5 Unconventional Steps To Creating Your Business- Don’t Compare Yourself

On November 5, 2013November 5, 2013 By Rebekka LienIn business, entrepreneur6 Comments

Hey Friends!

It has been a few days since I last blogged. As you know, I am busy creating new projects and new ventures. In less than 3 weeks, I will be on a plane to Taiwan. I’ll be there to find my half brother who I have never meet as well as grow my clothing business. I am looking for people who believe in my vision and who has a few bucks to spare! Here’s the link: http://www.whenyouwish.com/project/taiwanbrother

Here is my vision for the future: run for local office, become a public figure, speak internationally, change the world by telling my story! Here’s my timeline of what was, what is and to come:

Now, on to my 3rd step to creating your business- don’t compare yourself!

Yes, it’s okay to analyze other peoples’ business, and to even imitate a few aspects of their business, but listen to your own heart…don’t compare! Just because another business is thriving now and yours isn’t doesn’t meant that you should give up. Growing up, I heard a lot of discouragements from my elders.

“Do you want to end up like us?….we followed our dreams and look at us now!”

I always wondered whether they were right. Yet, I realize….they just gave up TOO SOON. If dreams were easily reached, everyone would be living their dreams. I think that anything worth fighting for is going to be difficult at times, but worth it.

So now that you have a vision, faith, and you are not comparing yourself but believing firmly in your own vision of what you want…you are truly growing your tree.

Mine looks like this, you can create yours by drawing a tree with your growing array of skills, talents and passions.

13 Days of Meditation- Day 13- Who You Were Are Signs Of Who You Want To Be

On October 7, 2013October 7, 2013 By Rebekka LienIn business, entrepreneurLeave a comment

Most people will say, “Don’t look into the past” and “don’t dig up your grave”.

Actually, after waking up from a dream about my high school friend and remembering who I was back then, reminded me of what I may have lost during the journey of youth. When I was in high school, I was very feisty and strong-headed. I never let anyone step on me and fought for what was right. I fought for people too because I saw injustice in classes.

Back then, I was voted most unique and was known to be either special, weird or unique. Sometimes, I was not seen in a positive light, but I accepted the attention. I used to wear un-matching socks, one high and one low. One vivid memory was when I first one of my best friends, I was wearing a superwoman knee sock. Those were my favorite socks. On the other leg, I wore a low-sock. I ruled back then. I knew everything I wanted to do in life and rocked life to the core.

10 years later, I am still the same person, but perhaps- like you, I have gotten a little jaded from work and responsibilities. When everyone started getting married, I thought to myself, “it would be so easy to get married right now”- being independent is not easy. Trying to make it on your own is not easy, that’s why God created us for companionship. Perhaps your road is to become the next Donald Trump, then you have to accept the responsibility of your calling. That doesn’t mean you have to be lonely, but you just have to be strong in who you are and not accept any less. That means you can not settle for marrying rich, but perhaps you have to create your own path and when you get there, show women that you don’t have to rely on men to get you there….that God has given us gifts and talents to make it there ourselves too.

Otherwise, you may end up having kids and blame them for blocking you from your dreams….when in actuality, you chose that path. In actuality we all do, we all choose a path that determines part of our destiny.

Who was I? I was a hot-headed warrior. I had dreams that I fought for. After 2 years of being self-employed, I can see why I have become a little less hot-headed- broken dreams and friendships/relationships, failed businesses, a taste of hunger and strife, a taste of true adulthood. It is not always easy! Who was I? I was very confident in my calling and identity. No one could doubt that, yet 10 years later, I waver because my life does not always reflect my confidence, I waver because people around me may not always support my hot-headed dreams.

I choose to be that hot-headed dreamer and warrior again. I choose to let go of what I need to let go of to move forward. Sometimes we need to see that transition means we have to be emptied out first in order for a new revelation to fill us.

Do you waver from the hot-headed dreamer that you used to be?

Who you were are signs of who you want to be still. Don’t give up. Don’t let life destroy you, stand up from the ashes and keep fighting, even if your leg or arm is still healing, even if you are jaded. Life matures you, don’t be afraid to grow in wisdom. Just don’t give up on yourself. Ever.

Little me in Germany

The wild musician

The spunky non-conformist

The solo backpacker and vegabond/world traveler

The Fashion Designer & Trend Setter

The who gives a hoot let’s just have fun Business, Real Estate, Creative Entrepreneur Woman

The Professional Picture, with all my past and experiences wrapped into one. Even though I might be wearing black, I am still the spunky non-conforming business woman!

Do you waver from the hot-headed dreamer that you used to be? What has jaded you and how have you managed to translate your story of who you are into one professional image?

