Waiting For Marriage To Have Sex

I’m not a perfect person but I’ve been made righteous by the blood of Jesus.

I just want to say that I didn’t have will power to resist sex because of my own strength, but because of supernatural grace.

Lest anyone boast right?

The only reason I’ve been able to wait until marriage to have sex is because of the grace of God, not because of my own mind or will power.

I think I want to share that with you because someone may think I’m more of a saint because of my ability to wait. When I was 12 years old I accepted Jesus into my heart. I became a spirit filled believer. When I was young I decided I would wait until marriage, not because anyone told me to but because I wanted to protect my heart from users who only wanted to sleep with me because of a need for physical release.

Basically I wanted to protect my heart from unnecessary pain.

So lest you think I have so much self-control, it is really the power of the holy spirit in me to help me resist lust. 

Does that mean I am a prude? No, I’ve done other things, I’ve also been disloyal before in relationships. The reason I want to share this with you is because I want to show you that I am not perfect, but again I’ve been made righteous by the blood of Jesus.

If you have a porn addiction or some kind of addiction, Jesus CAN FREE YOU and HEAL YOU. I promise you this!

I used to look down at certain people for certain things but God has really shown me that I am far from perfect and that I needed to show grace to people….

So if you are living in fear because of the coronavirus, I want to show you grace….you are free in Christ Jesus. I’m not going to be mad anymore at those who decide to lock your kids in the house because of the quarantine (even though it is child abuse to me), I will pray for you.

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Growing In Emotional Maturity

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I find this a juxtaposition of “isolation” on the right versus “community” on the left side. This was taken in Santa Monica.

Every day that goes by I realize I never confronted my dad.

Just let him get away with it. Just let those people who abandoned and walked away get away with it. 

That was also my pattern. I let people step on me and abuse me, mistreated me but I didn’t speak up for myself. I didn’t say how I felt. It would become so much I’d block them, cut them off. That was my pattern. Because I didn’t know how to communicate how I felt. In my mom’s eyes, I was always wrong. I was always the scapegoat for all her stress and problems. Both my brother and I were. 

So I silenced myself and got shingles when I was 14. 

I endured the yelling and the temper fits. 

“I deserve to be punished” – that’s how I felt.

“I am the reason for all her problems and stress”

“I am a burden”

These were lies that were ingrained into me because of my upbringing. My mother was emotionally unstable. She probably didn’t talk to a therapist about how she felt. She was always blaming my dad. I heard things like “he’s evil, he’s a bad person”.

These were said to me-

“you’re an adult, get over it”

“you should just forgive and forget”

“You keep living in the past”

“Maybe you shouldn’t be so honest and blunt because it may push him away”

I realized that I shouldn’t be blamed for feeling how I feel. No one should throw bible verses at you to quiet and silence your emotions. It’s too easy to do that. That’s why a lot of Christians are emotionally immature. They allow people to step on them thinking that’s Christ-like, it’s being loving…but it’s not.

Love is SPEAKING UP FOR YOURSELF. LOVE IS RESPECTING YOURSELF. LOVE IS VALUING YOUR OPINIONS AND EMOTIONS! 

We have a soul, we have a spirit, we have emotions….the emotional part of ourselves is what is often not nurtured and taken care of because of emotionally immature parents. 

We were taught to-

“get over it”

“don’t cry”

“be positive”

These are blanket statements to shut people up. It keeps people in isolation and is a trap from the devil to dishonor and disrespect your heart. 

Love is communicating your truth and having someone say “I still love you”.

Love is being understood, even if that truth is not what you want to hear.

It’s okay to say-

“I don’t really understand your point of view, but I can agree to disagree”

“I understand we are different people and we have different ways of doing things, but how you do things is just as valuable as the way I do things”

Here’s what I learned-

  1. If someone does not have a relationship with you, they are just acquaintances….they don’t have a right to tell you what to do nor even give input into your life. They don’t know your heart.
  2. A true love friendship, relationship is a conversation, not a monologue or a tyranny of someone trying to control you and tell you what to do.

Remember, a relationship is a constant conversation, it’s communication. It has nothing to do with right or wrong. People who have shut down their emotions and heart often become religious because they don’t accept their emotions as valid.

Your emotions are valid. If you are hurt, it is valid. If you are angry, it is valid.

My dad never responds to my messages or calls but I realize…I can still express how I feel. I can send messages, I can record messages. I can still speak how I feel.

It’s not a relationship, no. But it says to my heart “my thoughts and emotions matter”.

