You don’t have to suppress your desires anymore

I had a dream I was at my fashion design graduation and I had no idea what to design but an idea came for wearable art and before I knew it I was packing up my box. I also saw free champagne and cake. I asked for a glass but they couldn’t find one. Finally I found a hologram Colored one and poured a bunch of lime green colored champagne into my glass. I was surprised that I wanted to drink so much since I hadn’t drank in ages. The glass suddenly cracked and broke.

The Lord spoke to me when I woke up. He said that most people drown out their desires by watching television or drinking, or shopping, eating, sex, etc.

It’s instant gratification.

When we’ve been in seasons of waiting or prolonged delay, we feel that it’s God’s heart to deprive us of things. We start believing we need to suffer to earn God’s blessings.

And when we do receive it we don’t believe we deserve it or that God will take it away.

I went through years of being stripped away of everything. Because those things were places of slavery. I was a slave to what my friends thought of me, what my mom thought of me. I was a slave to my rent and my car bills. I was a slave to societal standards.

When Jesus said “sell everything and follow me” He didn’t mean that He would never bless me and that He wanted me to live like a beggar. He simply meant “if you give everything up, I shall give you true power. You will no longer be a slave to society and you will no longer define yourself by what you have”. However because I will no longer be a slave to the blessings, God will pour out His blessings because He knows as freely as I received as freely I will give.

So all of it is a season of testing.

The more you are able to release, the more He will bless you. I know it sounds crazy but it’s true. He won’t give you above what you can handle.

He wants us to live without fear and following Jesus has helped me to overcome fears I didn’t think I have.

Things God freed me from:

A fear of men and what they think of me- approaching strangers to pray for them. I experience tons of negative reactions. But the more I’m rejected the more I seek refuge in being a daughter of God.

A fear of lack- sometimes not knowing how I’ll eat or pay for accommodation but trusting God and following His instructions to get the provisions I need instead of figuring it out on my own.

A fear of death- knowing that God has my back and His angels are watching over me.

God said to me “you deserve to have what you want, you deserve to be happy”.

“But Lord I suffered so much loss, how can I have what I want?”

“What is it you want?”

“A family. A sense of connectedness with friends and family. Restoration of my family. I want to come out from under the weight of pain and live freely from the past. I don’t just want to help other fulfill their dreams, I want to see my own fulfilled. I want to write tv shows, direct films, design clothes, write books, speak to people on stages, I want to help others through my own dreams.

I want to have the energy to dance again, to run again. I want to experience vitality in my body. It’s been such a long and hard process. I’ve helped thousands of people but I want it for myself too. I want my own family.”

What are your desires? God wants to fulfill them.

You May have been a long and difficult wilderness of delayed desires but God wants to give you what you want. You might be asking why you had to go through all of that but He is saying “now you can contain it- what true power looks like”.

You can not contain God’s power without being a vessel emptied of fear, shame, self hate, condemnation and guilt.

You were a slave; now you are free.

Only a free man/woman can love without manipulating the family God brings to him/her.

Only a free man/woman can have riches and not be a slave to it.

Only a person who knows they are children of God can have worldly success and not allow the fame and worldly power get to his/her head.

Only a person who has gone through the fire can he/she resist the temptations that the next level presents to him/her.

God built you in the fire because otherwise you’d be knocked down by the devil right when God brings your husband, the money, or the family.

God knows the devil will try to destroy your reputation when the fame comes. He knows you couldn’t withstand the accusations back then, but now you know who you are in Christ Jesus. He knew you were ashamed to be called Christian back then, but now you only preach Jesus crucified and resurrected.

The devil could have wiped you out with one accusation from your family, you would’ve been talking about it for one month, maybe a year.

But now you know who you are in Christ Jesus. You know not to get caught up in the devil’s trap. You won’t allow your mouth to speak negatively.

Back then, the devil brought good looking men/women to you and it was easy to sidetrack you. You were easily seduced by flattery and a sign of wealth but now you know a wolf from a true sheep and follower of Jesus.

I’ve met enough wolves to know what a true man of God looks like now!

One look, one sentence, I can tell what a man’s heart is after!

A man after God’s heart may not have luxury cars but they have a heart that will follow God at all costs.

Back then you were so broken you spent your whole paycheck on binge drinking. Now you’ve learned to sow into God’s kingdom and to treat yourself well without needing to hurt your body.

