Are You Ready To Live Authentically? Here’s How.

On May 11, 2015 By Rebekka LienIn self-helpLeave a comment

You are unstoppable, my friend, my mentor, my mom, my ally.

You are unstoppable, only you can determine your destiny. There are angels waiting to disperse at the echo of your words and commitment. Are you committed to being unstoppable? Will you let the challenges of life stop you from your purpose? Will you let momentary afflictions be your stopping point? Will you simply stare at the stop sign that men made, or will you walk across the street.

Recently I’ve been walking 2 miles plus a day. The stop light in Pasadena is quite relentless. WAIT, WAIT, WAIT the light goes, maybe it’s for the blind, but maybe also for those that need a little reminder that your purpose sometimes makes you wait. It’s unnerving, scary, like what the hell is going on?

But once it squeaks out “walk sign is on”, it’s an okay for you to go, knowing you’ll be safe….

Although I’ve gone through some rough patches recently, not knowing where life will take me, where God is leading me…I’ve held onto rock solid faith…it’s helped me to open up to close friends about what I’ve been going through. From the outside, I’m a fun loving human being doing amazing things, but every hero has a story. Sometimes life gets dark, so dark I started sleeping 12 hours at one point, not necessarily because I was truly resting …but because I was depressed.

I thought too much. I thought about whether my life even made any sense- why did I sell all my furniture, minimalize my life to this extent? Did it make sense that I forsaw myself traveling around the world, living in hotels, airbnb’s, couchsurfing, and making friends while speaking, selling books on autopilot and making bank without doing anything called “work” (but simply being 100% me and being super passionate about telling my story, healing the broken hearted and awakening people to their true identity and dreams)…did all of this even make any sense when my current reality didn’t seem so positive?

But in the midst of crying my heart out to a friend, I realized that it’s all going to be okay. Knowing that I wasn’t the only one struggling in life helped me to see that vulnerability is everything. Without struggles, we wouldn’t need each other to vent to….we truly NEED each other to live in peace, love and hope. When I hear that I’m not the only one, that there are tons of other people on instagram who are building awesome, amazing, life and world changing businesses, I can hope again. I’m not the ONLY one out here living for something MORE.

I WANT MORE of life, more of passion, more of freedom, more of love.

I WANT TO SEE change in this world, in my life, in yours.

What’s the MORE you want?

WHAT ARE YOU HUNGRY FOR? What is YOUR HEART HUNGRY for?

Be honest, be vulnerable. Until you can pour out your fears to someone, rip open the bandage and show all of that nasty stuff….you’re really living a lie, covering up the little child within. Let it out, you need to be heard, you need to be loved. Once you do that, something magical happens…you’re able to live the authentic life, for the passions and people you truly love.

What has hurt the most in your life is probably the healing story you’ll be part of in your passion.

So for me…it is healing from growing up with an absent father and learning to trust God for that which I lacked growing up, stability, finance, security, protection. I’m a survivor. I grew up always on guard, my heart was always protecting itself. I was always ready to defend myself, physically and mentally…but deep down, I was scared shitless.

I’ve managed to screw up and self-sabotage areas of my life that could have sprout up. But I don’t live in regret, since that leads to death. No, I live in hope and renewal everyday because everyday is a clean slate.

My passion and life purpose lies in helping people to identify their broken story and to heal that which they overprotect….the wounds, the nasty stuff under the bandage…the shit that has been rotting under your heart, so deep that no one can get to WHO YOU REALLY ARE. The facade you layer on, the shit you buy to cover who you really are….I know those wounds are there, but do you? You are not going to bullshit me with that nice suit or that designer bag. You are not going to bullshit me with your prized job title, no no no, most people see the outward appearance but God sees the heart.

And well, I see your heart too.

It’s hurting.

So let it out, be real. Until you do that, you can’t receive love….how can you? Until you let someone see those fears, those wounds….you can’t mend those wounds, apply ointment to heal that scab…It’s all covered up. Some of you have done a really good job of that.

Are you ready to live authentically?

Forgiveness As A Way Of Life

On May 8, 2015May 8, 2015 By Rebekka LienIn forgiveness, self-help, spirtualLeave a comment

“What great thing would you attempt if you knew you could not fail?” — Robert Schuller

To truly live life to the fullest, to be passionately pursuing life and your dreams, you must overlook the mistakes you will make. You must be slow to judge, slow to condemn, slow to be offended. You must manuever quickly because we are all human and we all make mistakes. To be an artist, an entrepreneur, you must make mistakes to be a great one. You must make big mistakes, I think that’s a requirement, it creates depth and depth is seen in your work.

