At the Pasadena Frenchie Meetup- Merry Christmas!
HOLA! 2015 is coming and in my “let’s just get over December, get over this resting period” I was struck with a reminder that I needed to be thankful for the little and big victories of 2014. I encourage you to LIST OUT the major highlights of your year (per month)…not what others may find significant, but what is close to your heart. This will reveal your passion and what truly lights you up.
In 2014, I got out of a long term relationship. I put it out there because I want to be real with you. A few highlights:
Jan-May: Took a German class, super intensive, got to know a DJ and a cool gal. Started writing for San Gabriel Valley Journal/Monterey Park Journal. This was a 9 month ordeal, every month I wrote about my revelations of life, relationships and love.
Jan: Started a group called Kreativehaus, an organic community
March: Flew to Orlando for a Wealth Conference, was struck with realizations about my life and relationships, then ended my relationship which was 2.3 years.
May: Gave my first super long seminar to high school students and youths as well as a seminar at my real estate company. Beginning of speaking more! Took a 3 day solitude retreat to Big Bear, here I was struck with epiphanies on how I was to live life in faith and love.
Between April- July: Started teaching Yoga and Meditation, created a community of people who longed for relaxation, connection with self and connection with the universe. I started taking a COMEDY IMPROV CLASS, in class, the teacher suggested I do commercial acting and this was in line with that desire to act. I signed up and got an acting agent right away. Blessed, totally.
Went to a hollywood acting seminar, ended up listening to Christopher Pratt talk about Steve Jobs and how he manifested his reality and time traveled to his own desired destination. This is called Reality Bending. I decided I was going to Europe at the end of the year, didn’t know how, didn’t have enough funds, but was going to do it.
August: Held my first self- made Entrepreneur Workshop on how to make money doing what you love. Realized it was WAY too much work to host on my own. But I realized that I love teaching people to live a better life.
September: FINISHED MY FIRST EBOOK! “How To Make Money Doing What You Love”, super self published. Have sold about 20 copies so far! You can get it here: Get a free 30 coaching session with purchase before December 30.
September- December: September 24 I flew to London (yes by myself) to begin 2 months of who knows what. I banked my journey on the belief that the universe would take care of me. Look, my life is totally NOT perfect. I struggle so much sometimes, people don’t see it, I cry 3 out of 7 days for a month sometimes….probably buckets of tears. For this trip, I decided to cut family ties so I could be a TRUE independent and not even rely on my mom for EMOTIONAL SUPPORT.
On this trip, I went to London for 1.6 weeks, Amsterdam for 2 days (where I got SUPER sick), Berlin for 10 days, Prague for 10 days or more, Florence, Rome, Naples, Paris, Barcelona. My biggest lessons learn: Learn to TRUST God, learn to TRUST yourself, LET GO, and TRUST.
On a walk in Paris, I was inspired and heard SMART SPIRITUAL SEXY. I started a website plus facebook group named “Smart Spiritual Sexy”.
December: December 12 I officially signed on with Howard Talent West agency for Commercial Acting and Print. At an interview with a casting director, she suggested I should start my own show, so I finally started THE BEX SHOW (conversations about love, life and work)! My agent and I below!
And of course, I did real estate, and it doubled from last year, though I became a lease manager later on so that I was less hands on. I realized I needed to pursue what made me come alive and that if I did ANYTHING for the money, it would drain my heart. So I’m pursuing my middle school dream now and I intend to complete every dream I’ve had since I was a child.
Obviously, I also had SOME REALLY significant friendships throughout 2014. MAJOR.
Things I learned this year:
1. Learn to trust your heart
2. True freedom comes from setting boundaries and cutting soul ties from people you are co-dependent on (including parents, people!!!)
3. Smell the roses because you are always HERE AND NOW, never in the past, never in the future. And whenever POSSIBLE, PLEASE DANCE and celebrate YOU!
4. Love and treat yourself well, because this sets an example of how people should treat you.
5. Ask and Ask and Ask, and if they don’t give you what you want, it’s time to move on (whoever it is, a partner, a boss, etc).
6. Friends aren’t forever, learn to move on so you can meet friends that are on your level.
7. Don’t let people determine your worth based on what you’ve earned in $ signs- you are worthy no matter what. But also true accomplishment comes from feeling fulfilled, knowing that you are contributing to others and doing something that fulfills your heart and passion. I can honestly say that as an entrepreneur, I often feel depleted and feel like less than who I really am, but you have to pat yourself on the back..
The question is – did you take risks? Did you take lots of calculated risks and put yourself out there so you could potentially reach your goals? Then that’s all that matters. Every risk you take is planting seeds for your dreams to sprout into a big giant tree. Your friends and family might not see it yet and because of that, they criticize you or judge you, but just let them know that a bamboo takes 5 years to show ANY signs of GROWTH above the SOIL!
At the end of the day, you know that if you took risks, you took it because you know you are worth it.
I’m so proud of you, we’ve come a far ways, but we’ve also grown internally and how we see ourselves is everything.