What To Do When You Feel Rejected By Your Parents

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“I feel like I can’t come home”- I said.

“Why?”- my mom said.

“It’s because you give me a look like I did something wrong, and then you accuse me”.

I spent many days out all day until night time.

I felt like a homeless prophet.

When I went to Korea, I realize I actually really wanted to go home but I felt like a burden. I called my friend and told her.

Everyone I met in Korea felt sort of estranged, and needed to be comforted. I ministered to young people who felt orphaned and estranged, homeless. One girl wanted to go back to Eastern Europe but whenever she went home, her mother would yell at her. The pain is too real. She decided to get a one year visa to work in Korea. 

So I felt like I couldn’t face the pain. God started to tell me to tell my mother the truth. The truth being…simple things like I don’t like it when you wash vegetables in the sink, without a bowl because I get really grossed out and can’t eat the food.

I used to just let things go but I realize I wasn’t being honest with her about things.

God’s been telling me to go out to eat a lot and a part of my mind will think in lack, but God would say “follow your heart”. My mom would yell at me for eating out, she’d tell me it was unhealthy and a waste of money.

For some reason I met a lot of nice strangers outside of home. 

If I didn’t listen to God, I’d probably be living on my own. I lived on my own for a few years and then God told me to move back home. 

When I was living alone I felt like an orphan, I was isolated and often sat drinking a beer with a microwave plate. I binge watched netflix and felt emotionally constipated. I had a boyfriend for a while but he wasn’t Christian so God eventually told me to break up with him. I felt like I was undeserving of any financial help and my mother was never the type I would tell my emotions to. 

I had freedom to do whatever I wanted, but again, I had an orphan mentality. 

Essentially I lived like an orphan and I felt like I had no parents. My dad had been well out of the picture and he lived in Taiwan.

But my heart was longing for home. I found comfort in God….and then God told me to move back home. For awhile my mother started giving me money and it was the first time I got money from her. I felt ashamed.

I was in my late twenties.

Then the guilt trip started coming.

“You’re almost 30, you should have a goal in life”.

“You should be ashamed of yourself”.

I mean there’s hundreds of accusations that came. Most of it was because she didn’t understand my ministry and she didn’t understand why God would tell me to rest, she wanted to see tangible results of my life.

If God didn’t tell me to get a job, I wasn’t going to get one and go outside of HIS PLANS to prove my mother wrong.

I’m a prophet who sets people free from condemnation, but here I was getting condemned by my own mother. That is why I have the anointing to break off the spirit of lack, because it’s a daily thing with me. 

My goal is always to follow Jesus’ voice first and foremost, not to please my mother, or anyone else. 

But she wouldn’t understand that, not right now anyway.

And a lot of people wouldn’t understand that.

The feeling of being misunderstood, accused and rejected is real though. Sure, she is a Christian, but her life is practical, pragmatic, logical.

In 2015 I moved back to my mother’s house. Then in 2018 God told me to go overseas and minister, relying on Him to provide for me. Since then I’ve helped thousands of people break free from shame and condemnation and understand their identity.

Yet, the enemy did not waiver in trying to attack me with accusations.

In late 2019 God sent me home and I thought God would allow me to move out right away, but no, He didn’t.

That’s where it started to hurt, the accusations started coming again.

No matter how much I tried to explain how I’m helping people, how I have these dreams, how I prophesy or even explain how Jesus can heal her, it’s like speaking to deaf ears. 

I realize, again, a prophet is not welcome in her own home.

And that it’s not my job to convince her. And I need to be okay with that. I need to know from the bottom of my heart how much I am loved by God. But I need to be okay with the fact that she may never understand.

And it’s not my job to convince her, it’s God’s job to heal her heart.

I was eating tacos by the street when a man pushed a baby cart appeared…it was a 6 month old baby, she was so cute.

I heard God say “I want you, I’ve always wanted you and you are not unwanted. You are precious to me”.

I don’t know who you are but I want you to know that-

You are precious. You are special. You are loved by God. He died on the cross for your sins and thought of you on that day. He is your loving Father, He is your provider and protector.

