The Value of Trying

Today I met with a publicist. She was incredibly nice and kind- unlike the many people I have met in LA. She offered me advice on putting together a media kit and showing companies my numbers on social media and blog.

To be honest, I was pretty overwhelmed. Because I’ve done all that before. I’ve put together media kits before. I’ve tried to show people my value….but at the end of the day, if people really truly know WHO I AM, I wouldn’t have to try so hard. Because I know what I have to offer- me. 

Not the numbers, not the views.

Me. The authentic, the imperfect, the enough me. 

Instead of being gripped by fear, I did approach some of the past opportunities that I felt like “it wasn’t the right time” to pursue last year….and even though I knew the “numbers” weren’t there. Yes, I don’t have 80,000 followers on instagram. I have over 1,200.

So I got no’s. 

But I felt relieved. 

I felt like “you know what. I actually don’t want to go down this path”.

Because I know what I have to offer is greater than numbers, followers, views.

It’s about authenticity.

I write and live out authenticity. 

I am not better or less than. 

I am who I am and I want to write about the imperfect, complicated and simple life that I have. I want to write about how I get rejected, how I get no’s, how even though my numbers and qualifications don’t add up, God’s grace is enough for me. 

And so if God’s grace doesn’t open that door for me, I know God’s grace isn’t on it. 

I want to write about the fear that is so real and makes my arms numb, about the belly fat that I sometimes loath, and how I try to do yoga at night but realize I just need to love myself for what I look like now, fully and completely. That NO I can’t get abs in one week.

Self- care.

Self- love.

Self- acceptance.

Take it or leave it. That’s me.

I’m not going to figure out how to get more followers so I can go on a press trip, because I’m more than that.

I write to change lives, to tell people, it’s okay to be authentic and imperfect…to speak your mind, to speak the truth, to be politically incorrect, to be insecure, to make mistakes. 

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I’m going to keep doing what I love and what I’m good at.

I don’t want to go down that rabbit hole of trying to be good at something I don’t like doing.

Trying and getting a “no” is better than not trying and living in fear.
Because when you get a “no” or a rejection letter, you feel relieved.

You know you can move on and no longer have to be thinking about it. You know something more SUITABLE is ahead for you.

It’s like closing a chapter and knowing that another is coming.

What doors are you leaving open that needs to be closed?

Sometimes those new doors won’t open until you say NO firmly to the last door.
If you claim it’s a new season, why are you still flirting with the past. If you claim you don’t want to, why do you keep doing it. Do your words mean anything if you don’t stick to your own intention?
Half ass intentions leads to half ass results.

Let your no be no. Let your yes be yes. And last of all, say absolutely YES to yourself.

This is me. All of me. I believe that if it’s meant to be, God will open the door. It doesn’t mean you just wait on your ass for manna to fall down from heaven…you still try, but you try knowing that rejection is just an open door to the next good thing.

Let the spirit lead. Everything has already been completed.

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Are You Ready To Live Authentically? Here’s How.

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You are unstoppable, my friend, my mentor, my mom, my ally.

You are unstoppable, only you can determine your destiny. There are angels waiting to disperse at the echo of your words and commitment. Are you committed to being unstoppable? Will you let the challenges of life stop you from your purpose? Will you let momentary afflictions be your stopping point? Will you simply stare at the stop sign that men made, or will you walk across the street. 

Recently I’ve been walking 2 miles plus a day. The stop light in Pasadena is quite relentless. WAIT, WAIT, WAIT the light goes, maybe it’s for the blind, but maybe also for those that need a little reminder that your purpose sometimes makes you wait. It’s unnerving, scary, like what the hell is going on?

But once it squeaks out “walk sign is on”, it’s an okay for you to go, knowing you’ll be safe….

Although I’ve gone through some rough patches recently, not knowing where life will take me, where God is leading me…I’ve held onto rock solid faith…it’s helped me to open up to close friends about what I’ve been going through. From the outside, I’m a fun loving human being doing amazing things, but every hero has a story. Sometimes life gets dark, so dark I started sleeping 12 hours at one point, not necessarily because I was truly resting …but because I was depressed.