Even if your parents passed away or if someone walked away from you, you can record a message or write a letter to tell them how you feel. That says to your heart “your opinion and emotions matter”. 

I just sent messages to a friend who cut me off and it felt good to release how I felt.

I am learning how to be in emotional mature friendships. It’s not always easy but telling the truth will set you free. 

Relationship isn’t telling someone what to do. 

Relationship is a conversation, it’s constant communication of how you feel. 

Relationship isn’t about being right or wrong but honoring someone’s heart and accepting where they are in their hearts without pushing them or forcing them to be somewhere they are not.

Relationship is accepting where they are, even if that’s a place of pain and hurt.

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Unsure But Faithful

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“Okay God, if you want me to go then give me more confirmation”

I fall asleep and I have dreams with clear directions about how to get there.

When I follow God’s voice, sometimes I’m unsure. Maybe it’s the fear that sets in or uncertainty. Yesterday I went to the beach but midway I felt my heart go “go home”. I felt fear. What am I supposed to expect. It’s late, why is the bus taking so long?

But I get on the train, the Lord tells me “the middle train” and I sit right near this Cambodian ex-gang member that I met on the bus one night. He was also Christian. I couldn’t believe it. He said he moved to San Pedro. And here we met again in a train at Union Station.

I can trust what I am hearing, but at times Satan tries to lie to me and tell me I’m all alone.

I had a dream that I found my blue gym bag and it said “just do it”. Yesterday I saw a woman wearing “just do it” leggings. 

When the Lord tells us to go He is asking us to have faith and trust He is our provider, our GPS at all times, and that He will keep us safe. He will also send people our way at all times. 

Just when I think I’m alone, God always sends a divine appointment and I realize that “Yes I am on the right path”. Doubt creeps in pretty easily, especially if someone is following you on the train, and you don’t feel safe at times. That happened one day.

Yesterday I took the train from Pasadena to Downtown and I heard “move” when I sat in the first car. I heard “middle car” so I moved to the middle car and immediately there was a man who started talking to me.

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I am pretty sensitive to God’s voice but there are times I want to sulk or stay in my flesh.

This morning the Lord said –

“What are you doing?”

“Laying here”

“It’s time to go”

“Can you pick someone else?”

“I will take you places you can’t even imagine, all you have to do is be my mouthpiece”

“Sometimes I just want to be normal and not have people persecuting me”

But I know the truth is, I would be really bored if I lived a normal life. 

I’m not sure if I like seeing people manifest all the time, I’m not sure if I like fear trying to attack me when I’m following God everyday, I’m not sure if I want my heart to be open at all times (which is what ministering to people is…I’m constantly feeling emotions, crying for people, caring), I’m not sure if I liked being stretched everyday, I’m not sure if I want to trust God all the time….

But whenever I do trust God, the outcome is always good. That’s why I don’t like not listening. I have always seen God pull through, set me free from a limiting mindset, bless me, or open my heart. He has sent me to thousands of people all around the world. I am so rich with love. 

I’m not sure if I want to feel though, to feel the immense well of pain, love, laughter, emotions that comes with loving. And I meet people on a daily basis.

Yesterday I missed my stop but I got off and heard “hollywood”. A guy told me he was gorgeous and I asked what his tattoos meant. He said “it’s a bible verse”. I said I do ministry and God led me to him.

He said “I’m backslidden though”. We got on the bus and got off at Ralphs. He said he was just selling marajuana and other things….I said “meth?” “Yes” “See I’m a prophet, I know”.

Strangely, he also got his phone stolen.

A lot of issues and addictions come from feeling unloved and unwanted by our parents and God sends me to show people “hey, go home, hey you are wanted, hey it’s okay to reach out for help, hey you’re worthy of love, you’re a success, God is proud of you, there is no shame”.

God is stretching me, my understanding of love.

People I never thought I had the capacity to love, I’m learning to love. The drug addicts, the prostitutes, the pimps even, the gangsters, the cheats, the liars, the homeless because we are all fallen, we were all with sin but Jesus died on the cross for our sins, so no one is better.

I have a fear of being cold. Sometimes I wear what the Lord tells me to. Yesterday He told me to wear shorts so I did. It was really short so I caught people staring at me and felt unsafe. When I got to the beach I heard “change” so I changed into my dress. When I came out I saw this beautiful woman. I said hi to her. She came to me “do you have pants?”

