(I took this photo 8 years ago in shanghai. I am reminded of how much I have grown because of Christ power)
I felt like God wanted me to write this for the women out there. This is especially for you. This post pertains to being free of needing a man.
Growing up, I thought it would be so nice to have a boyfriend. They would fulfill all my needs, as I saw in comic books or romance novels.
I soon found out that boys brought more trouble than security.
Liking a guy was like being put in a small boat on a stormy ocean.
I often found myself attracted to guys with similar heart wounds. Whether it was a guy with mother issues or a guy with “I’m not good enough” issue, the issues were plenty. As long as I was still unhealed from these wounds, they would come attracted to the festering wound, hoping to find solace in a similar void.
I also got bored easily. Once this guy no longer filled my fantasy world of romance and love, I would be attracted to another man.
I felt powerful when I could hurt someone, because I did not need to be vulnerable.
In Genesis 3, Eve was subjected to the punishment of sin.
“To the woman He said,
……your desire will be for your husband,
And he will rule over you.”
When Jesus came, He came to FREE women from that punishment.
So when you accept Jesus into your life, your life comes back to how God created you originally- free from punishment and sin.
This means you no longer desire to worship a man, but you have your mind back. You worship God and you have autonomy in your emotions. You no longer need a man in your life to fulfill your emotional voids; longing for stability, security, acceptance…all that comes from God.
You know you are enough and you are not lacking a better half.
You become whole again under the freedom of Christ.
After my last relationship, I dated people but had enough. I got to a point where I realized I just needed to surrender to God and make Him my everything.
In surrendering, He completely healed my heart of soul wounds and voids that would attract wounded men.
I have been single for 4 years and am completely fine with it. Though the enemy may try to whisper that I’m not enough, God’s truth comes and says “you are enough” in Christ Jesus.
It sounds crazy, but in being whole I actually repelled wounded men and no longer became a magnet for brokenness.
I could stand on my own for years and not feel the affect of the enemy trying to persuade me to fall for another emotionally absent man.
This post is for any women who feel forever jaded.
Give your heart to God and you will never look back. You will never need to subject yourself to that punishment of being soul tied to a wounded soul.
The man will not rule over you like a haunted ghost.
You will be able to get your mind and life back. God wants you free.