Comment below, I would love to hear from you personally! 🙂

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13 Days of Meditation- Day 12 -You Are the Average of 5 People

On October 6, 2013October 6, 2013 By Rebekka LienIn entrepreneurLeave a comment

You are the average of 5 people that you spend time with. Jim Rohn

We rarely think to clean out our friends list right? But we clean up our finances, we clean out our closets, we evaluate our goals and change our tactics to improve our careers, but we often don’t evaluate our friendships. There are moments in life where we become close with certain friends, but especially when your paths change and your vision leads you onto another path (not necessarily a better path, just another path), you must learn to let go of that friendship.

When I was younger, I remember times that people would tell me to calm down. I always had this fire and passion, but it was too difficult for others to absorb. I learned to detain this fire.

However, I realize I am detaining a fire that is too big to selfishly hold onto.

This fire is a fire for love, passion, life, an overflowing life, justice, human rights, womens’ rights, and much more. I know this won’t be an easy path, it has never been an easy path…but at the same time I have realized that my passion will lead me far in life. Instead of suppressing the fire, I need to set it on the mountain so others can glean from it as well.

So next time a friend tells you to calm down, perhaps it is time to evaluate a new path and new friends.

Write down 5 people you want to spend a majority of your time with- do they share similar values? Do you add to each other? Is it a two way street?

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13 Days of Meditation- Day 11- How To Be IN Relationship With An Entrepreneur

On October 1, 2013October 1, 2013 By Rebekka LienIn business, entrepreneurLeave a comment

What Is Love? See above! My brainstorm of the day.

I got this ingenious IDEA to write a blog post about how TO BE IN RELATIONSHIP with an entrepreneur, whether you are their significant other, boss, friend, relatives, parents, etc…..

BIG DO’s FOR HOW TO BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH AN ENTREPRENEUR:

1. Give them space and support to grow and be who they want to be. Entrepreneurs change constantly and have a NEED to expand, learn, grow, travel.

2. Encourage them, constantly. There are not a lot of people doing what we want to do in life…some of us want to change the world, some of us want to be wealthy and live a better life than we used to live, some of us want to innovate new technology or do something against the norm. We are constantly pushing against the grain, we receive negative criticisms and have climbed mountains to find a place of sanctuary where we can create our business, art or life. If you want to be in relationship with an entrepreneur, learn to encourage even if you don’t UNDERSTAND what they’re thinking.

3. PROMOTE THEM! Promote them like mad, especially when they have no backers, angel investors, big corporations behind them…promote them if you believe in them. When they become Asian Oprah, they will remember you and give you dibs (referring to myself). SHARE their blog posts, retweet their tweets, tell people about them, be their cheerleader and they will be forever grateful. Angels will reward you GREATLY for your support. Trust me! When I have a talk show, I will invite all my supporters and get them front row seats with free gratis and free VIP room treatment.

BIG DON’TS FOR HOW TO BE IN RELATIONSHIP WITH AN ENTREPRENEUR

1. Don’t Tell Us What To Do (In a direct way)– I don’t know about you, but most entrepreneurs I know are hard headed and rebellious towards society in certain ways. The reason we were able to get THIS FAR is because we did not listen and conform to the norm. We’re CRAZY Einstein’s. If you have suggestions, you might want to say “Have you thought about…..this idea or that idea?”, “Have you thought about …..marketing your business…this way or that?” If you want to tell us something directly, let us trust you enough to hear you. It takes time, but it is worth the effort! Ultimately entrepreneurs understand their own vision and ideas the best, so let them decide what to do.

2. Don’t UNDERVALUE their business- One time these acquaintances bought my friend and I drinks, commenting “don’t worry, we have jobs”….as if we did not. Both of us had our own business, but the acquaintances had 9 to 5 jobs. Please, that is a DON’T. Even if you want to buy us lunch, there is no need to say such things. We have jobs in which we are the boss and will never get fired from ourselves.

3. Don’t Compare Entrepreneurs- Okay, we’re not Tony Robbins, Oprah or Richard Branson, YET. Just because we’re not there yet, does not mean we give up now. All of them had a tough road they walked and conquered. Listen, all entrepreneurs have a UNIQUE path and calling which ONLY they know in their hearts. We are sensitive about our dreams and really hope you understand.

Love your entrepreneur or share this with your loved ones!

rebekkalien@gmail.com

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The Creative Business Guru

PS- ONE QUESTION, please comment below- What is your version of earthly Utopia. I think all entrepreneurs envision their own UTOPIA. My Utopia involves….

1. Not waking up early to drive in traffic.

2. Doing things WHEN I WANT TO

3. Grocery shopping when everyone else is working so I don’t have to wait in line for hours

4. Watching the sun rise while working

5. Being able to attend events on weekdays and wake up a little later because attending events is part of my work (networking).