I thought too much. I thought about whether my life even made any sense- why did I sell all my furniture, minimalize my life to this extent? Did it make sense that I forsaw myself traveling around the world, living in hotels, airbnb’s, couchsurfing, and making friends while speaking, selling books on autopilot and making bank without doing anything called “work” (but simply being 100% me and being super passionate about telling my story, healing the broken hearted and awakening people to their true identity and dreams)…did all of this even make any sense when my current reality didn’t seem so positive?

But in the midst of crying my heart out to a friend, I realized that it’s all going to be okay. Knowing that I wasn’t the only one struggling in life helped me to see that vulnerability is everything. Without struggles, we wouldn’t need each other to vent to….we truly NEED each other to live in peace, love and hope. When I hear that I’m not the only one, that there are tons of other people on instagram who are building awesome, amazing, life and world changing businesses, I can hope again. I’m not the ONLY one out here living for something MORE. 

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I WANT MORE of life, more of passion, more of freedom, more of love.

I WANT TO SEE change in this world, in my life, in yours.

What’s the MORE you want? 

WHAT ARE YOU HUNGRY FOR? What is YOUR HEART HUNGRY for? 

Be honest, be vulnerable. Until you can pour out your fears to someone, rip open the bandage and show all of that nasty stuff….you’re really living a lie, covering up the little child within. Let it out, you need to be heard, you need to be loved. Once you do that, something magical happens…you’re able to live the authentic life, for the passions and people you truly love. 

What has hurt the most in your life is probably the healing story you’ll be part of in your passion.

So for me…it is healing from growing up with an absent father and learning to trust God for that which I lacked growing up, stability, finance, security, protection. I’m a survivor. I grew up always on guard, my heart was always protecting itself. I was always ready to defend myself, physically and mentally…but deep down, I was scared shitless.

I’ve managed to screw up and self-sabotage areas of my life that could have sprout up. But I don’t live in regret, since that leads to death. No, I live in hope and renewal everyday because everyday is a clean slate. 

My passion and life purpose lies in helping people to identify their broken story and to heal that which they overprotect….the wounds, the nasty stuff under the bandage…the shit that has been rotting under your heart, so deep that no one can get to WHO YOU REALLY ARE. The facade you layer on, the shit you buy to cover who you really are….I know those wounds are there, but do you? You are not going to bullshit me with that nice suit or that designer bag. You are not going to bullshit me with your prized job title, no no no, most people see the outward appearance but God sees the heart.

And well, I see your heart too.

It’s hurting.

So let it out, be real. Until you do that, you can’t receive love….how can you? Until you let someone see those fears, those wounds….you can’t mend those wounds, apply ointment to heal that scab…It’s all covered up. Some of you have done a really good job of that.

Are you ready to live authentically? 

 

Forgiveness As A Way Of Life

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“What great thing would you attempt if you knew you could not fail?” — Robert Schuller

To truly live life to the fullest, to be passionately pursuing life and your dreams, you must overlook the mistakes you will make. You must be slow to judge, slow to condemn, slow to be offended. You must manuever quickly because we are all human and we all make mistakes. To be an artist, an entrepreneur, you must make mistakes to be a great one. You must make big mistakes, I think that’s a requirement, it creates depth and depth is seen in your work. 

I love hearing the sound of rain, the sound of cars driving on a watered road. After watching Lost in Thailand on Netflix, I had this urge to write about my recent heart journey. Ever since I came back from Hawaii, I’ve been releasing even more negative vibes out of my life. Though I had already sold all of my furniture and reduced my clothes to fit into a duffle bag, I was not done with starting over.

I also needed to once and for all forgive everyone that had ever hurt me in my life. As I started writing down names of people I wanted to forgive and release from my heart, no longer requiring their validation, approval or apologies, I realized there was a theme of “lack of affection/attention” or “negative words or words of rejection”, some that consisted of people making judgements on me even though they had known me for years, yet perhaps out of a lack of love in their own hearts, chose to see me as someone i was not…out of the attempt to control someone they could not control- me. 

I also had to forgive myself for “wasted years” when the truth is….I needed to go through what I went through to see the precious worth of my time and life. I remember telling a stranger that I learned a lot from my past relationship, he replies “well you sure learn a lot after a beating” (now that’s an analogy). We don’t always need to learn from hardships or heartbreak, we can learn from wisdom, from listening to our hearts.

