This past weekend I got to speak at the California Federation Professional and Business Women’s state conference. I got to room with Crystal, who is a heart disease survivor. Her heart is on the right, yah no kidding. She’s had 8 open heart surgeries and she is one of the most AMAZING AND STRONG WOMAN I KNOW!!! IT was a serious blessing to room with her. We even got to dance at Kbar. She gave me a mexican candy PIKA PIKA (see me eating it above). Then you’ll see a photo of us with our awards. Let’s say we had loads of fun and got to speak to a room full of women who needed motivation.
People keep trying to catch me, but it’s tough to. IF you need a coaching session feel free to email me Rebekkalien@gmail.com, speaking inquiries, email me!
Here is my travel/event schedule:
Now until May 23- Norcal, staying in Emeryville. Probably will go to SF on Friday.
May 23 Saturday- Back to LA
June 2 Tuesday-Smart Spiritual Sexy “Not Your Stuck Up” Happy Hour Mixer- REGISTER HERE!
Who is this mixer for? Anyone who does not believe human beings are supposed to work 9-5 at a boring job, business owners, free thinkers, entrepreneurs, lifetime vacationers, writers, creatives, entertainers, vagabonds, musicians, etc….that’s why suits are not required, we prefer laid back.
Come as you are.
Be yourself and have fun. You might just meet the love of your life or your future bestie or meet collaborators for your business.
Second HAPPY HOUR is AT SAINT FELIX!
1/2 off all Signature Drinks, Beer, & Wine plus $5 food menu.
Rebekka Lien Creator of Smart Spiritual Sexy and How To Make Money Doing What You Love Ebook
Cherelle Tye–Liao – Co-Creator
Get the ebook- www.Rebekkalien.com/LoveMoneyWork
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You are unstoppable, my friend, my mentor, my mom, my ally.
You are unstoppable, only you can determine your destiny. There are angels waiting to disperse at the echo of your words and commitment. Are you committed to being unstoppable? Will you let the challenges of life stop you from your purpose? Will you let momentary afflictions be your stopping point? Will you simply stare at the stop sign that men made, or will you walk across the street.
Recently I’ve been walking 2 miles plus a day. The stop light in Pasadena is quite relentless. WAIT, WAIT, WAIT the light goes, maybe it’s for the blind, but maybe also for those that need a little reminder that your purpose sometimes makes you wait. It’s unnerving, scary, like what the hell is going on?
But once it squeaks out “walk sign is on”, it’s an okay for you to go, knowing you’ll be safe….
Although I’ve gone through some rough patches recently, not knowing where life will take me, where God is leading me…I’ve held onto rock solid faith…it’s helped me to open up to close friends about what I’ve been going through. From the outside, I’m a fun loving human being doing amazing things, but every hero has a story. Sometimes life gets dark, so dark I started sleeping 12 hours at one point, not necessarily because I was truly resting …but because I was depressed.
I thought too much. I thought about whether my life even made any sense- why did I sell all my furniture, minimalize my life to this extent? Did it make sense that I forsaw myself traveling around the world, living in hotels, airbnb’s, couchsurfing, and making friends while speaking, selling books on autopilot and making bank without doing anything called “work” (but simply being 100% me and being super passionate about telling my story, healing the broken hearted and awakening people to their true identity and dreams)…did all of this even make any sense when my current reality didn’t seem so positive?
But in the midst of crying my heart out to a friend, I realized that it’s all going to be okay. Knowing that I wasn’t the only one struggling in life helped me to see that vulnerability is everything. Without struggles, we wouldn’t need each other to vent to….we truly NEED each other to live in peace, love and hope. When I hear that I’m not the only one, that there are tons of other people on instagram who are building awesome, amazing, life and world changing businesses, I can hope again. I’m not the ONLY one out here living for something MORE.
MORE
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I WANT MORE of life, more of passion, more of freedom, more of love.
I WANT TO SEE change in this world, in my life, in yours.
What’s the MORE you want?
WHAT ARE YOU HUNGRY FOR? What is YOUR HEART HUNGRY for?