6. Having GREAT community that shares my vision and are also entrepreneurial.

7. Not having people tell me what to do

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13 Days of Meditation- Day 10- 6 Ways To Solve Your Problems

On September 30, 2013September 30, 2013 By Rebekka LienIn entrepreneur2 Comments

Writing 13 days of meditation is not easy, 13 days has required more discipline than I expected. I skipped a few days and sporadicly started writing again. I am going to draw today’s blog. I find that the older I get, the more obsessive I get about figuring my life out and trying to SOLVE problems in my life.

Follow my drawing below…

1. Problem: I have issues, problems and don’t know how to deal!!!

2. What should I do?????? (we usually obsess about it and thus, end up with depression and mental health issues).

3. STOP THINKING!

4. Draw. Run and exercise. Commune and discuss with friends, seek advice or simply talk to people. Create (music, art, poetry, literature, spoken word, etc). Explore (go somewhere completely new, take a new route to work, do something completely different, try something new, go to a new restaurant or cafe, make a point of meeting with friends you don’t usually hang out with).

5. Have faith everything will work out….

Finally, remember that THERE IS A WAY TO DO ANYTHING YOU WANT IN LIFE!

You think the problem is TOO big for you to solve, well, maybe sitting on your couch and thinking is not such a great problem solving technique. Try doing something different, your eyes might just open to new ideas…to do something completely NEW!

For example, you may be stressed out about paying bills- where can you cut corners, how can you create more income with multiple streams of revenue? You may be having trouble with finding the right person- maybe look somewhere you have never been, do something you don’t normally feel comfortable doing, perhaps a Zumba class? You may be pursuing a client, but they are not pouncing, perhaps focus on other clients and don’t stubbornly stick to one way of marketing yourself…..

The key is to CONTINUE innovating….seeking new methods….learning….NEVER STOP growing. You want to be creative in every capacity. Our human brain learns fast, if you stop learning you will have an old pattern, an old path of thinking. You want to create new paths constantly so your mind does not get stuck in a rut.

Do not be so hard on yourself, enjoy life and shoot me an email or comment below if this has helped or if you need advice. rebekkalien@gmail.com

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13 Days of Meditation- Day 6- Your Life Is Lived From The Inside Out

On September 21, 2013September 21, 2013 By Rebekka LienIn entrepreneur2 Comments

Your Life Is Lived From The Inside Out

Somethings won’t change until you change on the inside.

Until you forgive that one person you need to forgive, until you let go of an outcome that is actually limiting you.

Until you let go and let the universe. Until you relax a little bit.

Until you forgive yourself a little more, until you give yourself a break and let go of that pedestal you put yourself on.

Somethings just won’t change until your inner world changes.

Have faith and you will see the outer world change with the force that is unstoppable.

Lately, I have been convincing a friend to pursue his dreams. It seems almost impossible to help him make the next step. This friend seems to want to know what his life will look like after he takes that next step. He wants to know the day to day tasks that he has to complete in his newfound freedom, a new career. I am in awe of this.

And I find that most people do want to know everything, from what will happen next to what will happen in the next 10 years. We chart our lives as though we can predict it….but as much as we plan, we won’t be able to change our circumstances if we still live in a spirit of lack, a spirit of jealousy, a spirit of hate and bitterness. We must become aware that we carry these heavy spirits which stop us from moving forward in life.

We will achieve one thing after another without true happiness.

We will still feel that gnawing emptiness.

We must seek something deeper, something more substantial, something we can’t buy, something spiritual.

Seek and you will find.

I am on this journey with you friend!

Your journey friend,

Rebekka

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, or worn. It is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace & gratitude.” – Denis Waitley

13 Days of Mediation – Day 5 – Life Is About Taking Risks

On September 19, 2013September 19, 2013 By Rebekka LienIn entrepreneurLeave a comment

“A ship is always safe at the shore – but that is NOT what it

is built for.” ― Albert Einstein

In the beginning of the year, I had decided to buy a betta fish because I wanted something new in life and also something alive to come home to. I named the fish Allen because I drove by Allen Ave in Pasadena.

It grew and became a beautiful purple fish. I wanted to prove to myself that I could take care of life. When I was young, I had turtles and fishes, but somehow they all died fast (according to my memory). Every time a fish died, I felt a bit of my soul sadden. Our family had a dog for one day, named Arnold. My mom decided to return it because it was clingy like a kid and she could not bear having another kid around the house.

I think I literally cried until my eyes looked like a puff fish.

After my fishes Allen and Catalina died on the same day, I had dreams of Allen swimming.

I was relieved and sad that they had died, and felt that it was better for me to focus on work, rather than spend time changing out water and feeding a fish.