Now you know you are worthy because Jesus paid the price for the blessings so I decree and declare –

You will have what you want! Because your number one delight will always be Jesus Christ!

You will never leave your first love even if the blessings come!

So I prophesy all the things you want rain down! The family, the friends, the finances, success in your business, etc.

This time you will not leave Jesus out.

“Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you”.

I gave everything up to follow Jesus and in return, He has brought incredible kingdom minded friends. People sowed and continue to sow into this kingdom work of bringing Jesus to the nations. Even though it has been really difficult at times, I know in my weakness His strength is made perfect.

These times strengthen my faith.

God is a good Father and even when we don’t understand it, His desire is to bring us to a wholeness that can contain what He desires for us.

A broken vessel allows the fragrance of Jesus to seep through to others.

You need to be broken to have a genuine love for people. I love homeless people on another level because I understand how it feels to go without. I love the hurting because I know how it feels to hurt. I love the wounded because I’ve been wounded.

God is calling us out of the past and into the new season.

Will you grab His hand and walk forward? The new door is open for you! Don’t look back anymore!

The fire and wilderness trained you to see the real from the fake. I’ve battled spirits of witchcraft, accusation and intimidation. I can spot a guilt trip from a mile away. I can sense danger and an angry spirit. I know when to engage and when to walk away.

I know when someone’s ready for help or when they are sent by the devil to distract me!! I know what false responsibility feels and looks like!

I know how much to help someone and when I need to set boundaries. I’ve trained my whole life! Ever since I was born into a broken home, ever since I saw divorce in my family, a mother who became unforgiving and bitter, I know what holding onto a grudge results in!

I know I used to carry false responsibilities thinking they were mine to carry! I know my worth now!

I know what the religious spirit and obligation looks like! I know what guilt feels like! I know the difference between “should” and “want”! God wants us to live in want! Not should’s!

I’ve been set free from the bondage of religion and into true sonship with Jesus, an intimate relationship not based on works but grace!

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Why I Am Saving Myself For Marriage

I heard the Lord say “write it now”. It’s 7:51am here in Auckland.

More than anything, I want a family. I love babies and have been seeing a lot of babies lately. Because of what I didn’t grow up with- a wholesome family with two parents, I desire what I didn’t have.

As I was thinking about this, I felt heartsick. Not only have I been waiting for my husband, I’ve been waiting for sexual intimacy.

I’m a 31 virgin.

Sure I am not a prude and know more about sexual foreplay than most people who have sex – being honest and blunt here because people have a misunderstanding about “virgins”. And I understand my women parts more than most. And yes this is super honest, I know how to climax without intercourse. I’ve had my share of experience and yes I’ve dated men.

I knew how to masturbate at a young age. It involved a floor and my pelvis. Our women parts are intricate but not complicated. However why at a young age I learned to do it? I was lonely and my parents were not home most of the time so it filled a void in my heart.

Our sexual desires always reflects our hearts’ longings for emotional intimacy.

Why did I choose to wait to have sex until marriage?

Of course they taught this at church, but more than anything I wanted to save my heart for my husband.

Because as years went by I saw how broken hearted my friends were after a one night stand.

I had guys tell me “why would I call her again, I already slept with her” as if it was a movie he watched already or a bucket list item.

If we are honest here, any type of physical contact marks our hearts and causes a bond.

I don’t save myself out of guilt or condemnation because there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus.

I have waited this long because I know I’m worthy of love, not just lust or physical attraction. I respect myself too much to give into a physical desire.

And women are actually moved by words, affirmation more than anything. An intimate and supportive emotional connection turns a women on more than touch. She is wired for emotional connection. She is wired by a sense of security, a man who cherishes and loves her and opens his own heart to her.

A woman desires a man to be vulnerable, open, communicative.

So as I put my story out here, I want to encourage all those who are waiting. Even if you’ve decided to be celibate until marriage, it’s worth the wait.

Any man who will in an instant sleep with you doesn’t respect you.

A man who truly loves you will wait, and not only for you, but for his own heart.

What I’ve found is that men will stop respecting you when they know they can get your in pants instantaneously but they will somehow have an emotional attachment to you when they know you’re not “easy”.

And if you didn’t wait, that’s okay.

All things are new in Christ Jesus. He does not condemn anyone. He loves you.

But you are worth more than a physical release – which to be honest, is often what sex is for some guys. They’ve shut their hearts down so much, they think one physical release can satisfy their shut down hearts. It’s like all this pent up emotions they can’t seem to express with words.

