You Can’t Have It All

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Believe it or not, you can’t have it all.

I mean, you have to let go of somethings in order to get better things. If you watch Hoarders, you will know…you cannot have a good life hoarding.

I know this might be completely stupid, but I did not know that bleach obviously bleaches and dyes all your clothes. Yesterday, I ran out of detergent and decided to use the last of my bleach for my clothes. Yes, I know, I went to Fashion School, but we never used bleach and on the bleach bottle, it said I could use it to wash clothes…..I ended up masacre-ing ALL MY CLOTHES. It was so hard breaking. Some came out good, but some came out horrid.

I think it was God telling me to let go. Let go of my old clothes, of my stubbornness, of my old ways of thinking.

You see, without letting go, we do not open our hands to the good things that are coming NEXT. 

We clench onto what we already have, already think about life.

Fortunately, as an ENTREPRENEUR, you are a LEARNER…which means, you MUST constantly ADAPT, ADJUST, LISTEN. This is a season of listening well my friends. 

Any great entrepreneur MUST listen and not simply drone and WALK on to the beat of society. Yesterday, I had several mishaps. Spilled wine on my couch, massacred my clothes, did not win my 3 parking tickets (PARKING TICKETS ARE THE WORSE!), and more. I was pretty miserable, but….today….I REFUSED To let it get to me.

It is because, I know there is a bigger picture.

Your life might not be the most pleasant right now. Perhaps you are going through crisis, relational, financial, emotional….career crisis. But there is hope, this hope relies on YOUR ability and CHOICE to FOCUS on what you’re grateful for….and the CHOICE to be PRESENT in each and every day. 

I think another thing I was reminded of is that MATERIAL WEALTH can be burned away, bleached away, destroyed- but integrity, character and spiritual wealth is eternal.

Sometimes we try to SAVE, hoping it will protect us from tragedy….but we end up paying more for saving the crappy stuff we already have. So give it up, and let the new thing come.

Material Hoarding – Hoarding material things

Emotional Hoarding– Not forgiving, not letting go of the past

Mindset Hoarding– Not letting go of OLD mindsets, patterns or perspectives in life

…..The list goes on, but TODAY WRITE DOWN 1 THING YOU HAVE NOT LET GO OF and you know will stop you from moving forward. Then COMMIT to LET IT GO! 

PICTURES FROM THE SHOW HOARDERS: (EW….)

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How To Make Things Happen

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What is the difference between people who live the life they desire versus the people who don’t? How do people MAKE THINGS HAPPEN? Are they just lucky, more positive, more personable, was born happier and more positive….or is it a choice?

I believe it’s a CHOICE.

Over the years, I have studied lots of mentors and coaches. I have watched the Secret, observed peoples’ lives and I have come to 1 SINGLE conclusion.

Everything is a CHOICE.

You might have been raised by a horrible family or had a monstrous childhood, but in the end, who creates YOUR destiny? You do.

I started out my multiple businesses with pretty much nothing in my bank, I didn’t take out a loan, I simply had FAITH. I chose FAITH. I chose to believe that there was the universe watching out for me. Having nothing DROVE me to the very core of my dreams. I became an obsessive artist, because I knew that NOTHING could stop me….I had already nothing, so I could only GO UP.

How do you make things happen?? 

1. Be a huge OPPORTUNITY CONNECTER– I see opportunities EVERYWHERE. I basically CREATE opportunities until I feel COMPLETELY depleted. However, the world has ENDLESS opportunities.

A few weeks ago, I was part of an Artisan Fair. I compiled an EMAIL LIST which included contacts I had never met, but somehow I had their business cards. I wasn’t scared to add them….even though several folks requested that I take them off my list.

1 LADY showed up and we connected. I was pleasantly surprised to be honest, because I didn’t even know her…yet she got my email. She owned an art gallery located not too far from Pasadena. I told her that we should connect, that I wanted to collaborate with her since she had space.

Yesterday we met up and I booked a speaking event! My mind moves fast, your brain has got to think fast. Deplete the possibilities. Speaking gigs are great because it positions YOU as an EXPERT (whatever FIELD OR INDUSTRY you’re in).

2. Be a DESTINY MAKER NOT A VICTIM of YOUR DESTINY- 

+ Destiny Makers

  • Don’t whine, don’t complain (that much…they complain and find solutions).
  • Don’t get caught up with failures, learn and improve for the next.
  • Do INTENTIONALLY focus on the positive, SAY THANKS always and ARE grateful for the little and big things.
  • Don’t focus on self, but find ways to help others through COLLABORATION.
  • Loves to have fun.