Be honest, be vulnerable. Until you can pour out your fears to someone, rip open the bandage and show all of that nasty stuff….you’re really living a lie, covering up the little child within. Let it out, you need to be heard, you need to be loved. Once you do that, something magical happens…you’re able to live the authentic life, for the passions and people you truly love.
What has hurt the most in your life is probably the healing story you’ll be part of in your passion.
So for me…it is healing from growing up with an absent father and learning to trust God for that which I lacked growing up, stability, finance, security, protection. I’m a survivor. I grew up always on guard, my heart was always protecting itself. I was always ready to defend myself, physically and mentally…but deep down, I was scared shitless.
I’ve managed to screw up and self-sabotage areas of my life that could have sprout up. But I don’t live in regret, since that leads to death. No, I live in hope and renewal everyday because everyday is a clean slate.
My passion and life purpose lies in helping people to identify their broken story and to heal that which they overprotect….the wounds, the nasty stuff under the bandage…the shit that has been rotting under your heart, so deep that no one can get to WHO YOU REALLY ARE. The facade you layer on, the shit you buy to cover who you really are….I know those wounds are there, but do you? You are not going to bullshit me with that nice suit or that designer bag. You are not going to bullshit me with your prized job title, no no no, most people see the outward appearance but God sees the heart.
And well, I see your heart too.
It’s hurting.
So let it out, be real. Until you do that, you can’t receive love….how can you? Until you let someone see those fears, those wounds….you can’t mend those wounds, apply ointment to heal that scab…It’s all covered up. Some of you have done a really good job of that.
“What great thing would you attempt if you knew you could not fail?” — Robert Schuller
To truly live life to the fullest, to be passionately pursuing life and your dreams, you must overlook the mistakes you will make. You must be slow to judge, slow to condemn, slow to be offended. You must manuever quickly because we are all human and we all make mistakes. To be an artist, an entrepreneur, you must make mistakes to be a great one. You must make big mistakes, I think that’s a requirement, it creates depth and depth is seen in your work.
I love hearing the sound of rain, the sound of cars driving on a watered road. After watching Lost in Thailand on Netflix, I had this urge to write about my recent heart journey. Ever since I came back from Hawaii, I’ve been releasing even more negative vibes out of my life. Though I had already sold all of my furniture and reduced my clothes to fit into a duffle bag, I was not done with starting over.
I also needed to once and for all forgive everyone that had ever hurt me in my life. As I started writing down names of people I wanted to forgive and release from my heart, no longer requiring their validation, approval or apologies, I realized there was a theme of “lack of affection/attention” or “negative words or words of rejection”, some that consisted of people making judgements on me even though they had known me for years, yet perhaps out of a lack of love in their own hearts, chose to see me as someone i was not…out of the attempt to control someone they could not control- me.
I also had to forgive myself for “wasted years” when the truth is….I needed to go through what I went through to see the precious worth of my time and life. I remember telling a stranger that I learned a lot from my past relationship, he replies “well you sure learn a lot after a beating” (now that’s an analogy). We don’t always need to learn from hardships or heartbreak, we can learn from wisdom, from listening to our hearts.
Well, now I can help others who struggle with self-worth and rejection. I also needed to learn what it meant to invest time, energy and heart into my closest relationship and that it was not selfish of me to spend time alone or not want to spend time with mere strangers. I saw that as my influence inclined, many people wanted to “spend time with me” to talk about “their issues”, which I do offer in my coaching sessions. Unless you are a close friend of mine, I will not invest time and energy to get “freeloaded”. In order to be the best that I can be, I need to protect my time with myself and most of all, meditate and pray. But I also learn that it is better to have a flexible heart than inflexible ritual. That’s why I’m not big on rituals or things that take away from my heart.
I commit to things because it makes me happy, not because I feel guilt-tripped into it.Who are the people you need to forgive? What did they say or do that hurt you and how did it make you feel in terms of value, worth or significance? Because unless you continue to receive forgiveness and forgive others, the manifestation of our lives are simply an image. Heart growth, heart healing is what counts, unless this is dealt with….all the fruit of our labors will rot.
