorporate every inch of my soul, wisdom, experience and spiritual healing powers. That’s why I know my coaching sessions are effective, because I have been through it myself in my life. 

Live boldly EVERYDAY and DO 1 SCARY THING today.

For a free consultation about how YOU can create the life you desire, schedule an appointment now. Don’t worry, I don’t bite!

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How To Build Influence In Today’s Cyber World

On By Rebekka LienIn business, faith, self- reflectionLeave a comment

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Believe it OR NOT.

I am STILL a STRONG believer in FACE TO FACE contact.

If you haven’t noticed, there are SO many millions of people marketing their online content, selling goods, making millions….this is great, but…

I still believe in LONG TERM impact rather than quick results. 

As human beings, we are prone to NOT trust people.

How do you build INFLUENCE in today’s cyber world? Just a few tips…

1. Attend events, parties, functions that relate to what you love, what you’re passionate about. AUTHENTICITY is key in today’s over populated blogs and websites. People don’t listen until you listen to them first. This means, making GENUINE friendships IN person. It’s been amazing to meet people I’ve met on Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook in person- nothing is impossible these days. Of course, you can’t meet every single person, but FACE TO FACE contact definitely builds trust, chemistry, and connection.

2. Help Others & They’ll Help YOU in return – Just because I am going to be like Oprah one day doesn’t mean I have to be snobby about it (LOL!!). I believe giving someone a FREE connection, sending opportunities to people, networking the right people….giving students, newbies a chance, is a great way of being a mentor. In turn, they will support YOU and broadcast you because of your love and generosity. 

3. GET GOOD at INTEGRATING YOUR LIFE – Get good at mentioning your work, your business….when you pay someone for their service or goods, make sure to mention your product or service too. Ask for them to promote you, give them your business card.

Places I have given out my business cards: Clubs, Bars, House Parties, Relative Functions, Work Events, Cafes, Banks (to the teller), on the bus, on the train, etc

I also leave stacks of my flyers and business cards at every cafe I go to. Every outing is an opportunity to expand, to build influence. The right person will pick up your card at the right time. Don’t ever give up, always be ready to promote yourself.

4. Be A Teacher – when you teach, you become an EXPERT at what you do. I will be creating a video about this. I was at a cross roads in my life and didn’t know what to do to generate income, plus I hated the 9 to 5. I drew a chart with 3 columns.

1 was my Skills and Talents. I wrote down everything I knew how to do and was good at.

2 was my PASSION– what excites YOU? What can you remember in the past that created a fire in your heart?

3 was MY VISION– The ultimate purpose and fire of your life. WHAT is your vision? Mine was to empower and help others be who they were meant to be…I want to help people SOAR to their FULLEST and beyond what they can imagine. That is my vision.

I linked all 3 and decided that I could teach everything that I was good at. Then birthed my business. You can discover your life calling too!

How To Look At Distractions

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We Americans are taught to push, push, push until we have what we want.

Then, our lives get ROCKED. Hard. 

We feel bad in that moment, because we didn’t persevere or push on when we’re in the face of trauma. Perhaps we took a break from life and hid in our safe place. 

I believe that distractions, interferences, fights, hardship, sudden circumstances can be eye-openers to what we truly want, what we truly don’t want, and wake up calls.

These wake up calls can be:

+ A call to have fun and to relaxe, take a break, to laugh and not be so serious

+ A call to look at what has not been working & to try another method 

+ A call to examine self and not necessary the work project at hand

+ A call to be good to yourself and to love yourself 

 

Setting 2013 Goals

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Setting goals, without goals, human beings will be like ghosts floating around, wasting their life away.

I sense that there is something different in the air.

Instead of setting goals for numbers, cars, houses, things….why not set goals for the abstract? This means, bearing spiritual fruit…because ultimately things don’t define you. Things can come and go, but you- as a person, must grow internally.

Questions to ask yourself, write down your answers and tape it on your wall:

1. What kind of person do you want to become in 2013? 

2. How are you different from 2011, what major events and circumstances helped you to become the person you are today?

3. Instead of guilting yourself for the things that YOU didn’t do, WHAT were you successful in doing? (being a great dad, organizing your house better, building up your business, loving your partner/kids, friends, etc) What did it look like and how did you feel?

4. What drove you? (the key is to UNCOVER your motivation and passion, PASSION is what drives YOU to LOVE WHAT YOU DO and thrive in it). I believe in DOING what you are already GOOD at, instead of trying to master your weaknesses.