“I said, actually I do! God told me to wear shorts” so I took off my shorts from underneath my dress and gave it to her. She was so happy. I asked if she was homeless and she said “yes”. I said “do you have a bra?” She said “no it’s okay”. I took off my sports bra because my dress didn’t really require a bra. She put it on right away and tried to give me back her shirt and I said “no you’re cold, you need it”. She tried to leave it but she came back for it.

Then I gave her $5 (grace) and she said here “have $2 (double portion)”.

She kept saying “thank you”. And I felt this warmth. I started sweating and felt really hot. I realize it was God saying “don’t worry about being cold”. That night someone called a lyft for me after spending time with them, so I didn’t even need my sweater. I wish I obeyed and just gave my sweater to her.

God’s ways really isn’t our ways and when we trust God completely we will see that He always provides what we need.

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Street Ministry Testimonies

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This man lives in his car in Santa Monica – it was the second time I saw him and I decided to stop and talk to him
Y’all don’t even know how much I cried and how much I got persecuted, not knowing how I was going to survive ministering to people all over the world with a suitcase like I was homeless. Yet God always provided. Now I’m actually able to smile. I’m still learning to forgive those that misunderstood me and rejected and judged me because of the new wineskin of God.
Why am I willing to minister to people for no pay was beyond people. Because the Kingdom of God is priceless and eternal. There is no $ amount on it and y’all know that I’m rich in Christ Jesus though I’ve weathered intense situations where I didn’t know where I was going to sleep or what I was going to eat but I just followed God’s voice and people would question me because I wasn’t sent by a church.
They didn’t see my heart nor the power in Christ Jesus. They didn’t see that I was willing to allow my heart to be torn open and cry with those who were hurting, they judged from afar, safe from their homes while I was out on the streets.
Now I receive more love from the people who need it then the Pharisees. I’m always praying for their eyes to be open but I’m charging forward, not looking behind me.

How does my day usually look?

I wake up, then I hear “go to the beach or go to some city”. I was walking to Office Depot to print out a label and saw a man in his truck and God said “ask for a ride”.

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He said “no” but then came back to pick me up. He dropped me off at Office Depot and then I went to the post office. On the road a man started talking to me. He said he wanted to get me lunch. Upon talking to him I found out his dad died so I told him that he had been made whole by Jesus’ sacrifice.

He started crying and asking God “why me? why did my dad die?”

I felt a bit emotionless for some reason, I guess it was too much to handle but I prayed for him and said that he needed to cry it out and not suck back his tears. He had a work accident where he fell of the second floor and broke his leg in two so I layed hands and prayed healing over him.

I went into the supermarket to pee and came out and he was gone.

Now I still heard go to Pasadena. I was debating on taking the bus or renting a car and I heard take the bus. There on the bus I met a guy who was called to be an actor. I got off the bus and took the train to Union Station to head to the beach. I was followed by a creepy guy and had to report him to the police. I was about to get on the train when a previous divine appointment got off the train.

As I remembered clearly I heard the Lord say “middle train” so I actually approached the middle train and bumped right into him.

Then a guy that I met before on the train came out. I was so surprised. He asked to borrow my phone to call his mom as his got stolen yesterday. Later on his mom called me and said he had been missing for a few days and explained he was going through some stuff with drinking.
Her mom and I talked for more than an hour about my story and hers. She said she had been praying that he would meet a kind soul to remind him to go home. And God sent me!
He had been talking about me and about prophesy to her after we had met a week or so ago on the train. Basically he complimented on my jumper and we talked for awhile. He went home and told her about me and at first she said something inappropriate like “was she drunk too?”
I prophesied to her that she would preach and tell her story. She also needed to quit her job which was a confirmation to her. She grew up catholic but had been filled with the Holy Spirit and had always been judged by the church, etc.
She had her son when she was 13 and lived on buses trying to survive. She had been through a crazy amount of trials
I got off the bus and saw a guy with a mohawk. I mean there are so many lost sheep on the streets. I usually know who they are by how they dress or the feeling I get.
I decided to walk home and then another guy I met on the bus before walked behind me. Him and his friend was walking home so I decided to join them. I learned that his mom was an alcoholic that abused him growing up. He was not Christian but believed in God.
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Prophetic Word- 
Don’t give up hope, some have given up hope on marriage and dating. But don’t give up!