+ Victim of Destiny

  • Believes that others don’t understand them.
  • Believes that they are alone.
  • Believes that the universe and life is against them….
  • Sulks and makes their lives miserable and others as well…

You get the point.

3. Know what you want- stick to it

Know what you want, write it down, write down WHY you want it. This will compel your life to great heights.

Never give up.

I could have given up and applied to more FULL TIME JOBS. Life could have been really dreary for me, but I decided to NEVER go back. I might still work full time hours, or even more- because I’m so obsessed with work (like blogging is an obsession if my mind is filled with inspiration). I could work 3 hours in the real estate office, show houses for an hour, drop off inventory to a store and come home still wanting to blog and maybe I’ll be finally ready to chomp down on double chocolate ice cream.

I’m starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel….it started from the ground up.

 

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6 KEY TIPS For Young Entrepreneurs

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This post is for Young Entrepreneurs, by young you could be   in your teens, twenties, thirties…These are some tips I have   learned from my journey since 2011 until April 2013 (today).

 1. Don’t Compare Yourself- For some reason, sometimes I think I’m “behind”. I don’t know why I think this, because I am 25. 25 is not that old, I mean, that’s when you start living life right? If you are in your twenties, don’t compare yourself.

Everyone has a DIFFERENT AND UNIQUE PATH. 

Everyone has a story that is worth telling. Your STORY is part of your business and your entrepreneurial journey. 

Let YOUR Authentic and NATURAL self breathe, LET you transcend every inch of you and surrounding you. Don’t feel the pressure to be like others, to succeed in the same way that others are….BREATHE and hear the authentic voice within you.

2. Do Go For Your Dreams, NOT immediate satisfaction- IT is always easier to take the conventional path.

I can’t tell you how many people I have talked to that settled for the easy path. Comfort leads to complacency. I have overcome mental torment, undeniable stress, self discoveries and barriers that I can’t begin to explain to you. Since jumping off the full time job wagon, I have continued to jump deeper and deeper into the ocean, to the unknown. It’s almost like I have scuba dived farther into the ocean.

Example– getting rid of my old dusty car in exchange for leasing a car. Risky? Yes, uncomfortable, yes. But rewarding? Yes. I actually went home and cried because I was not sure if I could afford it, but something in me told me- you deserve it and you need to invest in your business.

Example– when I moved out on my own as a self-employed maven. Risky? Yes, uncomfortable, yes. But rewarding? Yes. I decided to live on my own, without roommates- because I realized the potential peace of mind I would have being able to work hard without distractions.

Example- when I branched out and began my career in Real Estate. Risky? Yes, uncomfortable, yes. But rewarding? Yes…I know I will get to a point where I know….all my HARD WORK has paid off.

Whatever you SOW, you REAP.

SOW LOVE, REAP LOVE.

SOW JOY, REAP JOY.

SOW HARD WORK, REAP THE REWARD.

3. Be patient, it’s WHO you become in the journey…..not just the end result.

It is all about WHO you become. Don’t forget this.

4. Learn To Let Go

You work really hard? Do you hit a wall and you keep working hard and don’t see the results?

Let go. Learn to have fun at times. Learn to let go of your internet, phones….learn to have a safe place to rest. For me, it’s going to that $10 korean spa in Ktown. It’s allowing physical tension from work to be burned away from a hot jacuzzi and sauna. It’s relieving stress- this is KEY. It’s running, biking down the street, going for a walk, getting ice cream and coffee to reward a day of hard work. It’s holding hands with your partner, watching a movie and NOT thinking about work.

5. OUTSOURCE 

Believe it or not, as a YOUNG ENTREPRENEUR you must REALIZE that OUTSOURCING is key.

Can you create your own blog, website, mail packages, type, call, drive, create, write, all in one day?

Yes, can you design, pay bills, clean the house, take photos too? Yep. But why do it if SOMEONE else can do it better?

Let someone else do what they specialize in. Let YOU do what YOU specialize in.

What are you EXCELLENT in? Do that. Let go and outsource work to those that are better than you at what they do. The time and energy you save….and the excellent work they produce will create even more income for you. You will have more energy to do what you are great at, and from their work, you can produce more income to invest in what you love to do more of.

Example: I hate taking photos of products. I really do, I have no patience for it. I simply found someone who needed more work experience and hired them to take photos. Did I save a lot of energy and time, yes. I saved mental work and I was able to use those photos to repost my products on Ebay (no additional work once posted…you can keep reposting: IF you need help on selling on Ebay, I can get you set up in less than 2 hours, email me at rebekkalien@gmail.com for coaching details).