5. What does your life look like in 2013 (what is your ideal lifestyle)? Don’t just define WHAT you have, but WHO you are. This means, will you be more patient, less depressed, more joyful, carefree, happy? As Tony Robbins said, all that you want in life is about emotions. This means that when we want a new car or a successful relationship – we think that we will be happy (aka emotions). That means, we have to be happy first, internally. What will build your inner stability, your inner peace? Since we can’t RELY on external forces to give us happiness, no human being can give us the happiness we want.

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2013 for me, will be about seeking depth, meaning, seeking peace, breathing more often. A lot of our worries, fears, and failures come from inner turmoil. In order to master our external world, we need to seek peace with ourselves. This means facing our past and acknowledging the places we have come from. That’s the first step.

Second step?

Ask for help. Read books, talk to people who have been through it, bravely face that which you were….then move on and seek truth, seek forgiveness, seek love.

Nothing external can redeem us from ourselves. You are the person you spend the most time with….until the day you collapse into your grave, so seek depth.

Personally, I have learned to be patient, to forgive more easily, to wait more patiently and to recognize childhood issues I never dealt with. In June, I started teaching private lessons, which have been successful (thanks to all my students), but now it’s a matter of having a goal for teaching (what do I want to accomplish with teaching?). I started doing real estate, but am now also waiting for the next step…it’s like Oprah being told she can’t have a show…yet. Potential bursting at the seams. It’s a season of resting and preparing for major action.

Wealth In Your Soul

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I think it’s important to dissect and evaluate our values, our perspective on wealth.

My friend had some really great points during our discussion on our lives.

What is wealth? And why do we value it. Wealth is usually associated with money, but think about the following:

1. What if you had all the best clothes, but had no friends to go out with to wear your nice clothes?

2. What if you had all the money in the world, but had no mental health to even walk outside and work, function?

3. What if you had no health, and isn’t health part of our wealth?

4. What about spirituality? Having a focal point, a vision, a stability in our spirit?

All human beings desire to be loved, to be valued, but it is so easy to get caught up with what the media and popular culture values. Living alone has helped me to see the importance of true friendships, genuine people who care for you, it has also shown me the deception of the world and the false faces that people put on to get what they want from you. It is most unfortunate. Essentially, humans are flawed. Knowing this, we can move forward and create our destiny.

I have learned throughout my 24 years…that few things matter without stability in YOUR SOUL (not in your circumstances), relationships are the only thing you have if you have nothing else, and that the NOISE of the world destroys identity. 

All the noise (busy-ness for nothing, random obligations that we care not for, grasping of air)- is the one thing that distracts us from reflecting on why we do anything. Is it for others, for others to think well of us, seeking of approval? Is it because we are hurt and refuse to deal with the hurt?

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How To Live Life One Step At A Time

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“Life affords no higher pleasure than that of surmounting difficulties, passing from one step of success to another, forming new wishes and seeing them gratified.”-Samuel Johnson

 

The last entry was about stepping up, quit complaining, and stepping into the promise land.

This entry is about stepping into the dark.

Now what do I mean?

I mean: Sometimes you just need to put your feet forward in spite of not knowing whether a crocodile will bite your leg off.

Most likely, a crocodile will not appear and bite your leg off. That is probably the most horrible thing that could happen. Most likely you will fail.

The analogy comes from my experience teaching sewing and mandarin. I started teaching a few years ago at different studios, the one that gave me hours paid me very little, the one that did give me doable salary, had very little hours. Overall, I was tired of undercompensation.

It was in the darkness, in the storm, that my lightbulb went on. Craigslist was one of my saviors. He put me on a pedestal and showed me the true meaning of life.

Did I know if my first student would be creepy? No. I did not. Do I ever know if I’ll be safe, happy, secure, stable, wealthy. Nope.

I just jumped into the dark. Did I know everything I was teaching at first? No. To be honest, most of us don’t, we self- educate on things that school never taught us.

What did that first step get me? My second step. What did my second step get me? The third. So on and so forth. Why have I come so far in self- realization? I don’t know. I guess I just stepped forward even thought I had no idea whether my leg would still be attached.

I guess it would get really dark when the Isrealites were walking to the promise land. Maybe some got so scared of crocodiles and sinking sand, that some would rather cower, kneel down and cry. Some never made it because they were so scared. A hurricane probably hurled them into the ocean.

My point is, just take one step at a time. It will lead you to the next. Want to quit your job? Google 2 weeks notice, next step, copy and paste and input names and date, next step, print it and put it in an envelope. Want to get a date? Put your photo on eharmony, find a hottie and send a message. Want to make a better income? Make the changes, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 – take the steps and don’t think too much about how DIFFICULT it is.

Just do it.