I love hearing the sound of rain, the sound of cars driving on a watered road. After watching Lost in Thailand on Netflix, I had this urge to write about my recent heart journey. Ever since I came back from Hawaii, I’ve been releasing even more negative vibes out of my life. Though I had already sold all of my furniture and reduced my clothes to fit into a duffle bag, I was not done with starting over.

I also needed to once and for all forgive everyone that had ever hurt me in my life. As I started writing down names of people I wanted to forgive and release from my heart, no longer requiring their validation, approval or apologies, I realized there was a theme of “lack of affection/attention” or “negative words or words of rejection”, some that consisted of people making judgements on me even though they had known me for years, yet perhaps out of a lack of love in their own hearts, chose to see me as someone i was not…out of the attempt to control someone they could not control- me.

I also had to forgive myself for “wasted years” when the truth is….I needed to go through what I went through to see the precious worth of my time and life. I remember telling a stranger that I learned a lot from my past relationship, he replies “well you sure learn a lot after a beating” (now that’s an analogy). We don’t always need to learn from hardships or heartbreak, we can learn from wisdom, from listening to our hearts.

Well, now I can help others who struggle with self-worth and rejection. I also needed to learn what it meant to invest time, energy and heart into my closest relationship and that it was not selfish of me to spend time alone or not want to spend time with mere strangers. I saw that as my influence inclined, many people wanted to “spend time with me” to talk about “their issues”, which I do offer in my coaching sessions. Unless you are a close friend of mine, I will not invest time and energy to get “freeloaded”. In order to be the best that I can be, I need to protect my time with myself and most of all, meditate and pray. But I also learn that it is better to have a flexible heart than inflexible ritual. That’s why I’m not big on rituals or things that take away from my heart.

I commit to things because it makes me happy, not because I feel guilt-tripped into it. Who are the people you need to forgive? What did they say or do that hurt you and how did it make you feel in terms of value, worth or significance? Because unless you continue to receive forgiveness and forgive others, the manifestation of our lives are simply an image. Heart growth, heart healing is what counts, unless this is dealt with….all the fruit of our labors will rot.

Trust me on this. Everything you’ve ever worked for will become bitter fruit, wrought out of a bitter root (your heart). Allow your heart to become healthy so that love can flow freely into every area of your life. If you haven’t released forgiveness or people from your heart, they are taking up SPACE for the people that want to love and be loved by you.

My commitments in this life:

1. To know that I have already been forgiven and am free to make mistakes

2. To allow others to be themselves and to allow them to make mistakes just as I make mistakes

3. To know that there is no such thing as “mistakes” but simply detours to the right path

4. To enjoy life to the fullest And just to give you a personal update, I’ll be going up to Sacramento May 14-17 to speak at a women’s conference. From there I’ll be going to Berkeley or Palo Alto, I haven’t decided. And Thailand is on my mind, will probably go this Fall, don’t know how and what, but like any other trip, I must step forward in faith.

When you’re gracious with yourself, you’ll allow others to be themselves around you. That’s the most beautiful form of relationship!

How to Create Your Business Plan for 2015

On January 6, 2015 By Rebekka LienIn business, resolutions, self-helpLeave a comment

Living in divine agenda is very easy. The first thing is to listen, to ask, to listen.

I create my life everyday based on what I hear. I spend an hour meditating everyday, minimum. These are questions I ask:

“What should I focus on today, what is the divine agenda today?” I try not to wake up with urgencies or the rush to get to something because that derives from fear. Today I hear “focus on yourself” and focus on writing. Why is my life method so different from other people and other life coaches? Because I know that the “ambitious just get it done” life is not blissful, it’s based on duty. I choose to follow my bliss and where there is pleasure, there is profit. Where there is ease, there is life.

I choose very carefully how I spend my time and with who.

As an enlightened highly conscious human being, people try to vent to me. I ask them to consider booking coaching sessions with me. Unless you have entered into my inner circle, I don’t allow you to throw garbage at me, that is part of being a focus, conscious person. If I am running around listening to peoples’ crap all day, I will not have energy to do the divine agenda of the day….and it’s the divine agenda that is most important because THAT is what I will reap from and that will benefit people the most. It’s a win win.

But most people have a hard time saying “no”. That is why you need a divine plan for 2015.

1. First thing is to know your vision.

My vision is to BE, BE authentic to myself and to empower others to live their authentic truth.

2. Second thing is to target your priorities for 2015.

a. My first priority is to nurture my heart and listen to my inner beauty and health

b. Nurture and feed my inner circle and be nurtured by them- remember people who are in your inner circle understand boundaries and also honor your heart, they aren’t judgmental but also tell you the truth to improve your being.

c. Divine work- Follow my bliss, 1. The arts- acting, writing, creating, books The Bex Show 2. Real Estate- to house and love people. You can get my ebook: How To Make Money Doing What You Love NOW!

