Month: March 2013

How To Build Influence In Today’s Cyber World

On By Rebekka LienIn business, faith, self- reflectionLeave a comment

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Believe it OR NOT.

I am STILL a STRONG believer in FACE TO FACE contact.

If you haven’t noticed, there are SO many millions of people marketing their online content, selling goods, making millions….this is great, but…

I still believe in LONG TERM impact rather than quick results. 

As human beings, we are prone to NOT trust people.

How do you build INFLUENCE in today’s cyber world? Just a few tips…

1. Attend events, parties, functions that relate to what you love, what you’re passionate about. AUTHENTICITY is key in today’s over populated blogs and websites. People don’t listen until you listen to them first. This means, making GENUINE friendships IN person. It’s been amazing to meet people I’ve met on Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook in person- nothing is impossible these days. Of course, you can’t meet every single person, but FACE TO FACE contact definitely builds trust, chemistry, and connection.

2. Help Others & They’ll Help YOU in return – Just because I am going to be like Oprah one day doesn’t mean I have to be snobby about it (LOL!!). I believe giving someone a FREE connection, sending opportunities to people, networking the right people….giving students, newbies a chance, is a great way of being a mentor. In turn, they will support YOU and broadcast you because of your love and generosity. 

3. GET GOOD at INTEGRATING YOUR LIFE – Get good at mentioning your work, your business….when you pay someone for their service or goods, make sure to mention your product or service too. Ask for them to promote you, give them your business card.

Places I have given out my business cards: Clubs, Bars, House Parties, Relative Functions, Work Events, Cafes, Banks (to the teller), on the bus, on the train, etc

I also leave stacks of my flyers and business cards at every cafe I go to. Every outing is an opportunity to expand, to build influence. The right person will pick up your card at the right time. Don’t ever give up, always be ready to promote yourself.

4. Be A Teacher – when you teach, you become an EXPERT at what you do. I will be creating a video about this. I was at a cross roads in my life and didn’t know what to do to generate income, plus I hated the 9 to 5. I drew a chart with 3 columns.

1 was my Skills and Talents. I wrote down everything I knew how to do and was good at.

2 was my PASSION– what excites YOU? What can you remember in the past that created a fire in your heart?

3 was MY VISION– The ultimate purpose and fire of your life. WHAT is your vision? Mine was to empower and help others be who they were meant to be…I want to help people SOAR to their FULLEST and beyond what they can imagine. That is my vision.

I linked all 3 and decided that I could teach everything that I was good at. Then birthed my business. You can discover your life calling too!

Living OUT OF DESIRE RATHER THAN SHOULDS

On By Rebekka LienIn business, faith, love, psychology, self- reflectionLeave a comment

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I don’t believe in the word “should”. 

I believe in listening to my inner voice and listening to my body when it says that it is tired. However, I am NOT saying that you should listen when it’s trying to be lazy. There is a major difference here.

Most of us grew up thinking that success only comes from hard work. I believe this is true, partially.

I believe success COMES from SMART work, not HARD work. 

For example, if you had a really bad system for working, and you kept doing the same thing 40 hours a week, you’re not being SMART….you’re just wasting time.

Most human beings probably can’t concentrate for more than 1.5 – 2 hours.

That is WHY I believe we should listen to our bodies and mind and feelings. When we need a break, we will start to lose focus. Do jumping jacks, run around the block.

For me, I go and watch a movie at the $2 movie theater or I walk around the neighborhood. I hang out with friends at random parts of my week, but that allows for some relaxation and fun….because once I’m back home, I am WORKING FRIEND!

When I have snapped back from having fun, I WANT to work.

I believe that HUMAN BEINGS are MOTIVATED by desire. 

What do I mean by this?

If I tell you to sit at a desk for 10 hours a day, would you want to? Probably not.

If I tell you to sit and work on a project that you could potentially reap $20,000 from, would you do it? Yes.

Desire. You desire that money. For something, whatever it is.

If we could get RID of the SHOULDS and the CONTROL, we can start motivating people by knowing their inner DESIRES. Start to observe what your friends, your boss, your coworkers, your mom or dad, your relatives, your husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend DESIRE.

Most of us desire a better life.

This BETTER LIFE is DIFFERENT for everyone. 

My desire is to live a life of leisure and smart work. I want to work smart, and reap immensely for my talent and skill. I desire to love and help people with my talent. It’s not really about “should”, I think it’s about conquering the fears that stand in the way of our desires….my desire is to build successful coaching and real estate businesses.

Like any other human being, I have fears too. I have fears of rejection, fears of failure, but everyday, I push through….because I believe in life, in myself, in people, in God, in promises fulfilled.

I believe in my childhood dreams, do you?

HOW TO SEW A SKIRT CLASS THIS SATURDAY 3pm!