 

Stopping To Breathe

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Stopping to breathe, perhaps it is the most important thing we can do during our day.

When we lose track, when we lose hope, when we feel exhausted with our own thoughts. When we need a break from the voices that seek to tear our relationships apart.

Breathe. And feel yourself be present. May I feel peace, now. My I feel peace because I live in the now, not in the future where I’m anxious, not in the past, where I am depressed. I only know that I am present, when I feel myself inhale and exhale.

When I can watch the tide come in and let myself be washed, clean and feel the purity of the wind.

I love this video, reminds us that the most important thing in our lives is “time and relationships”.

As I’m heading to Norcal tomorrow- I’ve written a list, may you find your own list as you breathe.

Things to Be and Do In Norcal-
1. Relaxe, like crazy. Relaxe like I have never relaxed in my life.
2. Unplug. Do this in a crazy way too. Only bring notebook, ipod, phone and pen.
3. Read. Read and study, study everything I’m teaching (Mandarin, sewing, art, music even, read books about how to teach these subjects).
4. Sell art, jewelry, accessories from my portable store.
5. Relaxe, again….
6. Write, a lot. Write in my journal, write like facebook never existed. Finish my book, if it is possible….that would be freaken amazing!!!
7. Celebrate my year of self-employment. Reward myself, say and write to myself everything I could have imagined a boss saying to me. “OMG, Rebekka you are so amazing, these are the things you accomplished even though you were broke! Now, you’ve really found yourself eh?”
8. Take control of my finances. Like for real. Stop buying coffee…make my own delicious and cheaply!
9. Be adventurous and have fun, like a young 24 year old should. Pretend I’m 21 and I never had to go through the stress of being an entrepreneur.
10. Breathe like never before.

Manifesting Reality With Your Mind

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(A flower that my friend gave me, it was a confirmation from God that it’s a season of getting pampered!)

Whatever you focus on, whatever you spend your energy on- that is what will manifest.

If you watch Law and Order or CSI, you’ll hear the word “pre-meditation”. If you have a lot of anger towards someone, if you are not careful, you may go to prison. I know I’m being a bit drastic, but it is important to know the POWER OF YOUR MIND. Likewise, if you think positive thoughts, positive outcomes will manifest.

It Is ALL About FAITH

What do I mean by that? Did you ever hear someone say “I have faith in you” and didn’t that spur you on to do great things, to accomplish things you never thought you could?

There were many times I wanted to give up “self-employment”. I am currently 24 years old, after working full time for 9 months and suffering from backache, I decided to let go of security. The last year I have probably gone through the most dramatic times of my life. I’ll be celebrating my one year anniversary of liberation in July.

However, it was NOT easy. Probably the most SCARY things happened when I let go of security. Days before my bills were due, I still had no idea where the money was going to come from. BUT SOMEONE, MANY PEOPLE had faith in me. 

Faith isn’t this empty, abstract idea. Faith is believing in someone, in yourself, in your friends, it’s believing that YOUR mind is powerful, that if you allow your mind and heart to believe something will come true, it mostly likely will. Of course, it’s not believing in empty air. It is believing that SINCE you have seen miracles happen before, that it will also continue to happen.

Faith is believing in the good in people, thus attracting the good out of you as well. You DON’T have to be a victim to your circumstances, you can BELIEVE and manifest a good life.

What are some things that you have manifested in your life just by believing? And what are some things that you hope to manifest in the next month?

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Believing In the Moments That You Knew Love Existed

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Small doodle!

I’m holding your hand, your shirt brushing against my arms. The smell of fresh laundry.

Love is, patient. Really, really, really patient. It is waiting when your body and heart feels dry, unloved, unarmed, like your body wants to run but it cannot, it does not know what the expression of the heart looks like. It does not know how to sing when the soul is dying or when to dance when I can only hear you whispering.

Whispering you are. You whisper with your glance, your gaze, your silence, your space and time. My seasons of growth, despair, joy and change have led me to pathways of seeing you for who you are. You, my friend, you my lover, you my family.

It is funny how we forget how human we are, how two people can be in love and know the secrets of God. Love, where no success or money can replace. Love, which is long-suffering, grueling, tiring at times, full of despair and desperation. Sometimes, love is full of moments, risk. Lots of risk is love, any moment your heart is pricked, any moment you feel you might fall into a deep cave of pain.

Though, I’ve found that life is short. We are not put on this earth to know the full extent of love, for we can only comprehend a tiny fraction of what it is. It is better to love and lost then to never have loved. Our human heart longs to defend, protect. Fear is the enemy of love. Fearing that you will lose someone you love is not love based on courage. Courage we must have in order to risk all we have for the ones that we love. A lonely life of protection will one day become a life of regrets.