“I love you so much. You are not forgotten, you are the apple of my eyes”.

I tried really hard to tell my mother how I feel, but she immediately shuts down, she doesn’t want to talk about emotions. Maybe because it hurts too much.

I don’t really know how to talk about emotions with her either, but I’m trying.

Last of all-

You are enough in God’s eyes.

And if you need to cry, let it out, feel the pain, for God will comfort you.

If we define our identity by anything we can accomplish, it’s not grace.

Grace says you are a child of God because of Jesus’ sacrifice, not of our own works.

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Did The Prophets In The Bible Have Friends? How To Overcome Rejection.

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This is a real question I googled and apparently Jeremiah didn’t have many friends or family. In fact, he was not allowed to marry- wow God seriously?

But in reality my ministry begun alone (with God and His angels). 

I traversed across the ocean, flying to other countries with God’s voice leading me. No one else told me what to do and no one else was next to me.

No one talked to me everyday, God did though. I didn’t text someone 24/7 complaining that I had to walk around with my suitcase, being led by God’s voice. I didn’t have someone to complain to constantly that God was making me stay at hostels to minister to the youth. And yes maybe I did complain on Facebook but my job hasn’t been easy.

I don’t think people really want to hear the truth.

They want to hear it when nothing else worked in their life and they are desperate for change.

People want to hear the truth when they want to be set free and they realize wow my life sucks and I’m stuck. I need solutions.

I understand because I’ve been there. 

I struggled with my problems alone and rarely told any of my friends. But God did give me the truth and I listened.

When I was dating men that were unhealthy for me, I didn’t tell people. I didn’t tell my friends so that they couldn’t tell me what to do.

I’ve had to tell people-

  1. To break up with their partners, toxic husbands/wives, girlfriend, boyfriend
  2. To quit their job and leave their city
  3. To give money in order to break off the stronghold and spirit of lack

I’ve had to do things like-

  1. Confront 6-7 flight attendants about how one flight attendant treated me and that led me to minister to her, it was a divine appointment, she felt like she was lacking and I spoke words of life over her.
  2. Ask people if I could stay with them (someone I just met on a plane). I prophesied that they would become preachers. One woman had marital issues in her life for which God had a word to deliver her. Whether she listened or not I have no idea.
  3. Ask strangers for rides (they were divine appointments God set up for me)
  4. Ask strangers to buy me food (and yes it turned out they were divine appointments I was to prophesy over. One girl just saw someone die on the plane as she was a flight attendant so she started crying and I prayed over her and became her friend).
  5. Ask strangers for money (to break open their hearts and to conquer the fear of rejection and judgement, to break the religious spirit). God told me to ask this couple for money in New Zealand and the husband was fiercely religious and fiercely judgmental. He asked me “do you always ask people for money?” and then I had to explain that I used to work a lot but God has been teaching me the practice of humility and asking for help. Imagine the fear I felt and how intimidated I became after, but God showed me no I’m trying to break open this man’s heart.
  6. Tell my testimony at an open mic
  7. Ask a pastor of a church I just went into if I could share my testimony in front of the congregation- and the answer was no, but he did let me share it when I wasn’t on stage. Weird.
  8.  Wake up at 5am so I could run and meet a divine appointment God ordained at a bus stop
  9. Get on a bus, then God told me to get off so I could meet a drunk divine appointment who then I was supposed to go with to stay with (and it wasn’t him) but then I met a father and daughter I was supposed to stay with on the bus. God sent me to him to break off condemnation and free him from guilt.
  10. Ask to pray for a boy in a Macdonald’s playground in front of his mother and other people. And turns out two of the mothers were Christian and I got to share my testimony of following the Spirit with them.
  11. Ask two men to buy me an ice cream cone. And then they forgot so God told me to pursue them (like I walked inside the shop and asked them if they forgot about me) and it turns out the one from Africa was a lost sheep. At that time I did not even have much money to spare on an ice cream cone so God was using my need to force me to reach out to the divine appointments. I sat there and started praying over this man, I told him “God has not forgotten you”. I could feel his pain but he looked emotionless.
  12. Ask backpackers for help to pay for my hostel stay. The hostel claimed I didn’t yet pre-pay for my stay so I didn’t know what to do. I looked to my right and God said ask him for help. So I ended up visiting 10 groups of backpackers to ask for help and it ended up being opportunities for me to share what I do and prophesy over all of them, sharing Jesus with them.