Trust me on this. Everything you’ve ever worked for will become bitter fruit, wrought out of a bitter root (your heart). Allow your heart to become healthy so that love can flow freely into every area of your life. If you haven’t released forgiveness or people from your heart, they are taking up SPACE for the people that want to love and be loved by you.
My commitments in this life:
1. To know that I have already been forgiven and am free to make mistakes
2. To allow others to be themselves and to allow them to make mistakes just as I make mistakes
3. To know that there is no such thing as “mistakes” but simply detours to the right path
4. To enjoy life to the fullest And just to give you a personal update, I’ll be going up to Sacramento May 14-17 to speak at a women’s conference. From there I’ll be going to Berkeley or Palo Alto, I haven’t decided. And Thailand is on my mind, will probably go this Fall, don’t know how and what, but like any other trip, I must step forward in faith.
When you’re gracious with yourself, you’ll allow others to be themselves around you. That’s the most beautiful form of relationship!
Who is this mixer for? Anyone who does not believe human beings are supposed to work 9-5 at a boring job, business owners, free thinkers, entrepreneurs, lifetime vacationers, writers, creatives, entertainers, vegabonds, musicians, etc….that’s why suits are not required, we prefer laid back.
Come as you are.
My friend was sitting next to me at a bar and mentioned to someone that I host networking events…I was like “wait, you mean those house parties I had?” Apparently I was known to host networking events when in actuality I just wanted people to have fun. So just be yourself and have fun. You might just meet the love of your life or your future bestie.
When I was 14, I looked around me and didn’t really see anyone living an extraodinary life. I needed examples of heroes. But then I felt like most people lived in fear.
If I told my 14 year self that I would end up acting, writing a book, backpacking through the world, going to a black church, becoming a star, well, I think I would have believed it. It’s just I got caught up in a lie for awhile, and thought I wasn’t successful enough. I felt like I had to get my shit together ASAP or else I would die an unhappy woman.
I went to ten thousand weddings growing up and I would snore through most of them.
I would wake up for the food and get really excited about dancing.
I’ve come full circle to the beginning of what I’ve always wanted. For a few years I accumulated a lot of stuff, clothes, I was selling stuff on ebay, but then everything became a product I could sell. I was super savvy, I shopped at thrift stores and found great deals….but I also kept a lot of things I didn’t need to keep.
The point is, I hustled in my entrepreneurial years, but I didn’t live in grace. I thought I was living in grace, but I wasn’t. I was still living under the world’s system of worshipping “money” and “stability”.
I’ve realized that life is FAR VASTER than pieces of cardboard and paper. If you didn’t know already, America has worshipped money for a long time. In fact, someone invented “credit scores” as a way to lock people into fear. The way of divine love has UNLIMITED POSSIBILITIES.
The last few months, I saw that ANYTHING can manifest and a lot of times without you receiving the “paper” to do it. A lot of people end up working jobs they hate or choosing a career path because they think they need a certain amount of money to give them happiness. My question is, what do you want to do with that money?
You have to know how you want to live your life first, what are you passionate about???
Don’t even think or worry about pieces of cardboard.
My everyday choice to follow my heart has led me around the world.
Who knew I’d end up in Australia for a month in 2011, Ecuador and Brazil in 2012, Taiwan in 2013, Barcelona, London, Amsterdam, Berlin, Prague, Naples, Rome, Florence in 2014, and this year Hawaii…..before I was in Japan, China…etc. I’ve met incredible friends, life-long friends. I’m doing what I love now.
I don’t think about whether something I do will reap the “papers”, I am freed from the monetary system of fear.
The way of divine love has UNLIMITED POSSIBILITIES.
LET GO OF HOW and YOU’LL DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN EVER OR COULD HAVE NEVER DREAMT OF!
Recently I have decided to be authentic. Totally authentic to myself and to my readers.
How have I been? Amazing.
My life is simple now. I attended boxing class today. A few days ago I complained to the manager that there was a lack of sanitary disposal boxes in the ladies’ room. I then went to the handsome trainer and noted the same. He said “wow, I never thought about it”. I asked him, “do you have sisters?”, he said “no”. I asked “you have a mom”. “Yah, but she’s never talked about it”. I said “do you have a girlfriend?” He said “a fiancee”, I said, “and you’ve never seen sanitary items in the trash…”
These are HONEST conversations I have with people to get them thinking about….well what women struggle with. Our menstrual cycles are not something to be ashamed of. In fact, without it, males wouldn’t exist…babies wouldn’t exist. Women struggle with leakages and monthly cramps to make human kind possible.
