Go Into the New Years Celebrating The Highlights of 2014!

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At the Pasadena Frenchie Meetup- Merry Christmas!

HOLA! 2015 is coming and in my “let’s just get over December, get over this resting period” I was struck with a reminder that I needed to be thankful for the little and big victories of 2014. I encourage you to LIST OUT the major highlights of your year (per month)…not what others may find significant, but what is close to your heart. This will reveal your passion and what truly lights you up. 

In 2014, I got out of a long term relationship. I put it out there because I want to be real with you. A few highlights:

Jan-May: Took a German class, super intensive, got to know a DJ and a cool gal. Started writing for San Gabriel Valley Journal/Monterey Park Journal. This was a 9 month ordeal, every month I wrote about my revelations of life, relationships and love.

Jan: Started a group called Kreativehaus, an organic community

March: Flew to Orlando for a Wealth Conference, was struck with realizations about my life and relationships, then ended my relationship which was 2.3 years.

May: Gave my first super long seminar to high school students and youths as well as a seminar at my real estate company. Beginning of speaking more! Took a 3 day solitude retreat to Big Bear, here I was struck with epiphanies on how I was to live life in faith and love.

Between April- July: Started teaching Yoga and Meditation, created a community of people who longed for relaxation, connection with self and connection with the universe. I started taking a COMEDY IMPROV CLASS, in class, the teacher suggested I do commercial acting and this was in line with that desire to act. I signed up and got an acting agent right away. Blessed, totally.

Went to a hollywood acting seminar, ended up listening to Christopher Pratt talk about Steve Jobs and how he manifested his reality and time traveled to his own desired destination. This is called Reality Bending. I decided I was going to Europe at the end of the year, didn’t know how, didn’t have enough funds, but was going to do it.

August: Held my first self- made Entrepreneur Workshop on how to make money doing what you love. Realized it was WAY too much work to host on my own. But I realized that I love teaching people to live a better life.

September: FINISHED MY FIRST EBOOK! “How To Make Money Doing What You Love”, super self published. Have sold about 20 copies so far! You can get it here: Get a free 30 coaching session with purchase before December 30. 

September- December: September 24 I flew to London (yes by myself) to begin 2 months of who knows what. I banked my journey on the belief that the universe would take care of me. Look, my life is totally NOT perfect. I struggle so much sometimes, people don’t see it, I cry 3 out of 7 days for a month sometimes….probably buckets of tears. For this trip, I decided to cut family ties so I could be a TRUE independent and not even rely on my mom for EMOTIONAL SUPPORT. 

On this trip, I went to London for 1.6 weeks, Amsterdam for 2 days (where I got SUPER sick), Berlin for 10 days, Prague for 10 days or more, Florence, Rome, Naples, Paris, Barcelona. My biggest lessons learn: Learn to TRUST God, learn to TRUST yourself, LET GO, and TRUST.

On a walk in Paris, I was inspired and heard SMART SPIRITUAL SEXY. I started a website plus facebook group named “Smart Spiritual Sexy”. 

December: December 12 I officially signed on with Howard Talent West agency for Commercial Acting and Print. At an interview with a casting director, she suggested I should start my own show, so I finally started THE BEX SHOW (conversations about love, life and work)! My agent and I below!

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And of course, I did real estate, and it doubled from last year, though I became a lease manager later on so that I was less hands on. I realized I needed to pursue what made me come alive and that if I did ANYTHING for the money, it would drain my heart. So I’m pursuing my middle school dream now and I intend to complete every dream I’ve had since I was a child.

Obviously, I also had SOME REALLY significant friendships throughout 2014. MAJOR.

Things I learned this year:

1. Learn to trust your heart

2. True freedom comes from setting boundaries and cutting soul ties from people you are co-dependent on (including parents, people!!!)

3. Smell the roses because you are always HERE AND NOW, never in the past, never in the future. And whenever POSSIBLE, PLEASE DANCE and celebrate YOU!

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4. Love and treat yourself well, because this sets an example of how people should treat you.

5. Ask and Ask and Ask, and if they don’t give you what you want, it’s time to move on (whoever it is, a partner, a boss, etc).

6. Friends aren’t forever, learn to move on so you can meet friends that are on your level.

7. Don’t let people determine your worth based on what you’ve earned in $ signs- you are worthy no matter what. But also true accomplishment comes from feeling fulfilled, knowing that you are contributing to others and doing something that fulfills your heart and passion. I can honestly say that as an entrepreneur, I often feel depleted and feel like less than who I really am, but you have to pat yourself on the back..