Well, now I can help others who struggle with self-worth and rejection.  I also needed to learn what it meant to invest time, energy and heart into my closest relationship and that it was not selfish of me to spend time alone or not want to spend time with mere strangers. I saw that as my influence inclined, many people wanted to “spend time with me” to talk about “their issues”, which I do offer in my coaching sessions. Unless you are a close friend of mine, I will not invest time and energy to get “freeloaded”. In order to be the best that I can be, I need to protect my time with myself and most of all, meditate and pray. But I also learn that it is better to have a flexible heart than inflexible ritual. That’s why I’m not big on rituals or things that take away from my heart.

I commit to things because it makes me happy, not because I feel guilt-tripped into it. Who are the people you need to forgive? What did they say or do that hurt you and how did it make you feel in terms of value, worth or significance? Because unless you continue to receive forgiveness and forgive others, the manifestation of our lives are simply an image. Heart growth, heart healing is what counts, unless this is dealt with….all the fruit of our labors will rot.

Trust me on this. Everything you’ve ever worked for will become bitter fruit, wrought out of a bitter root (your heart). Allow your heart to become healthy so that love can flow freely into every area of your life.  If you haven’t released forgiveness or people from your heart, they are taking up SPACE for the people that want to love and be loved by you. 

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1. To know that I have already been forgiven and am free to make mistakes

2. To allow others to be themselves and to allow them to make mistakes just as I make mistakes

3. To know that there is no such thing as “mistakes” but simply detours to the right path

4. To enjoy life to the fullest And just to give you a personal update, I’ll be going up to Sacramento May 14-17 to speak at a women’s conference. From there I’ll be going to Berkeley or Palo Alto, I haven’t decided. And Thailand is on my mind, will probably go this Fall, don’t know how and what, but like any other trip, I must step forward in faith.

When you’re gracious with yourself, you’ll allow others to be themselves around you. That’s the most beautiful form of relationship!

You’re Invited Today- “Not Your Stuck Up” Mixer

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May 5, 2015 (4-7pm)  RSVP HERE! 

Edwin Mills by Equator

22 Mills Pl, Pasadena, California 91105

Who is this mixer for? Anyone who does not believe human beings are supposed to work 9-5 at a boring job, business owners, free thinkers, entrepreneurs, lifetime vacationers, writers, creatives, entertainers, vegabonds, musicians, etc….that’s why suits are not required, we prefer laid back.

Come as you are.

My friend was sitting next to me at a bar and mentioned to someone that I host networking events…I was like “wait, you mean those house parties I had?” Apparently I was known to host networking events when in actuality I just wanted people to have fun. So just be yourself and have fun. You might just meet the love of your life or your future bestie.

First HAPPY HOUR is AT EDWIN MILLS! 
$3 Martinis, Appetizers, Mixed Drinks and Beer!

Uber it! You first $20 ride free! https://get.uber.com/invite/so24w

XOXO,

Rebekka Lien Creator of Smart Spiritual Sexy and How To Make Money Doing What You Love Ebook
Cherelle Tye-Liao- Co-Creator
Get the ebook- www.Rebekkalien.com/LoveMoneyWork

PS- If you have a venue, restaurant, bar, cafe, please contact Rebekkalien@gmail.com, we’d love to have our next event there!

YOU ARE INVITED: How To Sell Funky Fresh Products and Services WORKSHOP

YOU ARE INVITED: How To Sell Funky Fresh Products and Services WORKSHOP

HOW TO SELL FUNKY FRESH PRODUCTS AND SERVICES

Located in Los Angeles on June 11.

A Workshop for Funky Fresh Creatives and Business Folks!

Learn HOW to start selling your Products and Services with Super Dope Chicks- a partnership between Jasmine Powers of Ambitious Diva (www.ambitiousdiva.com) and Rebekka Lien of Unlock Your Destiny (www.rebekkalien.com)

+ How to buy great stuff to sell – Buying, testing, trends, moving product
+ How to sell on ebay?
+ How to create your online/offline store (WordPress plugins, HTML, ecommerce platforms)
+ Marketing & PR to build your buzz
+ Finding people who will buy your goods
+ Creating a blueprint to a successful life/career
+ Inventory and Biz Stuff – Inventory Management, Accounting, Tools

Panelists:

Rebekka Lien, Unlock Your Destiny & Rebekka Lien

Jasmine Powers, Ambitious Diva

Tiffany La Vonne, Tiffany La Vonne Couture

Other funky fresh retailers and design professionals to TBD

Who are Super Dope Chicks?