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Overcoming Abuse

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This is a young man I ministered to and bumped into again on the train. The Lord told me to go to the beach and this man was also going there, but he was going to a shelter to shower because he did not feel safe to go home to a military christian home where there were many rules. I asked if he ever talked to his parents about how he felt and he said no, usually he just isolates himself. I said that he was worthy of love and he thanked me. I find that many young people turn to drugs because they feel condemned and not enough because of their parents’ rules and regulations. They need to know they are loved and not condemned.

I told my mom yesterday….a relationship isn’t about rules but communicating how you feel. 

I was emotionally constipated for 4 days. It is rare for me not to cry everyday recently. Even when I pray sometimes I start crying.

But I couldn’t cry.

My mom was yelling at me and telling me I was crazy, she didn’t believe I was hearing God and she told me I needed to see a psychiatrist or a doctor.

I asked her “is this my water bottle?”

She said “how would I know? I never drink from water bottles!” She yelled. She starts yelling and I have no idea why. She’s probably stressed about something else but I have no idea what. She won’t talk about her emotions or feelings so I get the end of that.

I feel like the walking dead, I feel like a zombie. I don’t understand how a mother can be like that.

I feel dead inside, and suddenly I hear “I want to die”. I start casting out a spirit of death. I need to get out the house.

I get in the car and drive. I call my friend and ask her to encourage me. She says “God loves you, you are beautiful, people love you” and that’s when I break down in tears after 4 days. 

I felt unwanted, that’s why. Everything I did or didn’t do was wrong to my mom. I felt like I was not enough and wasn’t doing enough.

I remember “yes I’m doing enough and I am enough”.

I said through my tears “when she yells at me I feel unwanted and unloved”.

Again, I had a dream about a phone being lost or broken, it usually has to do with communication. So I wake up with this feeling in my heart.

God tells me to tell her how I feel and I do, but it’s met with the same response of blame or shame. 

She wants to hide from her emotions, she wants to run and not feel and the best way for her to do that is to stay busy. Yet her knees hurt.

So when will you stop running and just feel the emotions?

God loves you, He will never leave nor forsake you.

I grew up feeling blamed and shunned for problems that were not my own so I would people please or mommy please because I thought it was my fault that they were angry, not realizing it had nothing to do with me. 

It’s taken a long journey of learning to speak my mind even when it doesn’t feel safe.

You are safe with me, says God. 

Come to me and cast your cares on me. You are safe here with me. 

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Prophetic Word- Come Out Of The Belly Of The Fish

PROPHETIC WORD/Singing-
“COME OUT OF THE BELLY OF THE FISH”

Come out of hiding and be vulnerable. You’ve been running away from me for too long, says the Lord.

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“Jonah and the Whale,” oil by Herbert Mandel

“People are not listening to me anymore, they’re listening to the news.”- Jesus

“They’re running the other direction because it is safer in peoples’ eyes. 

Don’t be afraid to speak up and speak the truth”.

Why are you afraid of the storm when I have already calmed it.

Close the windows to fear and the news. 

I just wanted to share this prophetic word again-

Prophetic word/dream-
I had a dream I was at my old baptist church and someone put a urn on the altar. They were worshipping death and putting death on the throne!!!! I said “no! What are you doing???” There was no one opposing and I only found one friend who agreed with me.
I also saw my single friend taking off her pants which means control and responsibility and God showing me and others in the dream not to take responsibility for anyone.
You are valuable.
You are worthy of love.
I see people pointing fingers at you telling you you’re wrong. This is how I’ve felt recently people accusing me of going out. The Lord says to me “keep living in freedom. You’re not doing anything wrong. I have not given you a spirit of fear. Fear is not from me. Keep setting people free from the bondage of fear”.
He showed me lots of demons whispering lies in people’s’ minds and using them to accuse. It’s a spirit of accusation. People are dying because of the spirit of death and I see people huddled in their homes agreeing with death.
“Yes death is king” I hear people say in their minds. “The news is real” I hear people say.
I see people agreeing with what they see, as they agree with it, the spirit of death comes and has power over them. There are demons saying “you’re going to die if you don’t put on masks and gloves, the world is not safe, stay away from people”.
“Come our of agreement!!!!!! Says the Lord!!!”
I have not given you a spirit of death or fear but of sound mind! Come out of agreement! Start prophesying life and speak life! Use your authority!!!
Where the spirit is there is freedom!
Plead the blood of Jesus over yourself and your family. The blood is king! The blood is king!
“People are not listening”- I
“It’s not your job to convince them, let me do the work, rest. I love you”- God
“okay”.
You don’t have to do anything out of fear.
God will never force you to do something out of fear, out of lack. He wants you to know that you are loved. You are my child. You are always enough in my eyes. Come feast on my love.
I love you says the Lord. I won’t force you to handle more than you want to. You are not a slave. You are not a captive, you are free.
Come feast on my joy. I give you a life of joy, not a life of obligation.
What are you doing out of obligation?
You are not responsible for peoples’ lives or emotions, let them go.
Oh and come feast on my joy.
It’s so good.
I only have consuming love for you.
You are not a slave, not an orphan but a child.
You are so loved.
I met another guy who was also Christian and he said his ex cheated on him.
Before I saw a Tesla and saw a man eating inside. I was afraid to talk to him but God told me to go back. I waved and said I was a Christian and god told me to talk to him. He turned out to be Christian too. I asked if he was scared of people because he was eating in his car and he said yes, the world is evil. He was scared and thus eating alone. I knew he was a lost sheep and tried to talk to him but he was in a hurry picking up food.
I managed to give him my website.
I could feel any fear of rejection breaking off.
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You did no wrong in loving. 