13. Ask strangers if I can pray for them. Now God has “upgraded” my ways of ministering. Sometimes He will bring me to a restaurant that has awful food and ask me to return it so that I could end up ministering to them (not always, but it’s to break off any fear of men and what people will think of me AND NO I DON’T DO IT ALL THE TIME BECAUSE I’M AFRAID).

Do I complain to God? Yes, all the time. I even tell God that I hate Him sometimes. We have a very special relationship where HE knows He can trust me but what He tells me to do is never in my comfort zone.

Prophesy is meant to open peoples’ hearts to the reality of Jesus’ love for them. When people are willing to help or give to a prophet it means their hearts are open to God. One time I met a group of Indians and God said ask them for a donation. Imagine coming from a 1st world country and asking Indians for a donation.

Only one person gave, and he was the one who was most open to Jesus as they were all buddhist. 

But then you’d be surprise because in Mexico God had me ask a universalist for a donation and she openly said yes and hugged me.

I wasn’t rejected.

God doesn’t want us to live in fear of men. So he constantly forces me to walk out in boldness. And YES IT’S SCARY FOR ME, it’s not EASY. 

When I receive a donation, I also feel loved and accepted. I feel the grace of God over me. But then when I’m rejected I also learn that a no is not an indication of your worth and it builds tenacity inside of me to keep putting my heart out there and opening my heart.

I’ve had to approach strangers to pray for them and in turn I get yelled at.

The list goes on and there are thousands of stories.

But is it hard to be normal as a prophet? Well, you’re definitely not normal and what God tells you to do is far from normal. But you have to accept your purpose and calling and realize it’s okay to be alone sometimes. That God is always with you. And that most people may not understand you. But when you find your people, it’s extra special.

And yes you will face many fears. Fear of men, fear of the unknown, fear of lack, fear of judgement and rejection. And you will face them head on. There’s no going around it. 

I tried to just have fun at a wine bar in Cancun but found out I can’t really relate to normal people. Everyone just got really drunk and I felt a bit out of place. Three girls got married and signed a fake marriage certificate. One hopped on the bar table, it was funny but again I felt out of place.

But it’s possible to have fun as a prophet, it really is. You may not have fun the same way as others and it’s okay. I personally love dancing. I may not join with drunkenness but I can still have fun. Don’t get me wrong, I am not perfect and I have my moments.

I am a 31 year old virgin who has never had sex, though I’ve had my share of promiscuous moments. I’m like David in a sense. Imagine how hard it is to navigate the dating world, tell someone you are a prophet and then the questions ensue….

So whoever I marry needs to be fiercely close to God.

I’m not a saint who doesn’t like sex or wants to be unmarried, I’m a saint who wants to have sex and is waiting for my husband. So imagine navigating that.

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Two of the first people I ministered to in a hostel in Korea.

I met thousands of people but to most people not “friends” for life. So the sad part is I have to move on and know I’m not there to fit in or be accepted by people. I am accepted by God.

When you tell people the truth that they probably don’t want to hear, you’re seen as overbearing or even bossy. 

And the sad thing is they don’t realize you have emotions and feelings too. 

Yes prophets get hurt, please respect our boundaries. We are human too.

The conclusion is, yes we have friends but sometimes not many because people are afraid that we will tell them something they don’t want to hear, and it freaks people out….even if the truth will set them free! 

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Hello! My name is Rebekka Lien. I am a Life Coach, Heart Healer, and Speaker who believes in SETTING people free from fear and limiting beliefs that get people stuck in negative cycles.

I have worked with thousands of people around the world in 20 countries so my methods are sure fire ways to deliver people out of a lifetime of imprisonment. I am also a follower of Jesus so my words are Spirit-inspired and cuts to the core of the problems, with NO BS. It is called Prophecy, meaning I don’t even have to talk to you to know what is going on. God has the solution for you and He wants to set you free from the issues that keep hindering you from live your best life.

