I’ve gone on so many dates this year it’s kind of crazy.
I’ve learned so much about men and so much about myself, so much about communicating with men. There’s been casualties and I’ve been a casualty myself but I’ve healed from a lot of trauma from the past.
I encourage singles to put yourself out there and not to be afraid of the process. I remember a girl prophesying over me “you’re going up the last mountain and it’ll be difficult but worth it”. I didn’t realize the last mountain was a relational mountain. It had to do with men.
When you’re going on dates you want to be liked by someone, but at the end of the day you have to be honest about what you want.
What do you want?
You’re like….okay I want this, but I feel loved by this person. The heart wants what it wants. How come I go for guys that are not available? And so when you communicate you start to realize why.
Maybe you don’t feel deserving of a love that is your own.
Maybe you’re actually scared of being loved by someone.
Maybe you’re terrified of getting hurt.
You will get hurt when you date. You will hurt others when you date. When you tell them “I only see you as a friend” it’s a disappointment to them. It hurt me too when I had to tell someone that.
At the end of the day you have to look at the truth...but why is it that humans don’t like the truth? Because it’s uncomfortable. It throws you from the known into the unknown.
If you stay with someone because it’s comfortable but you see all the red flags, you are in your comfort zone. At least you know there is someone who can be there for you.
When you realize the truth and face it, you may be alone and you
WILL face the pain of separation.
You’re going to disappoint people when you date.
You will tell the truth to them….whether it’s “I only see you as a friend” or “I’m not attracted to you” (this is something I had to tell a guy because he really didn’t get it).
Or maybe it’s “I see you as a father figure” (also something I have said to a guy).
The truth can hurt but when we face it, we will be pushed to go forward into what is our truth and genuine self and we will ATTRACT what we choose to truly be – 100% raw, genuine, unique you.
My profile says that I love Jesus and I am waiting until marriage to have sex, please do not try to change my mind. I want to get married and have 2 kids.
Have you stepped into your truth?
Do you believe YOU CAN HAVE WHAT YOU WANT?
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