The question is – did you take risks? Did you take lots of calculated risks and put yourself out there so you could potentially reach your goals? Then that’s all that matters. Every risk you take is planting seeds for your dreams to sprout into a big giant tree. Your friends and family might not see it yet and because of that, they criticize you or judge you, but just let them know that a bamboo takes 5 years to show ANY signs of GROWTH above the SOIL! 

At the end of the day, you know that if you took risks, you took it because you know you are worth it. 

I’m so proud of you, we’ve come a far ways, but we’ve also grown internally and how we see ourselves is everything.

What Is Your Definition of Freedom?

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Define freedom. 

I am sure most Americans believe that they are free, free to FREE speech, free to be, and I also wonder how many people in this world long for true freedom within. The majority of humanity is longing for something more, whether it is happiness, freedom, peace. Even though we are given the human rights to speak up, to earn a living  and to be with whoever we want to be, do whatever we like and want, many are still living in FEAR, COMPROMISE, and CONFORMITY. 

When I was in my teenage years, I did not fit in and longed to fit in with all my heart. I tried hard, but to no avail. I was not meant to fit in and I accepted that. When I started creating my own opportunities in life, creating the life I wanted to live, I received a lot of criticism. 

The criticisms were either that I was NOT patient enough to sit at a desk from 9 to 5 or that I should JUST accept reality. This reality that people painted for me was not pleasant. I wondered why people would sacrifice their own happiness to conform to this dreadful reality. 

What is my definition of Freedom?

1. Freedom is knowing and accepting all of who you are and loving who you are created to be. It is listening to your desires and your ideas and allowing YOURSELF to be the fullest expression of who you were created to be. Many of us have abandoned our true desires and have tried to fit in to appease those around us.

2. Freedom is accepting others for who they really are, not for the expectations we have of them. It is loving them for who they are, but also understanding that you CANNOT change a person, you can only influence them. 

3. Freedom is letting GO of societal expectations and what people think of you. If you listen to yourself enough, you will hear the true desires in your heart versus the voices outside of you. When we embrace who we are, we start to walk in the fullest confidence of our being…we then no longer need peoples’ approval.

4. Freedom is LIVING out the fullest expression of who you are. The great thing about living in freedom is that you will start to meet like-minded people that speaks your language of vision and creativity. Live in the wisdom that comes with being you.

5. Freedom is ALLOWING yourself to fail to create something great. I have probably failed many times in my entrepreneurial career, but I never thought of them as failures….I thought of them as free education. I knew that every step was a step up, a puzzle piece fitting into the perfect picture that was to come 10, 20, 30 years down the line. 

6. Freedom is allowing yourself to be YOUR NAME _________________, and not the title the world has given you. Status is so important in America, it defines your worth. That is a lie that we have believed in, but need to replace with the truth of our worth in __________(your name). Our worth is infinite, beautiful, sacred. Our worth as human beings are spiritual, eternal. Today I connected with another entrepreneur and was so inspired by his story of building up his insurance business from scratch, in that moment, there was beauty….not because of what he had accomplished, but in the goodness that was in his actions and heart. I was impressed by the way he treated his employees and how he gave with an open heart, we need more goodness in this world! I believe it is because he has accepted the true desires of his heart to be a giver and a gift to the world. 

What is your definition of freedom? 

YOU ARE INVITED: How To Sell Funky Fresh Products and Services WORKSHOP

YOU ARE INVITED: How To Sell Funky Fresh Products and Services WORKSHOP

HOW TO SELL FUNKY FRESH PRODUCTS AND SERVICES

Located in Los Angeles on June 11.

A Workshop for Funky Fresh Creatives and Business Folks!

Learn HOW to start selling your Products and Services with Super Dope Chicks- a partnership between Jasmine Powers of Ambitious Diva (www.ambitiousdiva.com) and Rebekka Lien of Unlock Your Destiny (www.rebekkalien.com)

+ How to buy great stuff to sell – Buying, testing, trends, moving product
+ How to sell on ebay?
+ How to create your online/offline store (WordPress plugins, HTML, ecommerce platforms)
+ Marketing & PR to build your buzz
+ Finding people who will buy your goods
+ Creating a blueprint to a successful life/career
+ Inventory and Biz Stuff – Inventory Management, Accounting, Tools

Panelists:

Rebekka Lien, Unlock Your Destiny & Rebekka Lien

Jasmine Powers, Ambitious Diva

Tiffany La Vonne, Tiffany La Vonne Couture

Other funky fresh retailers and design professionals to TBD

Who are Super Dope Chicks?