For when we have loved, we have no regrets, because we know that we were capable of this divine thing called love. We experienced a spiritual awakening, we allowed our souls to dance and whisper secrets of the divine.

Perhaps you think that love is everlasting. Truly, love is everlasting. Love is not always felt, it can be a strong wave from the ocean and other times like a calm and peaceful stream. Love is like the tornado washing the debris of the past, fallen expectations and false understanding of who we are. It is a full force that shakes your heart, literally so that your whole being is being affected.

I feel deeply all emotions. I let pain go to the darkest places in my heart, I let joy seep through each molecules of my brain, I let love pull me in the direction I should go. Sometimes after the silent storm is over, the tears fall while I sit in my room, watering the crops of emotions and love. How can love even be described with words? Words will not suffice, for though you may have been hurt, over and over again, believe in the moments that you knew love existed. Believe in the moments where magic was in the air, where poetry was not enough to describe the existential trust and feelings you felt, where after your overthinking turned into nothing because trust was rebuilt.

I don’t claim to know the deep secrets of love, but I know how to express it. I know how to express through words, right now in time, how I feel and what I have experienced. It’s none of the easy bullshit the media shows us, love doesn’t form in 1.5 hours of movie time or simple romantic phrases and hymns, love is the decades our earth has been through, it is the art, the poems, the songs inspired by heartbreaks, joys of love, letting go, and realizing that wow, life is short, and all we can do is love even when we know it might hurt.

My love, love will hurt because it wouldn’t be love if there wasn’t risk involved. Love is a risky game. Love is what life is about, if you don’t master anything in life, master your heart to love unconditionally, even when it hurts. You’ll find that there is a greater being holding your heart.

No matter what your issues are, the issues stem from love, a lack of love and worth. Choose to believe in the moments that you were affirmed, you were loved. Don’t let the bad experiences taint your future. Believe in the moments that you knew love existed.

Guilt Binds, Love Sets Free

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I don’t know about you, but I sometimes do this thing where I guilt-trip people in such a subtle way that I don’t even realize it myself. And vice versa, and don’t we just hate it!

“Oh well fine, go hang out with her instead of me”- person says.

“you treat me like the devil, you run away from me whenever you can”- says parent.

And so on. But yesterday, as I was sleeping, I had another dream…this dream showed me how GUILT BINDS, BUT LOVE SETS FREE.

As imperfect human beings, WE ALL HAVE certain EXPECTATIONS of what certain people should do for us, or be to us. Well, our parents should do this and that, they didn’t love us this or that way…our friends should ALWAYS be there for us, our boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t DO this or that…the complaints continue and as we complain, our view of that person continues to dilapidate into shreds.

Meanwhile, we become negative, we carry negative energy, we complain all the time and only see the negative aspects in our lives.

GUILT derives from a deep-gutted feeling that “wow I didn’t do what was expected of me”.  I hear this a lot “I felt bad, so I…”. Then later, we complain because we didn’t want to do something in the first place, we put the blame on the other person.

But when we live in guilt, we live in bitterness, not an unconditional, freeing love. We live in a way where we are attempting to PLEASE people, not LOVE them. If we really love someone, we would be TRUTHFUL to ourselves and to them. The truth really does set us free (said right, not in a critical demeaning way).

A SIMPLE SOLUTION, too easy to say, yet so hard to do: LET GO

Sweet surrender they call it. It means letting go of HOW, WHEN, WHAT, WHERE even WHO. It means letting go of logic and trusting God to guide you to your destiny. It means saying “I’m a daughter/son of the universe and a higher being will take care of me”.

Letting go means relaxing, enjoying life and letting go of things you couldn’t control in the first place. Though the modern world likes to shove the idea that everything attained is strived for, I like to prove otherwise.

YOU cannot force someone to do things for you, to love you, to romance or even care for you. NO ONE is responsible for taking care of you. What does that mean? Parents take care of us because they love us, not because they have to. No one is responsible for your well being except God.

Lastly, accept all things as GIFTS, not expected actions of love. 

Love, my friend, is a gift. If you let go of expectations, YOU will become more grateful, more thankful, more loving, more alive. You will complain less and count your blessings more.

When we allow people to be themselves, we allow them to give to society the gift that they are. Maybe you do see flaws in someone and want to change them for the better- trust me,  something WILL happen when the time is right, that something will wake them up to make the appropriate changes (you are not god, YOU only need to be the unconditionally loving YOU that you are). How people are should not affect your own happiness; for happiness comes from within.

Please comment! I super appreciate it! Tell me how love has set you free in your life??