As a direct correlation to a-c, profit flows freely and easily.

3. Live each day according to number 1, vision and 2, what your priorities are.

When an activity or a friend calls, ask yourself if it aligns with your current state of beauty and health. If you need time to recuperate or to be, say no. If you feel a divine push to go, there may be a divine encounter to be had. Have complete and utter focus but also allow yourself to have fun, because remember there is no profit where there are no pleasures to be had.

You ask, that’s not a business plan….yes, well it’s my business plan. I’ve been an entrepreneur my whole life and I can say that I’ve finally honed my inner knowing. I know when I’m too exhausted to entertain guests, I know when I’m ready to take over a dance floor, I know when my heart is crying for relaxation or adventure. I follow my bliss, but I’m also highly disciplined.

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Give Yourself Permission to Live

On December 23, 2014 By Rebekka LienIn self-helpLeave a comment

love

I’d rather be a weak vessel,

because a weak vessel can hear the sound of love and live out the love breathed into this world through me.

I’d rather be a weak vessel,

so that I can pack my bags and follow the sound of love at any whim.

I’d rather be a weak vessel,

because when I’m being, I can listen closely to the hearts of the hurting.

One of the most beautiful moments in life is when you realize you’re not alone. Yesterday in a deep conversation with a friend, I realized that I was not alone and that I needed to release myself from judgement. This is the inner talk we all battle with. What are we telling ourselves? I realized that I often try to control my life because I don’t want to make the mistakes I made in the past, but control comes from fear and where fear is, there is always death (death of self, death of aliveness). And where there is fear, there is no room for your true self to flourish.

And in the eyes of my friend, I realized her deep joy came from her deep sorrow, but from her sorrow, the ability to laugh and cry- acceptance in who she was and acceptance of others. And there was true beauty in that moment. Authentic human connection does not come from us teaching others to be “strong” but in connecting in our human “weaknesses”, it’s accepting that we are not perfect and allowing ourselves to be free and unhindered. For those few hours, I saw beauty in myself reflected through her. What is true about me that is truth in her?

I needed to surrender and release myself and that I did. Fully and completely. Even if it meant lying on my bathroom mat crying. We can all smile this Christmas, but the joys come from our deep human connection…not superficial talks, but celebrating the mess and the triumphs. It’s been a beautiful year, and I’m grateful for everyone that has made this year beautiful.

Have you watched The Bex Show?

On December 17, 2014December 17, 2014 By Rebekka LienIn self-helpLeave a comment

SOOOOO a casting director told me, you should just create your own show and I thought to myself “yah, totally, what am I waiting for?”

SO here’s THE BEX SHOW! I talk about everything from relationships, dating, art, culture, media to law of attraction.

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Love,

Bex

In Momentary Afflictions, Be. Renee Zellweger.

On October 21, 2014 By Rebekka LienIn philosophy, self- reflection, self-helpLeave a comment

All is well in our deepest longings, truth, meaningless, presents.

We seek what escapes us, what is momentary, status, symbols, reputation, what others think of us, it is all in vain. All of it is in vain if we do not have a strong anchor to who we really are.

When we leave all that we know, our culture, our people, our family even, we realize that happiness derives from within, from embracing the moments. And if not now, then when? Should we wait until we have it all together, until society deems our present situation redeemable? Until our community thinks we have made it? Until stability seems steady, sturdy? Until we have succeeded to climb up higher into the darkness of corporations and societal success? Until when will we let go and escape, find what we really want in life?

Some of us will never question what and why.

We will never escape into the woods, turn off electricity or connectedness to find our true connectivity. What keeps us alive, what fuels us, it’s definitely not looking at a celebrity (Renee Zellweger) who had plastic surgery. We are so concerned about what the celebrities are doing, we don’t look deeper. Isn’t it time that we question why depression and a sense of depravity has clouded our communities? Instead of judging people for changing their outer appearance, isn’t it time we have compassion on them or perhaps ask ourselves the same questions?

Why is it that people are killing themselves due to depression and why is it that people feel like they have to change themselves to please the judgements of our communities?

And hasn’t it worsened, because they tried to change their faces, they have been judged even MORE.

I have one word for our society, fucked up. And I beckon that we look within ourselves to see what’s growing there.

Please, look at our own hearts, our own words, the condition of our own soul.

So on a more prose note, OMG, I thought that Reneee had died by the facebook feeds. Seriously, turns out she just had plastic surgery. It was grotesque to read what people were writing about her while I’m here in Czech.

Letting go is not easy, but letting go, can be fun, can be freeing.