Rebekka Lien: Rebekka Lien is a Serial Entrepreneur, Life Coach, Realtor and Business Artisan who started her business with nothing after quitting her full time job. She guides her clients to UNLOCK THEIR DESTINY through Transformative Coaching & Business Consulting. http://www.rebekkalien.com

Jasmine Powers: Digital Marketing Strategist, Blogger, Graphic and Web Designer, Author, Speaker, and Online Retailer aka Creative Marketing Diva. She helps female entrepreneurs reach their personal and professional life goals through her integrated marketing agency, Ambitious Diva Company.www.ambitiousdiva.com

REGISTER TODAY • LIMITED SEATED • IN DEMAND PREMIUM EVENT •TICKETS GOING FAST –

A SMALL investment of $25 here, gain thousands of dollars in knowledge all in 1 night: http://sdcselling-eac2.eventbrite.com/

Facebook Invite: https://www.facebook.com/events/127791127422084

JEWELRY SALE THIS SUNDAY for Cause of India!

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This is the beauty of divine synchronicity! I met Elizabeth Hunt at a cafe and we hit it off right away. I was enlightened with the idea of helping her raise funds for her volunteer trip to Bangalore, India and will be donating 50% of all jewelry proceeds to her trip. She is a delight and joy to humanity. 

 Join us this coming Sunday for Chai Tea and Jewelry, Accessories and Handmade Soaps!

RSVP HERE: https://www.facebook.com/events/145901832265825/

Open To The Public! 

My first Podcast- How To BEGIN LIVING Your DREAMS

My first Podcast- the story is just bursting out of my heart that I cannot contain it ANY LONGER! This is only a short summary of what I went through to live my dreams. I hope you find inspiration and hope to ACT DESPITE YOUR FEARS! 

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Hi Everyone! I want to share my story with the world.

A lot of people ask me, how do I know where to begin? How do I know what I should do in life? How did you get to where you are today?

You see, I’m not where I want to be yet, but I am living the life I want to live now.

 Only 1% have the courage to make the entrepreneurial leap into success. It’s all about risk.

You see, 2 years ago, I quit my full time job after 9 months of stability. I felt like I was trapped in a cage. I had worked in the fashion industry for 4-5 years and wanted the normal job with health insurance. I thought that was the only way I could reach success. I would just climb my way up to the top and I knew I could.

However, the level of pain, suffering and death within me broke me.

I quit and never looked back.

When I quit my full time job, I used the money I had to travel to Australia for a month. When I came back, I was broke, but was inspired by street vendors who sold jewelry on the street. I started selling my own jewelry and it turned into a business.

In the beginning of my self- employed years, I ate a lot of rice and kale because I could not afford to buy groceries. I was late on rent and often suffered immense turmoil from struggling to find my way.

After traveling once more and going through some inner healing, one day I woke up and wrote down everything I was good at or had the abilities to do. I ended up writing down: cello, piano, writing, mandarin, sewing….etc…I posted on craigslist and started getting clients. I was really shocked at first, but felt blessed to know there was a FREE way to get clients.

This story is really just a small summary of what I went through…Iong story short I tried everything. I was on Let’s Make a Deal, I got to touch Wayne Brady on the shoulders, I worked in retail, had lots of shows, enjoyed free shows in Silverlake, diversified my skills and monetized everything I could.

Still, it was not enough. My boyfriend suggested I get into Real Estate and I started working in the industry last year. Today I am a life coach who helps unlock peoples destiny, a sewing instructor and a realtor. I have jewelry consigned with various local businesses and give back to the community by providing work for people.

My advice for people who are looking to start something new, don’t wait, don’t hesitate, just jump.

I get criticized a lot for my unconventional ways of doing things….for not doing things perfect sometimes or not using recycle paper to create my flyers and using bootstrap methods to create something grand out of nothing. But AT LEAST I TRIED, AT LEAST I put myself out there, and that has made ALL THE DIFFERENCE. I would not have started living my dreams if I didnt listen to my intuition and the ways of the universe. Don’t aim for perfect, aim for jumping already.

Rebekka Lien,
Unlock Your Destiny Life Coach, REALTOR & 
Creative Music/Fashion Instructor 
 
*Referrals appreciated! Please Share, Tweet, Refer Me!*

You Can’t Have It All

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Believe it or not, you can’t have it all.

I mean, you have to let go of somethings in order to get better things. If you watch Hoarders, you will know…you cannot have a good life hoarding.

I know this might be completely stupid, but I did not know that bleach obviously bleaches and dyes all your clothes. Yesterday, I ran out of detergent and decided to use the last of my bleach for my clothes. Yes, I know, I went to Fashion School, but we never used bleach and on the bleach bottle, it said I could use it to wash clothes…..I ended up masacre-ing ALL MY CLOTHES. It was so hard breaking. Some came out good, but some came out horrid.

I think it was God telling me to let go. Let go of my old clothes, of my stubbornness, of my old ways of thinking.