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Telling Your Truth Will Set You Free

Define What You Want and You Will Get It! – Husband/Wife

I realize that I kept saying “oh man, I keep meeting guys who are emotionally unavailable” but I realized through meeting men that I was emotionally unavailable.

When I met a guy who was open and vulnerable it scared me because I was afraid to lose that person. I was afraid that I couldn’t meet their expectations. An emotionally distant man felt safe. I wouldn’t get hurt. But the truth is, I did get hurt because I was sorely neglected in my emotions.

Neglect is a form of abuse to the heart. I know this because my dad doesn’t talk to me. I did not see him for 10 years but even after seeing him again, each time he disappears and never talks to me again….like we don’t know each other.

I was also not into Christian men because from church experiences, I felt that Christian men put religious rules and expectations on me. They were interested in my performance externally (like in leadership), versus my heart.

They would say “well, we expect more of you because you are a role model”. I don’t want that. I want someone who will love me for who I am.

I also noticed when I talked to Christian men they often wanted to prove themselves to me since I left everything behind to follow Jesus or I felt that they often wanted a prophetic word from me versus wanting to get to know me as a human being. They wanted to use me to solve problems in their life. They didn’t trust their heart, they’d ask me “what should I do?”

One time I had dinner with a Christian man and all he talked about was the end of the world and one world order. 

I was so tired, I said “don’t you have any hobbies? Can we talk about normal things now?”

I felt that Christian men talked about God like 24 hours, not just with guys, but girls too.

It’s like we are not taught to be a normal human being at church or that talking about anything else is ungodly.

Recently I walked past a Christian man who owns a laundry mat and he told me that some of the things I write about is “ungodly”. I said “like what?” He said “oral sex”. I was stunned. I don’t remember writing about it but I could have written about it. That is something I have experienced in dating, it’s not something I shout about from the top of the roof but I have become more honest about my past and I know that I am righteous in Christ Jesus.

So I told him that, and he tried to invite me to his church like going to his church will save me from ungodliness. I have been cleansed of all “ungodliness” by the blood of Jesus. And sex is not ungodly, God made sex. Anyways…

I have been made righteous by the blood of Jesus, not by my works.

Well, that conversation really frustrated me.

So apparently if we act like we are saints, we are more godly? No, we’ve been made right by the blood of Jesus. 

That’s why I want to be more honest….why is it that the church act like they don’t have a sex drive and they are embarrassed to talk about certain topics. I mean there are tons of people living in shame because they are addicted to porn.

If we can talk about things, the bondage of shame and guilt will leave….and people can come into the light and see that God loves them for who they are. 

It is only through relationship and knowing that you are loved for who you are (despite your past or habits) that you can experience unconditional love. In love, addictions are broken off. Tell someone your truth. Come into the light.

Addictions start from a place of not being loved for who you are. It begins in demands versus understanding. Addictions come from shame and guilt, not grace. 

When we preach the complete finished work of God, grace- people will understand and be set free from addictions.

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Are You Ready For Your Husband/Wife?

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I want a guy who asks me how my day was? What my hopes and dreams are? How am I feeling?

A man, not a boy. A man who cares about me, not just his ego. A man who wants to take care of me, make me feel loved. He is not egotistical, self-centered. He is able to be vulnerable and emotional. He is in touch with his emotions and know what he is feeling. He can feel his heart.

“How are you doing?” not just “what did you eat for dinner?”