6. Most of Your Work Is Mental- THUS delete all people in your life that creates mental headache. Trust me. You will SAVE so much energy that you can be using towards your work. NO- DO NOT think about just saving money or budgeting for your business.

HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT ABOUT THE THINGS IN YOUR DAY TO DAY LIFE that HINDERS your emotional and mental positivity and well-being?

Seriously.

Is it people around you? Systems and programs that don’t work? Your work environment? Toxic people? Toxic work space? Lack of rest and health? What is it?

Write it down and eliminate that which distracts from dedicating yourself to your passion.

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Start to Live Today

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“Most men and women  lead lives of quiet desperation

and go to the grave with the song still in them.”-

Henry David Thoreau

There are many men and women who live their lives, surviving, hoping that the surviving, the working and striving will lead them to TRUE HAPPINESS. 

I think that is WHAT MOST PEOPLE WANT. True Happiness.

In the last few weeks, I have personally attested to feeling OVERWHELMED, INSECURE, UNABLE, SHORT of EXPECTATIONS of OTHERS, and MOSTLY PRESSURE FROM SELF. Today, I ask myself, where does this PRESSURE come from?

The pressure to be enough, to achieve, to strive for the goals that I think will make me happy, give me more freedom. Perhaps most of us are following a SCRIPT that we did not write. Perhaps a lot of us are feeling pressures to be ENOUGH for others, for others to love us….because maybe if we achieve enough, we’ll be enough for others to love.

I’m here to tell you that life begins TODAY. 

Not tomorrow, not when things go the way you desire, not when you achieve your dreams or goals- but life, joy, and love BEGINS TODAY. 

Most people live their lives busy, running around without TRULY examining WHY they do what they do. 

Why? Why are you doing what you’re doing?

I remember one day, my friend asked me “what are you trying to prove?” Yes, what was I trying to prove?

That I was worth loving.

I’m sure you might feel the same, sometimes, a lot of times. Don’t wait until you are 65 to be loved, to feel love, to know your are worth loving. Don’t wait until you are financially successful, with houses, cars, accumulated THINGS to realize…..what truly matters and what you are TRULY feeling.

Worth does not come from how much you have accomplished, worth comes from who you are.

I believe we are all worthy from the womb. 

Start to live. I beg you, START TO LIVE. 

It Might Not Look Like It, But Choosing My Dreams Was Scary

I went to a networking event and met a photographer….spontaneous photos!

The other day, I was speaking to another woman entrepreneur and was so shocked when she said “I was so intimidated by you, you look so up there!”

I was like ….WHAT?

Are you kidding me!!! It almost cracks me up when I hear that, it’s also encouraging to know that I may appear successful, but just like YOU- I have my fears and discouragements.

When I first started teaching Mandarin, I was intimidated. What if my students wanted to know words I didn’t already know? Mandarin has thousands of characters.

I learned to be humble and to show what I didn’t know, but to fully do the research for my students.

When I first started coaching, was I intimidated? Yes, I had picked up this book about coaching. The author suggested that I give free sessions, to just JUMP INTO COLD WATER and PRACTICE. 

My fears? I didn’t have the certification, the education for “coaching” (whatever that meant). I didn’t really know how. I started researching and learn from the best- Tony Robbins, Jonathan Mead, Ali Brown, Oprah, Carnegie, Marie Forleo, you get the idea. I borrowed books from libraries and listened to hundred of seminars and webinars. HUNDREDS. Yes, no kidding. I read a lot, I was definitely NOT LAZY.

Did this all happen overnight?

Nope, but I did think about it for years. I wasted energy just THINKING, but letting the fears take over my mind.

All I had to do was just DO ONE THING, TAKE ONE STEP. 

Even if that one thing fails….you try ANOTHER THING.

That’s how I got THIS far. I looked the lion in the EYE and TACKLED IT HEAD ON, OR MORE LIKE, I RODE THE LION. What did I do? I offered FREE Sessions, typed up analytical steps that I would take my clients through and incorporate every inch of my soul, wisdom, experience and spiritual healing powers. That’s why I know my coaching sessions are effective, because I have been through it myself in my life. 

Live boldly EVERYDAY and DO 1 SCARY THING today.

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How To Build Influence In Today’s Cyber World

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Believe it OR NOT.

I am STILL a STRONG believer in FACE TO FACE contact.

If you haven’t noticed, there are SO many millions of people marketing their online content, selling goods, making millions….this is great, but…

I still believe in LONG TERM impact rather than quick results. 

As human beings, we are prone to NOT trust people.