On By Rebekka LienIn art, FashionLeave a comment

HOW TO SEW A SKIRT CLASS THIS SATURDAY 3pm!

Learn How: THIS SATURDAY (3/16) AT 3pm

Learn how to create your OWN DESIGNER SKIRT at ClassROOM LA in LOS ANGELES with me.

This is a fun class designed for beginner to intermediate students! Bring your own fabric or pick from our Classroom collection to create your own gathered skirt.

You will learn how to create a simple skirt with elastic and casing, and add embellishments, trims, lace and buttons to spunk up your skirt. Taught by FIDM Alumni and Fashion Designer Rebekka Lien.

Click here to SAVE YOUR SPOT for only $75 – http://www.theclassroomla.com/Events/index.php

ONLY 6 SPOTS LEFT!

Questions: email me at rebekkalien@gmail.com
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How To Look At Distractions

On By Rebekka LienIn UncategorizedLeave a comment

We Americans are taught to push, push, push until we have what we want.

Then, our lives get ROCKED. Hard. 

We feel bad in that moment, because we didn’t persevere or push on when we’re in the face of trauma. Perhaps we took a break from life and hid in our safe place. 

I believe that distractions, interferences, fights, hardship, sudden circumstances can be eye-openers to what we truly want, what we truly don’t want, and wake up calls.

These wake up calls can be:

+ A call to have fun and to relaxe, take a break, to laugh and not be so serious

+ A call to look at what has not been working & to try another method 

+ A call to examine self and not necessary the work project at hand

+ A call to be good to yourself and to love yourself 

 

3 BIG TIPS TO START YOUR OWN BUSINESS

On By Rebekka LienIn businessLeave a comment

1. Don’t wait until everything is PERFECT– because life is not perfect and your life will always have ups and downs, take it from me!! I quit my full time job when I had just moved out for one month. Of course I had rent to pay, but somehow I followed MY GUTS.

If you wait for life to be PERFECT, you’ll NEVER DO anything worth doing.

2. Who said you had to GET A BIG LOAN to start your business? Start Small.

By business, you don’t need to be this BIG CEO of this BIG corporation….you just need to have your own idea, and run with it. Even if you are working out of your 200 sq ft studio and using your kitchen counter to create great crafts, writing your epic poems, or developing your own software.

By starting small, you have little risk to make big mistakes that may cost your whole life savings- if you have any. By starting small, you build on strong foundations and learn from every mistake you make.

3. Be a WEIRDO ALREADY. 

The number one fear people have is HOW PEOPLE WILL VIEW THEM. Don’t give a crap about what people think. IN THE END, it is YOUR LIFE, not theirs to live. The weirder you are, the more people will notice you. Trust me, I was voted MOST UNIQUE in high school. Did I care a lot before? YES. Do I sometimes STILL care? Yes.

PS- 4 BONUS TIP:

Write a general schedule, a general plan and goals….but let the SPIRIT take you. Allow ROOM to meander, flow in the zone.

I started my business (Business of Rebekka Lien) by trying things. I’m still trying things everyday. I was inspired by street vendors selling feather earrings in Australia, started reselling myself, wholesaled, then sold used items, etc. I tried everything. Then I started teaching, and when one didn’t pay enough, I started hiring myself to teach private lessons.

I got job promoted pretty fast- BY MYSELF.

ImageWhen I first started, I had no idea if what I was doing was “THE RIGHT WAY”.

There’s no right way. There’s only one way, the one you try.

The Definition of Bitch.

On By Rebekka LienIn Uncategorized1 Comment

In our day and age, sometimes it is difficult to elaborate what it means to be a woman. How are we different from men? 

Well, we have more hormones, we’re the mother of children, we’re feminine, we’re intuitive, great at multi-tasking and negotiating, and are usually the people compassionate to do something about the poor, the sick, the weak, the children, etc.

In a more modern sense, by the likes of society, women have been categorized.

There’s two categories-

1. Bitches

2. Non- bitches, or so called normal woman

I was talking to my friend the other day, she mentioned “of course we become bitches, because men will not stop harassing us, so we have to look straight forward, not glance around or even smile- otherwise they’ll get the wrong idea”. I thought that was such a strong commentary on our society today. 

Second, our educational system and/or culture does not teach us how to speak up, wisely for our needs. Especially, women. Men are raised to know what they need and want, and to go after it without much hindrance. 

What happens then? Women become “bitches” because we have emotional outbursts over needs that have not been met….buried so deep within we don’t even know it’s there. Women, we can’t even elaborate it ourselves and we keep giving until we’re empty.

My question is, how do we speak up for our needs without coming off as a Bitch. 

By knowing what we need FIRST and elaborating that truth to the world and helping other women to clarify the desires deep within their hearts.