And he listens, not just talks.

So many guys talk, they go on long monologues about things I’m not interested in. I want a guy to say “I love you, and you’re the only one I want to be with”. I’m the only love interest in his life, not another girl, another pretty face.

He sees my value and my worth. He sees that I am more than anything he owns on this earth, more than gold or dollar signs. 

He is willing to die for me and show that he cares, by listening, by talking, by conversing. He puts emotional connection first, not physical connection. Because without emotional connection, nothing else matters.

I want a man, not a boy. A man is not afraid of tears, he is in touch with his emotions even if he seems weak in peoples’ eyes. His vulnerability is his strength, he is willing to admit when he is sad or angry. He is willing to admit he feels jealous. But he won’t control, he will communicate his fears.

Are you willing to be vulnerable enough to admit that –

  1. You’re scared
  2. You miss someone
  3. You don’t want to seem like a fool but here’s all of your emotions
  4. You’re insecure
  5. Be honest and tell someone how you actually feel

Over the last few months God has taught me so much about what I want and how to be honest with people I meet, at any cost. This means that I have told my truth even though it may have hurt someone.

I want to be –

  1. Understood
  2. Heard
  3. Cared for

I have met plenty of self- centered men that only like me for my beauty or for how I make them feel.

The truth is – they should be interested in your dreams too, they should support you in what you want to do. 

A man who supports your dreams should ask you this-

  1. How can I help?
  2. How do you need to be loved?
  3. How can I make you feel secure?

and they communicate their emotions to you. They don’t run away from confrontation, they meet you half way. They show up.

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Let’s Talk About Dating!!!!!

When I was young, I was taught that God will just bring your husband.

You just had to sit there and wait.

LOL.

But what God has taught me in the last few years is that when you have triggers and issues related to men (for me) since I did not grow up with my dad and had many fears about marriage— God will graciously bring what you need to heal those wounds.

God has brought me many divine appointments to show me that there are good men out there. He has taught me how to communicate and relate to a male. He has shown me why some males have trouble communicating their emotions and what they struggle with.

Here were my fears –

  1. That someone will disappear and walk away (a fear of loss).
  2. I felt that people didn’t care about me, and instead of conveying how they felt….they disappeared (again).
  3. That if I got emotionally close to someone and it was a male, they had to be my future husband….because if I got close to someone who wasn’t my husband then well, they’d end up liking me or vice versa…and that was ultimately bad…since you would have to separate from each other. So better not to take the chance. And also because I had a close guy friend that I thought liked me, but ultimately got a girlfriend (so I read the cues wrong but God protected me).

What I have learned to do in the last years-

  1. Tell a guy if I liked him or was attracted to him. Be vulnerable and tell him how I felt even if he did not like me back. This has helped me to overcome any fear of rejection. 
  2. Tell a guy if he was not my future husband and brace the reactions, even if it was bad.
  3. Tell the truth at all times. 

So I think churches don’t teach that stuff at all. 

Churches teach “avoid” at all costs. They don’t teach honesty. They don’t teach people how to confront issues and bring up the issue. What I learned from church was “just avoid dating. Only date the guy if he’s going to be your husband”.

Dating is really about getting to know a person. If after a date, or a coffee date….he is not what you’re looking for, it’s okay to tell the truth and move on! Perhaps a lot of people are scared to date because they’re scared of rejection or getting their heart broken.

Dating isn’t about avoiding the truth, it’s about telling the truth! Some people are scared to date because they’re scared to hurt someone….so they just disappear or ghost and there are a lot of unresolved issues because of that. 

I’ve seen that the more honest and direct you are, the better.

Some people settle because they think “this is good enough”.

But you deserve the BEST! 

So why not put yourself out there. It’s not about getting it right. It’s about living in freedom and expressing love.

I have told plenty of people that they are attractive or that they are kind and loving. I have told people that they are amazing. Why not? And I’ve been vulnerable too, and I’ve been hurt. But why live with fear?

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Prophetic Word- Sing A NEW SONG! Pioneers RISE!

I find it so hilarious that people are posting negative comments on my blog. Just know that I don’t read negative comments. I delete them.

Sing a new song! Pioneers arise!

Don’t stay silent!

Don’t stay muzzled! God is releasing a new song through you and it’s going to SHIFT AND CHANGE atmospheres! Keep speaking truth and life! 

Keep shifting and changing atmospheres!

Don’t submit to fear! Yes! Don’t submit!

ROAR! SPEAK UP!

 

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