Rebekka Lien: Rebekka Lien is a Serial Entrepreneur, Life Coach, Realtor and Business Artisan who started her business with nothing after quitting her full time job. She guides her clients to UNLOCK THEIR DESTINY through Transformative Coaching & Business Consulting. http://www.rebekkalien.com

Jasmine Powers: Digital Marketing Strategist, Blogger, Graphic and Web Designer, Author, Speaker, and Online Retailer aka Creative Marketing Diva. She helps female entrepreneurs reach their personal and professional life goals through her integrated marketing agency, Ambitious Diva Company.www.ambitiousdiva.com

REGISTER TODAY • LIMITED SEATED • IN DEMAND PREMIUM EVENT •TICKETS GOING FAST –

A SMALL investment of $25 here, gain thousands of dollars in knowledge all in 1 night: http://sdcselling-eac2.eventbrite.com/

Facebook Invite: https://www.facebook.com/events/127791127422084

JEWELRY SALE THIS SUNDAY for Cause of India!

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This is the beauty of divine synchronicity! I met Elizabeth Hunt at a cafe and we hit it off right away. I was enlightened with the idea of helping her raise funds for her volunteer trip to Bangalore, India and will be donating 50% of all jewelry proceeds to her trip. She is a delight and joy to humanity. 

 Join us this coming Sunday for Chai Tea and Jewelry, Accessories and Handmade Soaps!

RSVP HERE: https://www.facebook.com/events/145901832265825/

Open To The Public! 

My first Podcast- How To BEGIN LIVING Your DREAMS

My first Podcast- the story is just bursting out of my heart that I cannot contain it ANY LONGER! This is only a short summary of what I went through to live my dreams. I hope you find inspiration and hope to ACT DESPITE YOUR FEARS! 

The manuscript-

Hi Everyone! I want to share my story with the world.

A lot of people ask me, how do I know where to begin? How do I know what I should do in life? How did you get to where you are today?

You see, I’m not where I want to be yet, but I am living the life I want to live now.

 Only 1% have the courage to make the entrepreneurial leap into success. It’s all about risk.

You see, 2 years ago, I quit my full time job after 9 months of stability. I felt like I was trapped in a cage. I had worked in the fashion industry for 4-5 years and wanted the normal job with health insurance. I thought that was the only way I could reach success. I would just climb my way up to the top and I knew I could.

However, the level of pain, suffering and death within me broke me.

I quit and never looked back.

When I quit my full time job, I used the money I had to travel to Australia for a month. When I came back, I was broke, but was inspired by street vendors who sold jewelry on the street. I started selling my own jewelry and it turned into a business.

In the beginning of my self- employed years, I ate a lot of rice and kale because I could not afford to buy groceries. I was late on rent and often suffered immense turmoil from struggling to find my way.

After traveling once more and going through some inner healing, one day I woke up and wrote down everything I was good at or had the abilities to do. I ended up writing down: cello, piano, writing, mandarin, sewing….etc…I posted on craigslist and started getting clients. I was really shocked at first, but felt blessed to know there was a FREE way to get clients.

This story is really just a small summary of what I went through…Iong story short I tried everything. I was on Let’s Make a Deal, I got to touch Wayne Brady on the shoulders, I worked in retail, had lots of shows, enjoyed free shows in Silverlake, diversified my skills and monetized everything I could.

Still, it was not enough. My boyfriend suggested I get into Real Estate and I started working in the industry last year. Today I am a life coach who helps unlock peoples destiny, a sewing instructor and a realtor. I have jewelry consigned with various local businesses and give back to the community by providing work for people.

My advice for people who are looking to start something new, don’t wait, don’t hesitate, just jump.

I get criticized a lot for my unconventional ways of doing things….for not doing things perfect sometimes or not using recycle paper to create my flyers and using bootstrap methods to create something grand out of nothing. But AT LEAST I TRIED, AT LEAST I put myself out there, and that has made ALL THE DIFFERENCE. I would not have started living my dreams if I didnt listen to my intuition and the ways of the universe. Don’t aim for perfect, aim for jumping already.

Rebekka Lien,
Unlock Your Destiny Life Coach, REALTOR & 
Creative Music/Fashion Instructor 
 
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