You see, without letting go, we do not open our hands to the good things that are coming NEXT. 

We clench onto what we already have, already think about life.

Fortunately, as an ENTREPRENEUR, you are a LEARNER…which means, you MUST constantly ADAPT, ADJUST, LISTEN. This is a season of listening well my friends. 

Any great entrepreneur MUST listen and not simply drone and WALK on to the beat of society. Yesterday, I had several mishaps. Spilled wine on my couch, massacred my clothes, did not win my 3 parking tickets (PARKING TICKETS ARE THE WORSE!), and more. I was pretty miserable, but….today….I REFUSED To let it get to me.

It is because, I know there is a bigger picture.

Your life might not be the most pleasant right now. Perhaps you are going through crisis, relational, financial, emotional….career crisis. But there is hope, this hope relies on YOUR ability and CHOICE to FOCUS on what you’re grateful for….and the CHOICE to be PRESENT in each and every day. 

I think another thing I was reminded of is that MATERIAL WEALTH can be burned away, bleached away, destroyed- but integrity, character and spiritual wealth is eternal.

Sometimes we try to SAVE, hoping it will protect us from tragedy….but we end up paying more for saving the crappy stuff we already have. So give it up, and let the new thing come.

Material Hoarding – Hoarding material things

Emotional Hoarding– Not forgiving, not letting go of the past

Mindset Hoarding– Not letting go of OLD mindsets, patterns or perspectives in life

…..The list goes on, but TODAY WRITE DOWN 1 THING YOU HAVE NOT LET GO OF and you know will stop you from moving forward. Then COMMIT to LET IT GO! 

PICTURES FROM THE SHOW HOARDERS: (EW….)

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How To Make Things Happen

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What is the difference between people who live the life they desire versus the people who don’t? How do people MAKE THINGS HAPPEN? Are they just lucky, more positive, more personable, was born happier and more positive….or is it a choice?

I believe it’s a CHOICE.

Over the years, I have studied lots of mentors and coaches. I have watched the Secret, observed peoples’ lives and I have come to 1 SINGLE conclusion.

Everything is a CHOICE.

You might have been raised by a horrible family or had a monstrous childhood, but in the end, who creates YOUR destiny? You do.

I started out my multiple businesses with pretty much nothing in my bank, I didn’t take out a loan, I simply had FAITH. I chose FAITH. I chose to believe that there was the universe watching out for me. Having nothing DROVE me to the very core of my dreams. I became an obsessive artist, because I knew that NOTHING could stop me….I had already nothing, so I could only GO UP.

How do you make things happen?? 

1. Be a huge OPPORTUNITY CONNECTER– I see opportunities EVERYWHERE. I basically CREATE opportunities until I feel COMPLETELY depleted. However, the world has ENDLESS opportunities.

A few weeks ago, I was part of an Artisan Fair. I compiled an EMAIL LIST which included contacts I had never met, but somehow I had their business cards. I wasn’t scared to add them….even though several folks requested that I take them off my list.

1 LADY showed up and we connected. I was pleasantly surprised to be honest, because I didn’t even know her…yet she got my email. She owned an art gallery located not too far from Pasadena. I told her that we should connect, that I wanted to collaborate with her since she had space.

Yesterday we met up and I booked a speaking event! My mind moves fast, your brain has got to think fast. Deplete the possibilities. Speaking gigs are great because it positions YOU as an EXPERT (whatever FIELD OR INDUSTRY you’re in).

2. Be a DESTINY MAKER NOT A VICTIM of YOUR DESTINY- 

+ Destiny Makers

  • Don’t whine, don’t complain (that much…they complain and find solutions).
  • Don’t get caught up with failures, learn and improve for the next.
  • Do INTENTIONALLY focus on the positive, SAY THANKS always and ARE grateful for the little and big things.
  • Don’t focus on self, but find ways to help others through COLLABORATION.
  • Loves to have fun.

+ Victim of Destiny

  • Believes that others don’t understand them.
  • Believes that they are alone.
  • Believes that the universe and life is against them….
  • Sulks and makes their lives miserable and others as well…

You get the point.

3. Know what you want- stick to it

Know what you want, write it down, write down WHY you want it. This will compel your life to great heights.

Never give up.

I could have given up and applied to more FULL TIME JOBS. Life could have been really dreary for me, but I decided to NEVER go back. I might still work full time hours, or even more- because I’m so obsessed with work (like blogging is an obsession if my mind is filled with inspiration). I could work 3 hours in the real estate office, show houses for an hour, drop off inventory to a store and come home still wanting to blog and maybe I’ll be finally ready to chomp down on double chocolate ice cream.

I’m starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel….it started from the ground up.