I know this is an intensely personal post but I pray it may bring some relief to your heart.

God loves you and wants the best for you.

You deserve the best.

I am by far perfect. One of my top love language is touch so you can imagine my struggle. But I know God’s best is out there for me and I’m meeting him soon.

I wanted to add that in order to live out God’s best for you you must receive Jesus into your heart. When you know Jesus died on the cross for you and you are no longer an orphan, the Holy Spirit dwells within you and causes you to transform from the inside out.

He will supernaturally heal your heart, take you away from bad habits and harmful desires. It’s all Him, not self discipline! His grace changes everything!

The more you understand grace, the more your life will improve!

Today if you haven’t received Jesus into your heart ask Jesus to enter your heart, trust that He has taken all your sins and mistakes on the cross and you are free now, a child of God, uncondemned!

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Fearless Coaching

God said “it’s time to relaunch your coaching business”.

Are you in need of inner healing? Do you feel stuck? Do you feel like there is cloud over your head. 
Get set free. 

I will help you maneuver through the confusions of life and give you spiritual and emotional insight into what is actually happening.

+overcome fear
+move through debilitating transitions 
+make changes in your life 
+overcome romantic traumas and move forward into healthy relationships 
+get freed from living for others’ approval

+ have feelings of shame? Insecurities that prevent you from going for what you want?

God wants you to live in freedom!!! The good news is I have been through all kinds of oppression and have overcome what I’ve talked about. Regret, fear, shame, guilt? Been there. Failed relationships and friendships? Been there. Divorced parents? Been there.

Never ending feeling of I’m not enough? Been there?

God has stabilized my identity in Him so much that I’ve gotten to the point in life that I know I am enough no matter the circumstances.

I’ve arrived. Not in my circumstances, but in my identity.

I want you to have the same confidence. I want you to live without fear.

I am a Los Angeles based coach who is currently in New Zealand (or some other country). Coaching sessions are conducted via video calls.

All sessions are completed via Skype, FaceTime or fb messenger video! $89 usd for an hour intro coaching session. Get unstuck!

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Give Yourself Permission to Live

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I’d rather be a weak vessel,

because a weak vessel can hear the sound of love and live out the love breathed into this world through me.

I’d rather be a weak vessel,

so that I can pack my bags and follow the sound of love at any whim.

I’d rather be a weak vessel,

because when I’m being, I can listen closely to the hearts of the hurting.

One of the most beautiful moments in life is when you realize you’re not alone. Yesterday in a deep conversation with a friend, I realized that I was not alone and that I needed to release myself from judgement. This is the inner talk we all battle with. What are we telling ourselves? I realized that I often try to control my life because I don’t want to make the mistakes I made in the past, but control comes from fear and where fear is, there is always death (death of self, death of aliveness). And where there is fear, there is no room for your true self to flourish.

And in the eyes of my friend, I realized her deep joy came from her deep sorrow, but from her sorrow, the ability to laugh and cry- acceptance in who she was and acceptance of others. And there was true beauty in that moment. Authentic human connection does not come from us teaching others to be “strong” but in connecting in our human “weaknesses”, it’s accepting that we are not perfect and allowing ourselves to be free and unhindered. For those few hours, I saw beauty in myself reflected through her. What is true about me that is truth in her?

I needed to surrender and release myself and that I did. Fully and completely. Even if it meant lying on my bathroom mat crying. We can all smile this Christmas, but the joys come from our deep human connection…not superficial talks, but celebrating the mess and the triumphs. It’s been a beautiful year, and I’m grateful for everyone that has made this year beautiful.

YOU ARE INVITED: How To Sell Funky Fresh Products and Services WORKSHOP

YOU ARE INVITED: How To Sell Funky Fresh Products and Services WORKSHOP

HOW TO SELL FUNKY FRESH PRODUCTS AND SERVICES

Located in Los Angeles on June 11.

A Workshop for Funky Fresh Creatives and Business Folks!