The next day, my boyfriend came over. He was holding a petco bag that I assumed was his dinner. “Is that your dinner?” – I asked. Turns out, IT WAS A FISH! He bought me a goldfish which was much bigger than my betta fish. I had never seen a gold fish like this. I was honestly touched and surprised.

Looks like the fish is getting too big for its tank- maybe it is symbolic that I am becoming a new fish, too big for my tank. I need to get a bigger tank for my life. Perhaps YOU are growing too big for your tank, whether it is your immediate circle of influence, workplace, or life goals. Maybe you need to set new visions, expand to a bigger office, get a bigger loan and investors for your business, make more like-minded friends, quit your job and start a business…think BIGGER.

Another lesson I gleaned from this story? Life is about trying over and over again. I heard Donald Trump went bankrupt 4 times! Look at where he is now! He is far more wiser and smarter because of his experiences. Maybe you have been hurt over a broken relationship, scarred by bad people, made mistakes that made you NOT want to try it again…don’t give up. Keep trying.

I backpacked in the jungles of Ecuador and throughout Brazil by myself last year. If I had listened to all the fears that people were spewing, trying to warn me of dangers and diseases, I would not have experienced the incredible time of my life, listening to birds in the dark night and watching the rapids with native Ecuadoreans.

If I had listened to people asking me how I was going to afford rent when I quit my full time job, I would not be a realtor and entrepreneur today. I would not be waking up on a Thursday morning at 8:20 AM in my pajamas writing this blog (In FACT, I would be getting ready for work and driving in LA traffic- Thank GOD I don’t have to do that).

How HAVE YOU become the person you are because you CHOSE to try again, to try bigger things despite what people said?

How can you try again today?

My NEW FRIEND Frederick

13 Days of Mediation- Day 4- How To Change The World For FREE

On September 19, 2013September 19, 2013 By Rebekka LienIn entrepreneurLeave a comment

Today I decided to record a video for you!

I did not script this video…to show you that it is OKAY to be authentic with your speech.

HOW TO CHANGE THE WORLD FOR FREE:

How Will You Change the World?

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Prepping For Workshop- See You Tomorrow!

On August 4, 2013August 4, 2013 By Rebekka LienIn business, entrepreneurLeave a comment

On most days, I am a Realtor, but I also like to speak at events created by collaborating with local businesses such as Modest Fly Art Gallery located in the little unpretentious corner of Tujunga. Of course if you enter, you will notice the beautiful chandeliers and decorations that boasts of art classes and art shows. Iren is an amazing Art Center Grad that happened to receive one of my emails….get this, I actually found her card at an Art Center show and inputted her email into my list. I know that is technically considered spam, but she actually showed up at my art show.

From there on, we met and we decided to collaborate on amazing life changing events such as tomorrows’- Create The Life You Want Workshop….which consists of:

EVERYTHING which will kick off your dream life.

Exactly.

I’m not exaggerating.

You will create a detailed and EVEN visual plan to achieve all that you have EVER desired.

How?

Listen, speak, brainstorm and let me HELP you create the life you want, in just 2 hours.

See you tomorrow- Register: http://modestflyartgallery.com/workshops-seminars/

August 4, 10-12noon

Modest Fly Art Studio Gallery

7578 Foothill Boulevard, Tujunga, California 91042

$55 at the door or online

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Intro Video on How To Sell Products and Services

On June 7, 2013 By Rebekka LienIn business, entrepreneurLeave a comment

Enjoy! Purchase Tickets Today: http://sdcselling-eac2.eventbrite.com/

Blog: http://www.rebekkalien.com

Learn HOW to start selling your Products and Services with Super Dope Chicks- a partnership between Jasmine Powers of Ambitious Diva (www.ambitiousdiva.com) and Rebekka Lien of Unlock Your Destiny (www.rebekkalien.com)

+ How to buy great stuff to sell – Buying, testing, trends, moving product
+ How to sell on ebay?
+ How to create your online/offline store (WordPress plugins, HTML, ecommerce platforms)
+ Marketing & PR to build your buzz
+ Finding people who will buy your goods
+ Creating a blueprint to a successful life/career
+ Inventory and Biz Stuff – Inventory Management, Accounting, Tools

Panelists:

Rebekka Lien, Unlock Your Destiny & Rebekka Lien

Jasmine Powers, Ambitious Diva

Tiffany La Vonne, Tiffany La Vonne Couture

Other funky fresh retailers and design professionals to TBD

Purchase tickets for $25 here- INVEST IN YOURSELF and START YOUR OWN BUSINESS NOW. http://sdcselling-eac2.eventbrite.com/

FACEBOOK EVENT: https://www.facebook.com/events/127791127422084/