Besides having conversations about womens’ lives…here are some progressions in my life:
1. I’ve finally decided to focus on 5 important things in my life: love God, love myself, love others, enjoy the moment, and have fun/be creative.
2. I am no longer hung up on dating, it is my manbattical year and I’d like to EMPOWER myself. When my trainer asked me if I had a boyfriend, I said “I’m dating myself right now. That is why I’m taking boxing classes so that I can empower myself”.
3. I started taking boxing classes and have been GROWING MAD BICEPS. MAD I MEAN REALLY MAD.
4. I’m happily living my life now, apart from blood family. You know, when you’re 27, it’s important to cut the emotional umbilical cord so that you can build your own identity.
5. I’ve been writing a LOT more if you noticed. My friend Sher has graciously allowed me to use her laptop since mine has been broken for 4 months…I’d like to wait for the BEST laptop.
6. I’m eating healthier, getting my proteins and veggies on.
7. I stopped worshipping money and started worshipping the only kind God who gives me joy and allows me to live A BIGGER life. I realized I was chasing after worldly success, and my inner life was cringing, cussing me out for depending on fame, reputation and status.
8. I’m writing a book about love and healing the father wound….for all those that think they’re without issues…think again.
9. Had a realization that I’d like to start a comedy show. Feel totally alive when I’m in the comedy world.
A lot of people have messed up views about who God is. I don’t claim to be all knowing of who God is, but I know that I wouldn’t be alive today if it wasn’t for God. I converse with this mystical force that people think is this old bearded man who is super mad all the freaken time. I think of God as love, as beauty, as all knowing, as brilliant, bright, loving, all encompassing, non-judgemental, gentle, funny, light-hearted, truthful, definitely not what people have portrayed him as….he definitely does not hate gay people, I don’t know who the hell made that up.
Anyways, on a more serious note, I’m sure that as 2015 has already progressed into 12 days….many of you are already failing, maybe frustrated that you haven’t seen any breakthroughs. As I was dancing this super fast piece at dance rehearsal, I heard this annoying voice “just leave, you can’t do it”. That’s the voice of darkness. I literally wanted to leave because I was so tired, but something in me told me that I needed to PUSH.
I believe it IS the PUSH season. You need to hold onto who God says you are. Well, your thoughts of who God is maybe already tainted….but let’s just say it’s not…let’s just say that you are starting to get to know a totally loving God, who God totally is….God would say:
“You’re awesome, you’ve already overcome, you are my brightest star, you are more than a conqueror, you win, you always win in your own competition…” etc. Think positive affirmations, but these things are true about you.
As I was dancing, I kept thinking about my moves…omg. I’m totally messing up. The more I thought about my every move, the more I messed up. So I just said “Let’s dance in flow, let the spirit lead”, and in doing so I felt that I started to dance with more expression, more FUN.
So maybe your resolutions haven’t come true, but don’t give up on who God says you are…..an overcomer, a CEO, boss.
Rebekka Lien, Life Coach – get your coaching sessions here: https://rebekkalien.com/speaking-coaching/ Every happy secret to life is in the present.
The secret to a happy life in 2015.
The world has lied to us about what gives us happiness, the lie formula- get good grades, attend a good college, get a stable job, retire in bliss? Watch this video to learn how to be happy in 2015.
HOLA! 2015 is coming and in my “let’s just get over December, get over this resting period” I was struck with a reminder that I needed to be thankful for the little and big victories of 2014. I encourage you to LIST OUT the major highlights of your year (per month)…not what others may find significant, but what is close to your heart. This will reveal your passion and what truly lights you up.
In 2014, I got out of a long term relationship. I put it out there because I want to be real with you. A few highlights:
Jan-May: Took a German class, super intensive, got to know a DJ and a cool gal. Started writing for San Gabriel Valley Journal/Monterey Park Journal. This was a 9 month ordeal, every month I wrote about my revelations of life, relationships and love.