I was born in Hamburg, Germany, lived in Taipei, Taiwan and now in Los Angeles. I have traveled to 30 countries and hope to visit the whole world. My parents divorced when I was 8 and I have gone through a life time of healing and breaking off the spirit of lack and orphan in my life to come into the identity of being a child of God. You need to RULE in the authority God gave you.

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God Closes Doors To Protect You From People Who Don’t See Your Worth

 

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This VIDEO will change your life and how you VIEW REJECTION!

I have BEEN rejected so many times in my life. In fact, my elementary and middle school years were riddled with bullying and rejection. This continued on in my life as I was different wherever I went. I didn’t realize it was because of the light in me, my refusal to compromise my values and who I am.

I hope this video will change your life and how you view rejection. I know it hurts but when you see the light shinning in you, you’ll realize, GOD LOVES ME THE WAY I AM and HE CREATED ME THIS WAY FOR A PURPOSE! 

Be grateful when God hides you. “I know you have glory on you, but I don’t want the wrong people to see it and take advantage of it. They won’t cherish you, they won’t celebrate you, they’ll scheme and misuse you!” says the Lord.

Be grateful when God hides you because He WANTS YOU TO SEE YOUR WORTH before anyone else does so that YOU WILL KNOW how to negotiate for what you are worth when the time comes….you won’t settle LOW or SELL YOURSELF SHORT for the glory that is in you. 

Be grateful when God hides you because He is waiting for the RIGHT people and opportunities to open their eyes to you so that your anointing won’t be tainted by the greed and selfishness of the wrong people. 

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Love Is What You Are.

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I wasn’t going to write but my back started itching and it started itching behind knees too. My body is very reactive when I try to block emotions or something I really need to or want to do. Sometimes it’s the “I don’t want to deal with it right now” in me that blocks creativity because creativity is, well confronting and emotional. But you never know what will come.

This morning I had a revelation:

“You will not be defined by your career, work, your friends, your parents, your history, your accolades, your accomplishments, your house, your car, your clothes, your makeup, your speech….you will be defined as love“. 

Love is what you are. 

When you are love, you don’t have to force yourself to serve to show love or be loved, you are love.

You do things out of love because you are pure and untainted love. Thus, you will also choose not to do things that you don’t love or that causes your heart to weep.

There is no guilt or shame, just love.

So then why do we struggle?

We struggle because we do not accept that God loves us unconditionally – because we have been taught by society and perhaps our parents that “love is earned“.

If you don’t clean your room, you won’t get to eat.

If you are not a good girl, mommy won’t give you stickers or toys.

There always seems to be a condition to love and love seems like a business transaction if you grew up that way. A trade, that is what love seems to be in our world. 

There must be a better way- unconditional love.

That seems impossible, not impossible if you accept unconditional love from God. If you continue to receive this love, your heart will expand and cause you to love in impossible ways. 

I have forgiven myself when all I wanted to do was continue punishing myself.

I have forgiven people that hurt and wounded me in deep ways.

These were impossible things to me, but God opened my heart.

He has continued to show me that His love is unconditional, unending, restful and beautiful. 

If we look at Jesus, He wasn’t defined by people. He wouldn’t even allow people to label Him or force Him to be something He wasn’t because it was not His time yet-  “Then Jesus, realizing that they were about to come and make Him king by force, withdrew again to a mountain by Himself.” John 6:15.

He walked the earth as love. Knowing who He was, He didn’t need people to applaud Him or tell Him who He was, He knew who He was. He didn’t need people to like Him, in fact He was rejected by most and He continued to love even the haters.

That is radical love.

Love is what you are. 

You need not prove yourself, defend yourself, force yourself. You are love, that is what you are. 

In a world of self-promotion, don’t you think living as pure love will naturally attract the right people?

When we serve to be loved or to love, we are acting out of lack and a half empty cup. 

But when we know that we are love, we live out of abundance and an overflowing cup.