Learn HOW to start selling your Products and Services with Super Dope Chicks- a partnership between Jasmine Powers of Ambitious Diva (www.ambitiousdiva.com) and Rebekka Lien of Unlock Your Destiny (www.rebekkalien.com)

+ How to buy great stuff to sell – Buying, testing, trends, moving product
+ How to sell on ebay?
+ How to create your online/offline store (WordPress plugins, HTML, ecommerce platforms)
+ Marketing & PR to build your buzz
+ Finding people who will buy your goods
+ Creating a blueprint to a successful life/career
+ Inventory and Biz Stuff – Inventory Management, Accounting, Tools

Panelists:

Rebekka Lien, Unlock Your Destiny & Rebekka Lien

Jasmine Powers, Ambitious Diva

Tiffany La Vonne, Tiffany La Vonne Couture

Other funky fresh retailers and design professionals to TBD

Who are Super Dope Chicks?

Rebekka Lien: Rebekka Lien is a Serial Entrepreneur, Life Coach, Realtor and Business Artisan who started her business with nothing after quitting her full time job. She guides her clients to UNLOCK THEIR DESTINY through Transformative Coaching & Business Consulting. http://www.rebekkalien.com

Jasmine Powers: Digital Marketing Strategist, Blogger, Graphic and Web Designer, Author, Speaker, and Online Retailer aka Creative Marketing Diva. She helps female entrepreneurs reach their personal and professional life goals through her integrated marketing agency, Ambitious Diva Company.www.ambitiousdiva.com

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JEWELRY SALE THIS SUNDAY for Cause of India!

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This is the beauty of divine synchronicity! I met Elizabeth Hunt at a cafe and we hit it off right away. I was enlightened with the idea of helping her raise funds for her volunteer trip to Bangalore, India and will be donating 50% of all jewelry proceeds to her trip. She is a delight and joy to humanity. 

 Join us this coming Sunday for Chai Tea and Jewelry, Accessories and Handmade Soaps!

RSVP HERE: https://www.facebook.com/events/145901832265825/

Open To The Public! 

My first Podcast- How To BEGIN LIVING Your DREAMS

My first Podcast- the story is just bursting out of my heart that I cannot contain it ANY LONGER! This is only a short summary of what I went through to live my dreams. I hope you find inspiration and hope to ACT DESPITE YOUR FEARS! 

The manuscript-

Hi Everyone! I want to share my story with the world.

A lot of people ask me, how do I know where to begin? How do I know what I should do in life? How did you get to where you are today?

You see, I’m not where I want to be yet, but I am living the life I want to live now.

 Only 1% have the courage to make the entrepreneurial leap into success. It’s all about risk.

You see, 2 years ago, I quit my full time job after 9 months of stability. I felt like I was trapped in a cage. I had worked in the fashion industry for 4-5 years and wanted the normal job with health insurance. I thought that was the only way I could reach success. I would just climb my way up to the top and I knew I could.

However, the level of pain, suffering and death within me broke me.

I quit and never looked back.

When I quit my full time job, I used the money I had to travel to Australia for a month. When I came back, I was broke, but was inspired by street vendors who sold jewelry on the street. I started selling my own jewelry and it turned into a business.

In the beginning of my self- employed years, I ate a lot of rice and kale because I could not afford to buy groceries. I was late on rent and often suffered immense turmoil from struggling to find my way.

After traveling once more and going through some inner healing, one day I woke up and wrote down everything I was good at or had the abilities to do. I ended up writing down: cello, piano, writing, mandarin, sewing….etc…I posted on craigslist and started getting clients. I was really shocked at first, but felt blessed to know there was a FREE way to get clients.

This story is really just a small summary of what I went through…Iong story short I tried everything. I was on Let’s Make a Deal, I got to touch Wayne Brady on the shoulders, I worked in retail, had lots of shows, enjoyed free shows in Silverlake, diversified my skills and monetized everything I could.

Still, it was not enough. My boyfriend suggested I get into Real Estate and I started working in the industry last year. Today I am a life coach who helps unlock peoples destiny, a sewing instructor and a realtor. I have jewelry consigned with various local businesses and give back to the community by providing work for people.

My advice for people who are looking to start something new, don’t wait, don’t hesitate, just jump.

I get criticized a lot for my unconventional ways of doing things….for not doing things perfect sometimes or not using recycle paper to create my flyers and using bootstrap methods to create something grand out of nothing. But AT LEAST I TRIED, AT LEAST I put myself out there, and that has made ALL THE DIFFERENCE. I would not have started living my dreams if I didnt listen to my intuition and the ways of the universe. Don’t aim for perfect, aim for jumping already.

Rebekka Lien,
Unlock Your Destiny Life Coach, REALTOR & 
Creative Music/Fashion Instructor 
 
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