Jan: Started a group called Kreativehaus, an organic community
March: Flew to Orlando for a Wealth Conference, was struck with realizations about my life and relationships, then ended my relationship which was 2.3 years.
May: Gave my first super long seminar to high school students and youths as well as a seminar at my real estate company. Beginning of speaking more! Took a 3 day solitude retreat to Big Bear, here I was struck with epiphanies on how I was to live life in faith and love.
Between April- July: Started teaching Yoga and Meditation, created a community of people who longed for relaxation, connection with self and connection with the universe. I started taking a COMEDY IMPROV CLASS, in class, the teacher suggested I do commercial acting and this was in line with that desire to act. I signed up and got an acting agent right away. Blessed, totally.
Went to a hollywood acting seminar, ended up listening to Christopher Pratt talk about Steve Jobs and how he manifested his reality and time traveled to his own desired destination. This is called Reality Bending. I decided I was going to Europe at the end of the year, didn’t know how, didn’t have enough funds, but was going to do it.
August: Held my first self- made Entrepreneur Workshop on how to make money doing what you love. Realized it was WAY too much work to host on my own. But I realized that I love teaching people to live a better life.
September- December: September 24 I flew to London (yes by myself) to begin 2 months of who knows what. I banked my journey on the belief that the universe would take care of me. Look, my life is totally NOT perfect. I struggle so much sometimes, people don’t see it, I cry 3 out of 7 days for a month sometimes….probably buckets of tears. For this trip, I decided to cut family ties so I could be a TRUE independent and not even rely on my mom for EMOTIONAL SUPPORT.
On this trip, I went to London for 1.6 weeks, Amsterdam for 2 days (where I got SUPER sick), Berlin for 10 days, Prague for 10 days or more, Florence, Rome, Naples, Paris, Barcelona. My biggest lessons learn: Learn to TRUST God, learn to TRUST yourself, LET GO, and TRUST.
December: December 12 I officially signed on with Howard Talent West agency for Commercial Acting and Print. At an interview with a casting director, she suggested I should start my own show, so I finally started THE BEX SHOW (conversations about love, life and work)! My agent and I below!
And of course, I did real estate, and it doubled from last year, though I became a lease manager later on so that I was less hands on. I realized I needed to pursue what made me come alive and that if I did ANYTHING for the money, it would drain my heart. So I’m pursuing my middle school dream now and I intend to complete every dream I’ve had since I was a child.
Obviously, I also had SOME REALLY significant friendships throughout 2014. MAJOR.
Things I learned this year:
1. Learn to trust your heart
2. True freedom comes from setting boundaries and cutting soul ties from people you are co-dependent on (including parents, people!!!)
3. Smell the roses because you are always HERE AND NOW, never in the past, never in the future. And whenever POSSIBLE, PLEASE DANCE and celebrate YOU!
4. Love and treat yourself well, because this sets an example of how people should treat you.
5. Ask and Ask and Ask, and if they don’t give you what you want, it’s time to move on (whoever it is, a partner, a boss, etc).
6. Friends aren’t forever, learn to move on so you can meet friends that are on your level.
7. Don’t let people determine your worth based on what you’ve earned in $ signs- you are worthy no matter what. But also true accomplishment comes from feeling fulfilled, knowing that you are contributing to others and doing something that fulfills your heart and passion. I can honestly say that as an entrepreneur, I often feel depleted and feel like less than who I really am, but you have to pat yourself on the back..
The question is – did you take risks? Did you take lots of calculated risks and put yourself out there so you could potentially reach your goals? Then that’s all that matters. Every risk you take is planting seeds for your dreams to sprout into a big giant tree. Your friends and family might not see it yet and because of that, they criticize you or judge you, but just let them know that a bamboo takes 5 years to show ANY signs of GROWTH above the SOIL!
At the end of the day, you know that if you took risks, you took it because you know you are worth it.
I’m so proud of you, we’ve come a far ways, but we’ve also grown internally and how we see ourselves is everything.
Rebekka Lien 