How do you build INFLUENCE in today’s cyber world? Just a few tips…

1. Attend events, parties, functions that relate to what you love, what you’re passionate about. AUTHENTICITY is key in today’s over populated blogs and websites. People don’t listen until you listen to them first. This means, making GENUINE friendships IN person. It’s been amazing to meet people I’ve met on Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook in person- nothing is impossible these days. Of course, you can’t meet every single person, but FACE TO FACE contact definitely builds trust, chemistry, and connection.

2. Help Others & They’ll Help YOU in return – Just because I am going to be like Oprah one day doesn’t mean I have to be snobby about it (LOL!!). I believe giving someone a FREE connection, sending opportunities to people, networking the right people….giving students, newbies a chance, is a great way of being a mentor. In turn, they will support YOU and broadcast you because of your love and generosity. 

3. GET GOOD at INTEGRATING YOUR LIFE – Get good at mentioning your work, your business….when you pay someone for their service or goods, make sure to mention your product or service too. Ask for them to promote you, give them your business card.

Places I have given out my business cards: Clubs, Bars, House Parties, Relative Functions, Work Events, Cafes, Banks (to the teller), on the bus, on the train, etc

I also leave stacks of my flyers and business cards at every cafe I go to. Every outing is an opportunity to expand, to build influence. The right person will pick up your card at the right time. Don’t ever give up, always be ready to promote yourself.

4. Be A Teacher – when you teach, you become an EXPERT at what you do. I will be creating a video about this. I was at a cross roads in my life and didn’t know what to do to generate income, plus I hated the 9 to 5. I drew a chart with 3 columns.

1 was my Skills and Talents. I wrote down everything I knew how to do and was good at.

2 was my PASSION– what excites YOU? What can you remember in the past that created a fire in your heart?

3 was MY VISION– The ultimate purpose and fire of your life. WHAT is your vision? Mine was to empower and help others be who they were meant to be…I want to help people SOAR to their FULLEST and beyond what they can imagine. That is my vision.

I linked all 3 and decided that I could teach everything that I was good at. Then birthed my business. You can discover your life calling too!

Living OUT OF DESIRE RATHER THAN SHOULDS

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I don’t believe in the word “should”. 

I believe in listening to my inner voice and listening to my body when it says that it is tired. However, I am NOT saying that you should listen when it’s trying to be lazy. There is a major difference here.

Most of us grew up thinking that success only comes from hard work. I believe this is true, partially.

I believe success COMES from SMART work, not HARD work. 

For example, if you had a really bad system for working, and you kept doing the same thing 40 hours a week, you’re not being SMART….you’re just wasting time.

Most human beings probably can’t concentrate for more than 1.5 – 2 hours.

That is WHY I believe we should listen to our bodies and mind and feelings. When we need a break, we will start to lose focus. Do jumping jacks, run around the block.

For me, I go and watch a movie at the $2 movie theater or I walk around the neighborhood. I hang out with friends at random parts of my week, but that allows for some relaxation and fun….because once I’m back home, I am WORKING FRIEND!

When I have snapped back from having fun, I WANT to work.

I believe that HUMAN BEINGS are MOTIVATED by desire. 

What do I mean by this?

If I tell you to sit at a desk for 10 hours a day, would you want to? Probably not.

If I tell you to sit and work on a project that you could potentially reap $20,000 from, would you do it? Yes.

Desire. You desire that money. For something, whatever it is.

If we could get RID of the SHOULDS and the CONTROL, we can start motivating people by knowing their inner DESIRES. Start to observe what your friends, your boss, your coworkers, your mom or dad, your relatives, your husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend DESIRE.

Most of us desire a better life.

This BETTER LIFE is DIFFERENT for everyone. 

My desire is to live a life of leisure and smart work. I want to work smart, and reap immensely for my talent and skill. I desire to love and help people with my talent. It’s not really about “should”, I think it’s about conquering the fears that stand in the way of our desires….my desire is to build successful coaching and real estate businesses.

Like any other human being, I have fears too. I have fears of rejection, fears of failure, but everyday, I push through….because I believe in life, in myself, in people, in God, in promises fulfilled.

I believe in my childhood dreams, do you?

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How To Look At Distractions

We Americans are taught to push, push, push until we have what we want.

Then, our lives get ROCKED. Hard. 

We feel bad in that moment, because we didn’t persevere or push on when we’re in the face of trauma. Perhaps we took a break from life and hid in our safe place. 

I believe that distractions, interferences, fights, hardship, sudden circumstances can be eye-openers to what we truly want, what we truly don’t want, and wake up calls.

These wake up calls can be:

+ A call to have fun and to relaxe, take a break, to laugh and not be so serious

+ A call to look at what has not been working & to try another method 

+ A call to examine self and not necessary the work project at hand

+ A call to be good to yourself and to love yourself